How to stop being resentful of my hung guys

[LetsTalkAboutSize]

I’ll start by saying nothing turns me on more than a big dick. Im gay with an average sized dick and mad as heck that Im not hung. The guy im dating is much bigger and im resentful of him that he wields a power that I can never have (receiving all the benefits of being large like shocked expressions being bigger than me every time, etc). He keeps saying that size isn’t something he ever thinks about but I think he’s just trying to keep from making me even more jealous (he knows I wish I were hung like him). I imagine his dick all the time and want to know more about what his life being big has been like…I want all the details…because it’s a pleasure I’ll never know sadly and I feel like I’m missing out. I’m mad at him that he would withhold this info. He’s lucky enough for the gods to bless him with a mega cock, why would he keep it to himself and not share?

I know this is kind of messed up, but I’m resentful of him and all hung guys for this matter. It’s not like they deserve being big anymore than me. And they get to live this life (completely unearned) while I’m stuck being average “having to deal the card I’m dealt”. And I know it could be worse…I could be micro…but this is how I feel no matter how much gratitude I try to adopt

i want to let go of this resentment so I can be in a healthy relationship with him. Or any hung guy for that matter (average cocks don’t turn me on). What the heck should I do?

 

[VIIby5]

I pretty much feel the same way. I have a lot of self hatred for not measuring up and feel guilty for dooming my wife to a life with a small dick. It sucks knowing that im not the optimum or desired size for most women. It weighs on me a lot and I know there is not a dam thing I can do about it.

At least for me, I dont honestly think it's a thing I will ever get over. To do so is just denying the reality of my inferiority. Playing pretend doesn't solve anything it just temporarily diverts attention away from the problem.

 

[indeed]

Trust me, the stress will eventually lead to ED so knock it off while your dick still works.

 

[nhguy78]

I’ll start by saying nothing turns me on more than a big dick. Im gay with an average sized dick and mad as heck that Im not hung. The guy im dating is much bigger and im resentful of him that he wields a power that I can never have (receiving all the benefits of being large like shocked expressions being bigger than me every time, etc). He keeps saying that size isn’t something he ever thinks about but I think he’s just trying to keep from making me even more jealous (he knows I wish I were hung like him). I imagine his dick all the time and want to know more about what his life being big has been like…I want all the details…because it’s a pleasure I’ll never know sadly and I feel like I’m missing out. I’m mad at him that he would withhold this info. He’s lucky enough for the gods to bless him with a mega cock, why would he keep it to himself and not share?

I know this is kind of messed up, but I’m resentful of him and all hung guys for this matter. It’s not like they deserve being big anymore than me. And they get to live this life (completely unearned) while I’m stuck being average “having to deal the card I’m dealt”. And I know it could be worse…I could be micro…but this is how I feel no matter how much gratitude I try to adopt

i want to let go of this resentment so I can be in a healthy relationship with him. Or any hung guy for that matter (average cocks don’t turn me on). What the heck should I do?

So why is he with you? Are you his bottom? Of course, he doesn't think about your size. If you're his bottom I'm guessing he probably doesn't care about dick. He wants ass. Now, if you're both vers or youre the top, that is a whole other story. I'm guessing he's with you because you got what he wants.

Are you worried that he'll ditch you and take it cock elsewhere?

So the other thing is that you don't even like small cock. So, that's a problem. You don't want small or average cock so you don't know he's with you. You're self-loathing. You don't accept yourself. You hate your body that you were given. I get it. I believe this is directly related, though, to your own shame as if a good average cock is shameful. It would be sad if your date drops you because of your fixation on big cock. He decides that yeah, he (you) doesn't appreciate his own suitable cock so I'm tired of suffering through the complaining, too. I'll go find another. Maybe I'll get a bigger one with a more confident guy attached.

 

[Gj816]

There's nothing wrong with being average. You're have to live with the cards you were dealt just like he is. He can't help having a big dick anymore than you can help having an average dick. It's just how life works. Save yourself some frustration and embrace your dick for what it is. A dick that gets hard, stays hard, cums, and you can pee with it. It's working properly so be thankful you've got what you've got. I'd be willing to bet that there are guys out there who wish they had what you have. Be thankful.

 

[shIgreen123]

Well if it helps, everyone has their own insecurities and self-consciousness, regardless size. Don't believe the hype. Cheers.

 

[Hunnychileyasss]

Well if it helps, everyone has their own insecurities and self-consciousness, regardless size. Don't believe the hype. Cheers.

Hunny Chile the size does not matter ...you can have big dick and it be be limp and don't get hard or the person can be a bottom and nothing wrong with that. I like looking at big dickks and sucking them if they huge but if you get small one .. it's ok just think happy happy joy joy

 

[Andrej_u]

I have a bigger one and I am very aware that it is a privilege. That’s why I never liked all the alpha male rhetoric: I was born with it and that’s it! You know, being muscled is something you can achieve. A bubble butt is part genetic and part training. Even a nose can be surgically changed, but a big dick… it’s the most unfair of them all, as it can’t be changed in any way. And height is the other one which is just fixed and can’t be changed. Being “alpha” to me is being unapologetically yourself in the face of other people’s judgement.

It is a privilege as I’ve literally never in my life had to worry about being rejected AFTER sending nudes. I’ve been rejected before, I’ve even been told by guys stuff like “I’m sorry, you have an amazing dick but I can’t get over the rest” (luckily I have a good self esteem, so he can suck my balls… metaphorically), but I don’t know how it feels to send your nudes to someone very interested, and suddenly being met with silence.

So what do I do? I try to use the privilege in a positive way. Every time I get approached on Grindr asking “hi, do you have a big dick?” I answer “no”. Some guys like the big dick play, writing “XL” on their profiles and so on, being told that they’re super manly and so on… for me personally it works better when my size is a bit of a positive surprise but not a deciding factor on whether to have sex with me or not.

And usually, the “I only like XL dicks” crowd get really offended when I turn them down because of that they go like “it is a free country and it is my preference”… sure, and my preference is to have sex with someone else instead.

 

[deleted814719]

Unless you go to some kind of extreme (surgical procedure, silicone injections, etc.), there's little-to-nothing you can do about your penis size. Some of us have slender body types, some have large-bone body types. Some are unusually tall or some short. You have what you have due to genetics.

I'm pretty average (6" fully erect) and my wife has never complained. In fact, we have a Fun Factory vibrator which is a little longer and girthier than me. We use it on occasion to add some spice to our adult play. I'll fuck her with the vibrator while I lick or finger her clit. When she climaxes, she insists on removing the vibrator and getting "the real thing". So, I think she's happy with my dick.

I edge my cock every day and climax 2-3 times a week even when PIV sex is off the table. While big dicks might be visually impressive, I'm of the belief that the enjoyment I get from my dick wouldn't be any better than my average-size cock if I was any longer or thicker.

Enjoy what you have and use it while you've got it. There's no upside in wishing your life away or pining over someone else's good fortune of being hung.

 

[monstercock22]

@LetsTalkAboutSize
What is your size. You can enlarge your cock! If you want to see growth you have to be as strict as going to the gym everyday with your sessions. Let me know if you need some advice.

 

[Frank8]

You are correct. I’ve enlarged my cock. It took about 10 years but I’ve gained almost 2” in length and am inch of girth. I had an average size clock most of my life but now enjoy my 8” x 6” cock. No magic or med procedures just consistent penis enlargement excersises

 

[Mushroom789]

You are correct. I’ve enlarged my cock. It took about 10 years but I’ve gained almost 2” in length and am inch of girth. I had an average size clock most of my life but now enjoy my 8” x 6” cock. No magic or med procedures just consistent penis enlargement excersises

What did you do to make it bigger

 

[deleted8229631]

Here's an idea. Not sure if you are into sph or domination or anything like that. But if you'd be up for it you could try it with guys that ar esmaller than you to kinda inflate your self worth and ego a bit. Or maybe even try it with guys that are bigger than you to kinda show yourself that just because someone's bigger doesn't mean they're superior to you

 

[nhguy78]

I’ll start by saying nothing turns me on more than a big dick. Im gay with an average sized dick and mad as heck that Im not hung. The guy im dating is much bigger and im resentful of him that he wields a power that I can never have (receiving all the benefits of being large like shocked expressions being bigger than me every time, etc). He keeps saying that size isn’t something he ever thinks about but I think he’s just trying to keep from making me even more jealous (he knows I wish I were hung like him). I imagine his dick all the time and want to know more about what his life being big has been like…I want all the details…because it’s a pleasure I’ll never know sadly and I feel like I’m missing out. I’m mad at him that he would withhold this info. He’s lucky enough for the gods to bless him with a mega cock, why would he keep it to himself and not share?

I know this is kind of messed up, but I’m resentful of him and all hung guys for this matter. It’s not like they deserve being big anymore than me. And they get to live this life (completely unearned) while I’m stuck being average “having to deal the card I’m dealt”. And I know it could be worse…I could be micro…but this is how I feel no matter how much gratitude I try to adopt

i want to let go of this resentment so I can be in a healthy relationship with him. Or any hung guy for that matter (average cocks don’t turn me on). What the heck should I do?

You said "unearned" as if you earn your genetics or how you were born. That's like expecting a baby or child to earn the respect of an adult or parent. That's rubbish.

Is it fair to say that you have placed incalculable value on big dick such that you have devalued yourself? You've internalized your own hatred/dislike/repulsion of average or small dick so much that you hate yourself. What do you have left if all you have the overemphasized value you've placed on big dick? It's like 100% of your alvalue, it would seem. So, if your only value (100%) is big dick and nothing else matters you have called yourself worthless. That takes a heavy toll on self and really others, too. I may have been redundant about this but it's important that you grasp your own self hate.

You need re-establish your self worth. Stop allowing people to tell you that you are shit for being average. Stop fauning after those assholes. It's toxic.

 

[pursine]

As a big dicked guy myself, I agree that it is an advantage. I think I “punch above my weight” having a big dick and, all things being equal, I probably would have not had some of the sexual encounters I’ve had if I’d been average. But this advantage is only one of many that other people have over me, as I say, I think I punch above my weight but some people are so privileged that they don’t have to. They may be good looking, or light up a room with their personality, there are lots of reasons. You write that I "wield a power", you want to know "what my life is like" (as if my dick defines my world), you’re are even mad at me. Well I have to say, I don’t recognise this power I’m supposed to have. Most of the time people in everyday life are unaware of penis size. You are projecting so much of yourself onto this one issue. Diverting so much energy from other areas of your life. I think our culture has been pretty fucked up valorising big dicked men for the past couple of decades IMHO. I don’t blame you for soaking some of that up and regurgitating it, but, reality check, none of it is actually true. So look at yourself and what you have to offer. I’m sure you can attract lots of big dicked guys as lovers if that’s what you want. Experience it vicariously, like any other preference, it’s ok to express it, but don’t let it be your master, don’t let it overwhelm you. There are so many more things in life more worthwhile to pursue that an obsessions that cannot ever be satiated.

 

[hrypol9130]

what should you do….you should do nothing. You’re resentful because the guy you’re seeing has something that he couldn’t control to get….you’re resentful to guys with big dicks…..

we all don’t like something about ourselves. Myself my nose. But I don’t resent everyone who has nice noses….what I would do is if I don’t like my nose I’d go get plastic surgery.

I don’t know if there’s a surgery to make your dick bigger - go Google it.

I honestly don’t know what you expect us to say - your boyfriend I’m sure loves you as you are but tread lightly with this topic because it might push him away. Like you’re complaining that people have a bigger dick than you. Ya maybe they do. I’d love to have a 9inch shower but I was born with a 7.5 grower. At the end of the day you’re blaming people that they have bigger penis’ than you. When you find the way to select penis size at birth let us know….

if you don’t like your penis go to a plastic surgeon and ask about options - but I don’t know how you can be mad at “hung guys” for something they literally did not select in life but were born with.

 

[bravesoldier]

When you said he doesn't DESERVE a big dick any more than you to me spells serious, life altering resentment that is destroying you. I wish I had a direct answer for you man. All I can say dude is please get a grip. Your life was not meant to be controlled in an unhealthy way (and that what it seems) by your BF's dick size. If you can't overcome, man, find a BF who is your size, so you won't feel this level of life altering resentment. You'll be a different man.

Enjoy SEX and don't be NEGATIVELY controlled by dick size.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

An old friend of mine was quite hung, 9 inches plus. Him being my very close friend, I found out that while I'm average in length, I'm actually thicker than he is when hard. That made me feel a little bit better. What really made me feel better was when his girlfriend told me that he was actually really bad at sex when they first started going out. Like sure, he has a huge penis, but he absolutely did not know how to use it. That really made me feel better lol.

 

[Frank8]

What did you do to make it bigger

Go to Thunders Place. It is a site that is dedicated to natural penis enlargement. They don’t sell anything and the site is free.
they will teach you the principles behind enlargement and you will learn how to do exercises that really work.

 

[ItalTony9]

It doesn't really make life better, except for in very shallow ways.
I do not have more fulfilling friendships due to my size.
I have bonded with other guys over size, BUT that has to evolve to a different level, or that bonding is fleeting and limited.