First forum post but some of you know me from other interactions here. Curious about something that some of you may have noticed as well. Having just recently become divorced and started dating again, I noticed that dating at 37 is not the same as dating was many years ago. First, not all guys are built the same. We all knew that. Really what I am curious about is this. After five minutes of foreplay and petting my ex was always very hard and erect. My latest lover, who is like 12 years younger than me, can tease me and pet me and kiss for like 20 or 30 minutes and his cock is still hanging down in all its glory. Don't get me wrong it is a beautiful sight and a very erotic cock. It is not until I suck on it for several minutes or rub my pussy on it does it get hard. Do you notice how some guys get hard quicker than others? Which turns you on more, a hard cock after just a bit of petting or one that waits till direct contact? For me it depends on the mood. Sometimes it is fun to just play with it and other times I want it raging and on fire ready to explode. You?
actually this is something I have noticed more often when viewing porn- I just thought those guys are having sex SO much it takes a bit longer to get hard. My personal preference, 95% of the time I want that baby raging hard within a very short time. This however, relates to my own insecurities more than anything else. If it took a guy a long time to get hard with me, I would fear I was not exciting enough. So far, it hasn't occurred, thankfully. :tongue:
my ex-girlfriend actually brought this up. before she mentioned it, i had never noticed. once we started kissing or fooling around, i'd get rock hard immediately. that initial erection would last for varying amounts of time. we engaged in a lot of foreplay, and it would go limp and get hard again several times before we got to intercourse. if she wanted it raging hard when she wanted to "hop on," she'd have had to time it right, i guess. i think i'd only be concerned if it was staying soft when the moment of truth came, lol.
I get hard at the drop of a hat. If I look at a sexy woman I often get hard in an instant. I get hard watching sexy music videos, or even just thinking erotic thoughts. It wouldn't take any five minutes of petting to get me hard. Maybe thirty seconds. I'm not bragging. I'm just that excitable most of the time. I can't help it. I sometimes wish I weren't. Can be embarrasing. Last fall a coworker told me about a hot chick he saw on the way to the job. He started giving a very vivid descrition of her and her sexy clothing. I told him "that's enough I don't want to hear it". I could feel myself starting to get hard and I didn't want to do that in front of him.
I should clarify. My new lover was hard as a rock the first time within a minute. He has his moments. It is sexy knowing it is rock hard when I pull his jeans down. Just curious
I love it when a guy gets hard quickly. Generally when sexual things begin, I'm rarin' to go... I don't want to have to wait around for him. :tongue:
In my yut I was a walkin' talkin' erection through mid 20's. On 247. Subsequently, If Testicle Reservoir is running high my erection is instantaneous and constant until the first over spill. If running dry it will tend to remain soft and get hard w/ stimulation and require continued stimulation to maintain the erection. The more depleted the store the more attention required. The more sex I have the less of a shower too. When really depleted and the boys are hanging baggy, I feel a gurgling motion in the sac. I attributed this to production being kicked into gear. Anyone else feel/experience this?
Interesting thread..... I'm a bit "reactionary" - am hard in an instant when aroused. And a GOOD KISS will bring me to attention in a second. But, I do think all guys are different. Whatever's in the brain that ignites the chemicals, I guess. I have met some that react as the OP says... takes the real mechanical manipulation of the cock to get them going. A sexy smile, the right caress, an amazing kiss, a strong embrace: these all do it for me.... I may not get the spontaneous erections of when I was 19 (like it going up for absolutely no reason, or just the slightest shift in the pants, etc... ) but I do have insti-response to the right stimuli.... I've had a couple times that I've gone semi-hard while getting head... not that I wasn't enjoying it, just drifting off to never-never land. Hard for the "giver" to understand that. They thought I wasn't excited.... And for the gay guys: Doesn't it seem odd when someone goes soft while you're penetrating them. Am always rock-hard when I'm the one receiving.... I think it's a similar thing though...
I much prefer a guy that gets hard almost at once - to me that's a sign he's excited and that he finds what we're doing stimulating on a mental level as well. If it takes physical stimulation to actually get him hard I subconsciounsly start wondering where his head is and if it's only his body that is involved and reacting to what I'm doing to him. That to me would be off-putting as I want him there in mind and spirit as well. It is sexy to open up a guys pants, find him already with a raging hard-on that bounces out to greet you when you pull down the top of his underwear. Likewise it can be sexy on occasion to surprise him, find him soft, take him in your mouth and feel him growing in there.
My toyboy gets hard as soon as I look at him in a certain way... it's so horny when he pushes it against me through his pants so I can't fail to notice he wants attention. His erection does wane sometimes if he's concentrating hard on something else, like going down on me.
I think with a beautiful woman like yourself, it would be an ill man indeed who did not have a rock hard cock for you Va lk yr ie. There could be other circumstances as to why a man is not reacting to stimulation. As with a woman there is a mind body correlation. If you are stessed or nervous or your thoughts are elsewhere you may lose stimulation. It is always best when both parties are happy and into great sex!
That's funny that you should bring this up, because last night my wife mentioned how much she likes it when I am immediately hard. We had just had dinner together and when we got back and started kissing standing up next to the bed I got totally hard in my pants. I pushed her to sit down and undid my belt and pants so she could suck me. I was totally hard then. Then I went down on her for a long time, and after she has cum a couple of times I like to do this thing where I sit up, grab her by her thighs and pull her down on the bed so her pussy is closer to my cock. Then I slide in smooth and gently, but firm and all the way in on the first stroke. She's soaking wet and ready to rest from the orgasms at this point, but it gets her off when I just push her around and do what I want to with her. Anyway, a couple of strokes into that, she says, "I love it when you're totally hard already and just start fucking me."
