Help Needed

[Small__Submissive]

So my wife wants me to start being more forceful and dominant with her during sex.

As I’m more of a sexually submissive type I need some help in knowing what and how to do it!

I’ve just got a 7 x 6 strap on in which I’ll be using to fuck her with as my tiny 4 inches isn’t up to the job anymore.

What sort of things do you guys do? What shall I try with her etc?

Any tips and advice much appreciated

 

[Bourbon34f]

Sounds like you’re always waiting for her to “give you a sign” that’s it’s time for sex...

It might sound lame, but time for putting together a plan of attack.

Be the aggressor, not crazy, but take the initiative. Do things for YOU, not ask for permission, plan sum moves in advance, the strap on is a start, personally I’d not do the strap on, use a dildo on her if you think that’s what she wants. Strap on just will amplify your sense of insecurity. A nice 6-7” one, use it while going down on her... You’ve got a great sized cock for anal, a dp with you in her ass with the dildo in her pussy....

Don’t be predictable. Make sure you change it up... don’t get in a rut....

Don’t go nutzo either... unless that’s her thing... but you’d know that by now.

It’s not about the cock all the time, lips, tongue, fingers, arms n legz...

Mebbe look into tantric as well...

 

[Small__Submissive]

Thank you

 

[twoton]

It’s hard for a leopard to change its spots.

It’s difficult to be dominant if someone is demanding that you be dominant, because then you’re being dominated into being dominant.

But part of it might be helped by your wife’s attitude. Maybe encourage her to be vulnerable or at least pretend to be vulnerable.

Or maybe take the attitude that you’re going to take what pleasures you can. An attitude of “I’m only 4”, maybe she’ll get off or maybe she won’t, but I’m going to take what I want.” That might actually be what she wants, ironically

 

[Hatt_101]

It’s difficult to be dominant if someone is demanding that you be dominant, because then you’re being dominated into being dominant.

Thats kind of a Schrodinger's cat situation; if you're dominated into being dominant are you actually dominant or are you submissive? Lool. Or is it both

 

[twoton]

If you have to ask, you’ll never know.

 

[green26]

Dude eat her pussy like it's your last meal, when you finish, the dick is just a bonus, your size only matters if you act like it does. Just fuck her like your dick is 8 inches, talk dirty to her, position her right, you will be okay dude.

 

[MrTMT]

My suggestions would include checking out adult websites that catering to "softer version"of S/M type (if you're comfortable at that), you may pick up something there that may fits with you/your wife preference. Also, be vocal during sex and build up self confident, show her who's the boss.