How long after a breakup do you start a new relationship?

How long would you wait after a breakup to start a new relationship?

  • Less than a week

    Votes: 11 16.4%
  • At least a week.

    Votes: 6 9.0%
  • At least a fortnight.

    Votes: 2 3.0%
  • At least a month.

    Votes: 12 17.9%
  • At least 3 months.

    Votes: 1 1.5%
  • At least 6 months

    Votes: 7 10.4%
  • At least a year.

    Votes: 2 3.0%
  • More than a year.

    Votes: 4 6.0%
  • It's not the time that matters.

    Votes: 18 26.9%
  • Other or unsure.

    Votes: 4 6.0%

  • Total voters
    67
I just broke up with my BF of three and a half years. I found he's been cheating on me - not just once but at least twice with two other guys. I still love him dearly and I have already forgiven him for this - strange but true. But there's a part of me that's admitting that it won't result in any reconciliation. He moved out and he's now on his own to do what ever he wants - although living together didn't seem to stop the infidelities! He says that he wants to start over with me - dating, going out together etc. I think that might be comfort speak and not really what he wants. But what if it is and I go out dating or just for sex? He will probably date other guys while we "date" so why can't I?

So I can't say for sure how long it takes. There are more variables in there - at least for me. Maybe for others too.
 
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I said less than a week. I could start a new relationship, may not be much of a relationship for awhile, then again, sympathy pussy can be a good thing.
 
The older I get, the longer my rebound time is. Its usually a year-plus for me at this point.
 
It's one of those "How long is a piece of string" questions from what I feel.

It's been about a year, since I broke up with my EX, and still to this day, I have many unresolved questions in my head, saying why, what, how, and whom, and still to this day, every so often, she will come out with her wooden spoon, and have a stir.

TBH I need to ditch the bad history I have left behind fully, and get on, but due to the circumstances of the previous relationship, I am finding it very hard to do so.

Confidence has taken a real beating, and I now have difficulty, trusting women, not to shit on me, the way the ex has.
 
It's one of those "How long is a piece of string" questions from what I feel.

It's been about a year, since I broke up with my EX, and still to this day, I have many unresolved questions in my head, saying why, what, how, and whom, and still to this day, every so often, she will come out with her wooden spoon, and have a stir.

TBH I need to ditch the bad history I have left behind fully, and get on, but due to the circumstances of the previous relationship, I am finding it very hard to do so.

Confidence has taken a real beating, and I now have difficulty, trusting women, not to shit on me, the way the ex has.
Same here man, It all depends on when you are ready to trust and love again. Id love to be in a relationship right now, but i cant really bring myself to really like someone enough to go for it.


Eventually i'll be ready but right now i need to sort my own shit out.
 
I just broke up with my BF of three and a half years. I found he's been cheating on me - not just once but at least twice with two other guys. I still love him dearly and I have already forgiven him for this - strange but true. But there's a part of me that's admitting that it won't result in any reconciliation. He moved out and he's now on his own to do what ever he wants - although living together didn't seem to stop the infidelities! He says that he wants to start over with me - dating, going out together etc. I think that might be comfort speak and not really what he wants. But what if it is and I go out dating or just for sex? He will probably date other guys while we "date" so why can't I?

So I can't say for sure how long it takes. There are more variables in there - at least for me. Maybe for others too.


You know that the guy has other men on the side. You should too. It is only fair.

If he has a problem with you having other men, you tell him to deal with it. You dealt with his trysts...he shouldn't have any problem dealing with yours.
 
I want to say (like others) that you wait until you feel ready. I'd like to say that this will happen when you are over the last person, but I know this is not always the case. I, for one, still love both of my former BFs. Not IN love with them, but I care about them all the same. The same goes for my hubby (regarding his EXs). I don't think you can put a drop-dead dating on when to date/love/try again. Love happens when it happens and it never seems to follow our self-imposed timelines or schedules.