How Do I Get My Wife to Talk Dirty

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  1. Nekoman

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    I love to talk dirty, it really turns me on.

    My wife is pretty quiet in bed. I love it when I get her to talk about sex.

    I love it when she says ANYTHING about sex, but she's pretty quiet and shy.

    Is there anything I can do to get her to open up -- or should I just accept her quiet style for what it is, and appreciate her?
     
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    same boat. lol. some women i think are just closed off man, we just gotta accept it and take it for who they are.
     
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    I'm sorry for you man, I really get off listening to what a woman has to "say" during sex, even if it's just "deeper, oh God, deeper". It's important feedback for me, and the sex is better for me knowing she's satisfied.

    When I see this in women, it's usually from four reasons: They are "good girls" and don't talk like that. 2: They are worried about privacy (people close by) or that you will repeat what was said. 3: They are just uncommunicative. This one you can spot because she never has much to say outside of sex either. 4, She doesn't know you well enough to let her guard down. (probably unlikely here)
     
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    I believe the "trick" is to get them to see that they can let loose when they're alone with you in the bed... assume they have anything to let loose.

    My gf was hella sigh when I first met her. As things progressed and we took it to another (sexual) level, she didn't even want me to look at her vagina, let alone go down on her. I'd constantly let her know how perfect she was and how I wanted to please her in every way possible, and eventually she opened up (physically) and began to reciprocate.

    From there it was just a matter of getting her hot enough to try anything. I'd start by asking her questions like "Is it too deep" or "does it feel good." She'd only respond with a simple "yes" or "mmhmm" but that was a start.

    Once she had no problem voicing that I started teasing her. I'd ask "how bad do you want it" when I was getting her going through oral, though I could tell she wanted me in her. She would buck up and respond in a coy manner, moving from one sense of the word to another.

    Soon after doing things like this, she would have no problem voicing what she wanted. I then moved to asking things that would cause her to answer with HOW she wanted it. From there, she just started taking the initiative. I'm sure she could tell that it turned me on. She ended up saying all kinds of naughty stuff when she's horny.

    All this said, I hope you'll realize that you should avoid such things if she's genuinely uncomfortable with it. If you can't tell the difference between whether she just needs to open up or if she's just not into it, you should probably leave it alone.
     
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    There are definitely people that are not into talking dirty--for some reason it is just not in their nature.

    But, I agree with the previous poster who mentioned making her feel completely safe and comfortable, reassuring, telling her how much you love it, she is perfect, etc...really making her feel emotionally safe.

    I know what it is to really desire that dorm of communication and not receive it...so I feel you. Hope everything works out.
     
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