Help me become the perfect bottom

[Loveloveloveee]

Hi everyone

I’m a bit curious about something and I wanted to ask the people here directly.

I’m thinking about doing a small “experiment” just to understand different preferences in the community. On platforms like this, people often have ideas of what their ideal partner looks like or how they behave, but we don’t always talk about it openly.

So I’m wondering: what would your “perfect bottom” be like?

For context, I’m personally pretty submissive and I enjoy being in that kind of dynamic, so it made me curious about what different people actually like or look for.

Some things I’d be interested to hear about:

Personality: shy, confident, talkative, quiet, playful, obedient, etc.
Physical preferences: more muscular, slim, thicker lower body, balanced physique, etc.
Style / vibe: masc, fem, somewhere in between, or it doesn’t matter
Energy in a dynamic: very submissive, teasing, affectionate, bratty, etc.
Fitness / flexibility: does that matter to you or not?
Anything else that makes someone your ideal bottom

There’s no right answer obviously. You can even share your crazyest fantasy or pictures/videos of your ideal bott parner. I’m just curious to see the variety of preferences people have here.

Feel free to share honestly I think it could be interesting to see the patterns that come up.

Curious to read your answers

 

[No1neKnows]

I'm verse, but as a bottom, I like feeding tops' egos after challenging them first. With a martial arts background, I like the chase/fight, maybe a little brattiness and teasing before letting them overstimulate me into submission. I like passion and roughness and being overpowered. It sounds ridiculous, but I like being defeated by tops lmao.

Physically, I'm into everything, so as long as there's chemistry, anyone of any body type can get it. I'm somewhat average, a guy who occasionally lifts and jiggles in the right spots when I walk lol.

Personality wise, whether top, bottom, verse, side, generosity is the only way. Selfish people are major turn offs. I'm pretty chatty in person and like investing in other peoples' interests. Like I said, I'm a tease. I will give the bottom eyes and deny it when questioned lol. I'm very into being fondled and aroused at inappropriate times (I've had friends and exes reach up my shirt, or grab my ass when people leave the room and the aftershock of my body and their amused looks toward me after ). I won't give up control to a dom, I want them to take it from me.

Anyway, I hope I'm making sense lol.

 

[shawnie1]

really your gonna have to modify to the guy if your trying to fit his preferences only, whatever you do your gonna be perfect for someone and nothing is universal

that said for me personally
Personality: i like them to be confident and know what they want, im pretty quiet so chatty to break the ice is also great
Physical preferences: if i were building him id make him muscular ig as i like when someones bigger then me and chooses to submit but really ive loved fucking guys who were chubby and twinks and everything in between
Style / vibe: really as long as hes self assured and being himself i dont care, both are hot when its genuinely you
Energy in a dynamic: submissive and affectionate particularly if they are well able to make noise for me, bratty can be fun but it gets tiring and i like to know you are really enjoying it, to me thats the biggest turn on
Fitness / flexibility: not really no, im not exactly peak fitness of flexibility rn and in the end of the day you dont need either to really worship me

really i just like when they are obsessed with my cock, thats what really drives me nuts, devotion to my pleasure

 

[Marilynluvah]

I'm verse, but as a bottom, I like feeding tops' egos after challenging them first. With a martial arts background, I like the chase/fight, maybe a little brattiness and teasing before letting them overstimulate me into submission. I like passion and roughness and being overpowered. It sounds ridiculous, but I like being defeated by tops lmao.

Physically, I'm into everything, so as long as there's chemistry, anyone of any body type can get it. I'm somewhat average, a guy who occasionally lifts and jiggles in the right spots when I walk lol.

Personality wise, whether top, bottom, verse, side, generosity is the only way. Selfish people are major turn offs. I'm pretty chatty in person and like investing in other peoples' interests. Like I said, I'm a tease. I will give the bottom eyes and deny it when questioned lol. I'm very into being fondled and aroused at inappropriate times (I've had friends and exes reach up my shirt, or grab my ass when people leave the room and the aftershock of my body and their amused looks toward me after ). I won't give up control to a dom, I want them to take it from me.

Anyway, I hope I'm making sense lol.

Total sense!
Thanks for your honest and HOT description of your bottoming experiences.
Just about perfect for a top to hear. This is exactly what many of us want in a bottom!

 

[Loveloveloveee]

I'm verse, but as a bottom, I like feeding tops' egos after challenging them first. With a martial arts background, I like the chase/fight, maybe a little brattiness and teasing before letting them overstimulate me into submission. I like passion and roughness and being overpowered. It sounds ridiculous, but I like being defeated by tops lmao.

Physically, I'm into everything, so as long as there's chemistry, anyone of any body type can get it. I'm somewhat average, a guy who occasionally lifts and jiggles in the right spots when I walk lol.

Personality wise, whether top, bottom, verse, side, generosity is the only way. Selfish people are major turn offs. I'm pretty chatty in person and like investing in other peoples' interests. Like I said, I'm a tease. I will give the bottom eyes and deny it when questioned lol. I'm very into being fondled and aroused at inappropriate times (I've had friends and exes reach up my shirt, or grab my ass when people leave the room and the aftershock of my body and their amused looks toward me after ). I won't give up control to a dom, I want them to take it from me.

Anyway, I hope I'm making sense lol.

I totally get it being dominated is so fun, but it’s nice to have a minimum of interaction and passion with the top

 

[Loveloveloveee]

I have a question for tops. Does hight matter to you? I’m mix between feeling insecure of being to short and feeling to tall idk I feel that short feels more like my personality and the vibe I want to give but att the same time gay dating beauty standards want me to be tall and masc idk its hard to explain

 

[hhunter]

first, learn how to douche deeply. then anal train. the biggest turn off for hung tops is filth and not being able to finish pounding a bottom due to not being able to take the dick. if you want to be successful at keeping tops, you have to be able to take dick well: cleanly, and for the duration. the best tops are usually formerly or currently straight, so it takes longer to ejcaulate from just anal sex. if you're able to be clean and last a while taking dick, you will rise to the be a true bottom queen

 

[hhunter]

by the way, the best bottoms train using dildos, start at level that provides a moderate stretch, then as you able to relax quickly, move to larger models until you able to take about 10-11 inches with a girth of about 4-5". then you'll be able to be seduce any monster cock you want

 

[Loveloveloveee]

by the way, the best bottoms train using dildos, start at level that provides a moderate stretch, then as you able to relax quickly, move to larger models until you able to take about 10-11 inches with a girth of about 4-5". then you'll be able to be seduce any monster cock you want

Waw that was really helpful thx. Also you’re right training is importance especially if you are easily stressed like me

 

[goldscorpguy]

I agree that 'training' is important, but it should also be a fun and enjoyable part of preparing. I use a variety of dildos on a regular basis, and when I have a planned hook up, use a butt plug beforehand to get myself really relaxed. I think a good bottom should be body aware, confident and not be afraid to express what they like and don't like.

 

[thongboy]

I agree that 'training' is important, but it should also be a fun and enjoyable part of preparing. I use a variety of dildos on a regular basis, and when I have a planned hook up, use a butt plug beforehand to get myself really relaxed. I think a good bottom should be body aware, confident and not be afraid to express what they like and don't like.

I always listen to my bottom, whether it's a first-time fuck with him, or a regular buddy

 

[Gabethebottom]

I bottom here.
Always use a but plug before any sexual encounter. Although you can not sit properly while wearing one it stretches open your ass, that way when you arrive at the tops place your ass is already relaxed, open, and a little bit lubed. Not al tops now to properly open the ass before star pounding.
Enjoy