How did you get over Shy Bladder?

[Dexterp]

If you (or someone close to you) suffered from shy bladder, how did you (or they) get over that?

For all those who don't know: shy bladder is when you can't piss when there's other people around. Usually happens to men when they have to piss at the urinals.

 

[will_miller]

I still have a shy bladder at public restrooms but I have improved greatly over the last year or so since I really started tackling my problem.

I've used a mix of imagining I'm standing at a busy wall urinal when pissing at home (most urinals in Australia are just a wall or trough, rarely individual ones which rarely have any form of dividers), pissing as loudly as possible in the stall in a busy public toilet, and waiting for everyone to leave in a busy public toilet when I really need to piss, so when I get going I couldn't stop myself if I tried when other people inevitably walk in.

At this point, I can usually get going with someone else at a urinal I'm familiar with, though it takes a good 20 seconds most of the time. Also, reciting the Fibonacci sequence in your head can also help get your mind off things.

Good luck!

 

[flagship]

I know this is more of a psychological issue, but if you ask your doctor, you could try an alpha 1 blocker, like alfuzosin, and see if that helps at all

 

[lapdog2001]

Here is something that has worked for me, 100% of the time I have needed it. I don't suffer from shy bladder very often, but it has a much better chance of showing up in those crowded bathroom situataions like ball games and concerts, etc.

It's a left-brain vs right brain thing. A potential solution is to think of a a hard math problem in your head, so the other part of your brain controlling your bladder relaxes enough to let the urine flow.
No simple math like 2 +2 =4 or 5 X 10 = 50.
Tougher stuff like 67 divided by 8, 97 divided by 5, etc.

I find thinking the steps out in my head quickly lets my bladder release, and once I start peeing, I'm all good.

 

[Long Arm of the Law]

Here is something that has worked for me, 100% of the time I have needed it. I don't suffer from shy bladder very often, but it has a much better chance of showing up in those crowded bathroom situataions like ball games and concerts, etc.

It's a left-brain vs right brain thing. A potential solution is to think of a a hard math problem in your head, so the other part of your brain controlling your bladder relaxes enough to let the urine flow.
No simple math like 2 +2 =4 or 5 X 10 = 50.
Tougher stuff like 67 divided by 8, 97 divided by 5, etc.

I find thinking the steps out in my head quickly lets my bladder release, and once I start peeing, I'm all good.

I love this idea but I am so incredibly smart it might be difficult to come up with a math problem that is difficult enough. I'll give it a shot and report back.

 

[lapdog2001]

I love this idea but I am so incredibly smart it might be difficult to come up with a math problem that is difficult enough. I'll give it a shot and report back.

Make the math even harder ==> 876/23 73 into 4986

 

[Long Arm of the Law]

Make the math even harder ==> 876/23 73 into 4986

Dammit I just pissed all over myself.

 

[deleted16457061]

Sloan Royal Flush is engraved across the top of many urinal fixtures.
I read that, backwards and forwards, to pee.

Distracts the conscious mind I guess.

When I was young I resorted to long division to stay in the saddle. Cured premature ejaculation when servicing my late wife.

No longer a problem now. Need Viagra for old geezers like me.

 

[hot showers]

I had this problem when I was younger (into my college years), particularly at urinals without privacy shields, which was most of them back then. 2 techniques helped me get over it:
1) This is more tactical/immediate: I would hold my breath while continuously trying very hard to start. I'd have to keep holding it to the point of being quite uncomfortable, but I'd always resist and it AWLAYS worked. Once I had a good stream going, I could finally take a breath, which would require a little restraint to not take a huge obvious gasp, but to catch my breath subtly. Unfortunately, this technique was not so good while pissing next to a friend, because if they talk, I'd have to respond and that would set me back to square one, and would have to wait for them to leave.
2) This was part of overcoming a broader challenge: My shy bladder was part of a broader tendency to get aroused while naked--or at least with my penis visible, as at a urinal without dividers--in front of other guys. This was a bigger challenge to get over, but through gradual acclimation, I was able to be naked for increasing durations while keeping this under control. Eventually, I got it fully under control, and have ever since been able to use open showers on a regular basis. Once it became routine to be in such situations where other men see my penis for extended durations--there was less novelty in pulling it out in view of other guys at urinals, and therefore less need for technique #1.

 

[palmer]

Holding my breath works for me when I have to go and then don't as soon as I get infront of the urinal.

 

[14600801]

I have that problem and no solution

 

[thongboy]

Don't worry about it. I'm an exhibitionist who loves to show a package in tight jeans or on the beach. I don't get uptight being naked in the locker room or shower, and I've even fucked in front of an audience. But a public urinal, I freeze up, especially if there are no barriers. I know it's psychological, but I don't freak out. I suspect that it's a situation where I can't really control how much I want to display. So I learn to live with it

 

[deleted871301]

This only happens when there's a guy at the urinal next to me. Most of the time, at the gym, the guy next to me tries to sneak a peek. Stage fright sets in and the little Dude wants to go into hiding. I look straight ahead and imagine that I'm the only one there. Works most of the time.

 

[Long Arm of the Law]

I couldn't help but think about all of you fine gentlemen as I went to the restroom in my local hardware stor yesterday. It was your standard setup with a urinal and single stall, but when you opened the door into the bathroom "WHOOOOOOSH!" The loudest ceiling fan in the world started up and I said "Ahhhh......" I can't describe how relaxed I become when there's loud background noise, knowing that no one else in the bathroom could hear anything. Started pissing in the urinal in about half a second. If it were a silent bathroom with someone in the stall right next to the urinal, I probably would have bailed out and tried again in five minutes. LOL.

 

[maroon1040]

My high school had 4 full length urinals close together that everyone used, including teachers. No one made an awkward deal out of it. So its just mature oriented minds making best of it to piss whether alone or if other were there.

 

[deleted627832]

I remember the first time my dad took me to a baseball game. Had to take piss and all the men and boys were lined up in a row passing on the floor. The urinal was just a through in the floor.

 

[maroon1040]

One of my first times (1980s) that I recall with my dad was urinals and troughs at State Fair. Same scene too... just so many guys of all ages taking pisses, so we went and left. Was amazed but kept to self, ha ha. Loved the experience and appreciated his simple advice to not touch or be close to urinal = no shyness since were all guys.

 

[toddtucson1]

I think of fucking the guy next to me.....boom easy flow

 

[18wheeler]

As someone with a CDL who is required to take random drug screens. I can assure you this issue sucks and I haven’t figured out a way.
I freak out and start to get sick. Which makes it even harder to piss since I feel like I need to shit. I think having a small penis doesn’t help.

 

[Mike hung]

Never had this problem but I've noticed other guys who don't seem to be able to go.