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how do you deal with toxic people in your life? I've recently decided to burn the bridges between me and the toxic people in my life. i deleted them of facebook and if i see them in person i will pretend they are invisible, like if they say 'hi' i'll just walk past without a glance.

How do other people deal with toxic people in their lives??
 

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roughly the same way, but there are SO MANY haters and negative people out there that sometimes I feel like a minority. So I tend to put up with the ones that are less bad than the others.
 

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I don't consider "haters" and "toxic relationships" to be the same thing.
Haters you can just ignore them, stay polite when you can't totally ignore them, but keep interaction as limited as possible.
With a real toxic relationship, the point is you just can't run away, at least without turning half of your life upside down, that's why they can become really noxious... And they are the most complicated to deal with...
 

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how do you deal with toxic people in your life? I've recently decided to burn the bridges between me and the toxic people in my life. i deleted them of facebook and if i see them in person i will pretend they are invisible, like if they say 'hi' i'll just walk past without a glance.

You are being a hater and toxic with these actions.
 

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Sounds like they're a real pain matey, shame
think your doing the right thing, if your up to it, confront them and TELL em why, maybe doing them a favour .. depends if you have enuf compassion left, for there ignorance i geuss ..
BEST Au guy ..

me, i have ignored a couple mostly also, told one str up, he never realized, i felt a bit indifferent over that?, sheet sounds as tho been surrounded by em ha
 

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Avoid, but feel free to humiliate them, if necessary
They deserve nothing else.
Turning the other cheek, is BS in this case
It more than likely wont affect them, there inbuilt obstinacy will always prevail, for there sanity ..
 

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Hate is probably the worst and ugliest word ever conceived. Sadly, there are many, many miserable people in the world who enjoy and thrive on being unhappy, sarcastic and toxic. They get high by hurting people, in both word or deed.

Talking to them is useless because they will always be that way. I just forgive them and move on. I know I cannot change them and have no desire to try and do so. I like being happy and healthy, which are two key characteristic traits they will never be able to relate to.
 

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how do you deal with toxic people in your life? I've recently decided to burn the bridges between me and the toxic people in my life. i deleted them of facebook and if i see them in person i will pretend they are invisible, like if they say 'hi' i'll just walk past without a glance.

How do other people deal with toxic people in their lives??

I had a friend who was very disrespectful to me but I tolerated his rude behavior because we had been friends for more than 10 years. I knew that he was an opportunist since the beginning of our friendship. Then one day, I called him and had a conversation about my financial situation and joblessness. All of a sudden he got agitated and started a verbal argument with me, leading to a verbal fight between me and him. And I told him not to call me anymore but he kept calling me several times a day. Finally I have had enough of his phone harassment and told him that I would call the police if he would continue the harassment. Now I am glad that he doesn't call me anymore. It was quite an experience.
 

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i agree their are various ways to handle situations that come up. i usually try to ask and see what the problem is. if it's something i've done and 'm wrong, i'll apologize.

i run into people that i knew a long time ago. i say "hi" and most say at least "hi" back, some ignore me. after a few times of saying "hi" , I quit saying "hi" and walk on. a few yrs ago, at my HS reunion, I was talking to a guy I knew. he looked at my name tag, and shook his head. I don't remember you, he said. but 2 wks later when I walked on his used car lot, he knew who I was. I don't like games.

14 yrs ago, we had some "friends" spread rumors & lies about us. I tried to get to the bottom of it, but had no luck. I started ignoring these people...that's what they were doing to us in our presence. after a few months, they wanted everything to go back the way it was before their lies, I refused w/out an explanation. they refused that, so I said fuck'em. with "friends" like that who needs enemies??
 

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how do you deal with toxic people in your life? I've recently decided to burn the bridges between me and the toxic people in my life. i deleted them of facebook and if i see them in person i will pretend they are invisible, like if they say 'hi' i'll just walk past without a glance.

How do other people deal with toxic people in their lives??

Letting people go that aren't beneficial in your life is good.


I know you are gonna do whatever you want. But I just want to say...I disagree with the social ostracism part (giving people the silent treatment.). That is kinda shitty. If you ever been the one who was EVER socially ostracized...that is the weirdest situation to ever be in. And if you ever do it to someone and they know what you are doing...you better hope they aren't retaliative in nature. I have known people to have really fucked some people up because of social ostracism towards them.


It is healthier to let people know you are moving on. And possibly the reasons why you are moving on. Then suggest they move on as well.