How can I be attractive if I'm not white? I get told I'm conventionally attractive like 'handsome' or 'has amazing hair and skin' but I know that at the end of the day, I still have olive brown skin (Indian/Middle Eastern here) and that the only other thing I can do to change my appearance is working out. I tried to bleach my skin whiter (even though I'm not that dark) and make myself even more ethnically ambiguous but I can never get the attention OF all the good looking white guys or LIKE the good looking white guys, whether they're in Hollywood or on social media or on Grindr/Tinder/etc. Most guys tell me they only find white guys/white skin or Asian guys attractive, and even guys I've been rejected from, if I catfish them with a photo of a white football player from my high school, they immediately respond and won't block or ignore me per usual.
Is there a way I can send my photo to someone and they can tell me what to fix? I hate being who I am
How old are you OP? Sounds like you you’re still very impressionable and care too much for superficial attentions from other people/strangers.
You need to accept yourself for who you are as a person and learn to love you own skin and body. It doesn’t matter whether you’re black, white, yellow or purple. You need to live your own life and focus on things that actually matters and that can improve your quality of life in a meaningful way, like getting fit and healthy, invest in good education so you can have good career and earn good money. Having a good stable income will give you freedom and do whatever you want. You can even hire a sexy 10/10 escort for a night or two if you want. Heck, you can sleep with a sexy escort every week if you so wish to when you have the money.
Don’t try to change yourself for anyone, you are who you are. Instead, try to improve yourself - with education and fitness. In the next 100 years. 99.9% of the (human population) people that you’re seeing walking around today will no longer exist or be here. So it’d doesn’t matter whether you’re ugly or handsome. You won’t be here in the next 100 years, like everyone else around you. This is why you need to focus meaningful goals and do things that give you real and longterm happiness. And focusing on your appearance isn’t one of them because it’s a losing battle! Looks fade! It does. It really does! No matter how good looking you are, it’ll fade in a decade or two at most. Rarely do you see anyone look drop dead gorgeous into their senior/retirement years. It’s almost impossible even with plastic surgeries. No matter how good looking someone is, they’ll still grow old and a new younger generation of good looking people will pop up. And you can’t compete with that. A good looking 30 year old can never compete with a good looking 20 year old. And a good looking 40 year old can never compete with a good looking 30 year old, and so on and so on.
Even if you were to make yourself look white and attract attentions from other hot white jocks/men, sooner or later, that attention will fade. They’ll turn their eyes to the younger good looking men. It will happen. Just as an example, just look at Billy Brantt, a gay porn star that I grew up watching his porn. He was everything that I wanted to look like, he was the perfect golden gay poster boy, with good looks that could rival Brad Pitt’s, blonde, with muscular body and every gay men desired him when he was in his prime (in his 20s), he could have anyone he wanted. Look at him now, no one would bat an eye at him now that he isn’t good looking, gained weight and is approaching his 40s.
In your mind, you’re seeking validation in all the wrong places. You need to seek validation in your own strength, education, career, spending time with family, and achieving realistic goals. This will build up your self esteem and give you longterm self confidence.
Be proud of yourself, be humble and be happy with what you got. Be thankful that you aren’t blind and can see your own reflection. There are millions of blind people in this world never gotten a chance to see their own reflection and their love ones in their life and would wish for that chance more than anything else.
