how/when to tell someone i'm seeing, that this is what turns me on

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  1. zombyalive

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    i don't know if i'm bisexual or whatever. but among other things, i like porn with big cocks and petite women. i've thought about what it would be like to get fucked by a big cock, i've been fucked with a huge strapon, and i like thinking about my girlfriends getting fucked by men with big cocks. not even just my girlfriends either (oh god).

    anyway, i'm starting to see a few women right now (separately) and we just got past any potential awkward ice breaking parts. yes, we actually like each other on multiple levels. yes, we are attracted to each other. yes, they don't yet know that i'm well equipped. obviously now isn't the time, but considering how my past relationships have gone, i feel that i neglect this portion of my 'turn ons' until right before the relationship ends, or even afterward when we're hooking up. i don't want to do this again. i want to tell a girl how hot it is to think about a thick long cock pumping that tight ass.

    ok, this isn't every girls cup of tea, but wtf... advice?

    in short:
    the women i am starting to see don't yet know i'm more in touch with my attraction to cock than most guys, and that i like thinking about this in various situations and positions. how do i bring it up? how can i ease conversation in that direction without making it look like an obvious setup? or whatever...
     
  2. AM_092

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    I think no one has replied because you sound a bit confusing!

    So you want girls to take your big cock or do you want to watch them take big cocks from other guys?

    You don't know what stage of a relationship to tell them what you're into? Well, probably when you start getting sexually active with them :)

    And you like anal? Should probably tell a girl if the topic comes up, but other if it doesn't, then wait and see if you guys are gonna get serious..
     
  3. B_dxjnorto

    B_dxjnorto New Member

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    Nice pics. Call the shots I guess. Everyone makes their own life.

    I know I'd be straighter if more women were okay with me liking guys. Know the feeling. :bandit:
     
  4. driftingvoid

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    I can understand the reluctance to admit a bi-sexual tendency to a girl who seems to believe that you're 100% straight, especially if she seems into the alpha-male character, but these kind of things are really better to be honest up front about. If you lead a girl to believe that you're 100% straight, and perhaps that's what she's looking for, then you're setting yourself up for a rough patch when, all the sudden, you confess that you're not the person you've led her to believe you are.

    That said, I would suggest simply waiting for the sexual questions to come up. I'm no relationship guru, but I would expect that, at some point, there always comes a time where partners question each other sexually-- for interests, limits, possibilities, etc; this would be the time to be honest. I haven't met a girl yet, friend or girlfriend, who wasn't curious as to what turns their partners on. Furthermore, I've had plenty of girls (as friends) complain to me that they don't really know what turns their partner on. Sometimes the girl just sucks at bringing up the subject; other times, the guy is too reluctant to really open up. It is sometimes an embarrassing conversation to have, and I understand the reluctance to admit the extent of one's perversion; however, these conversations are the opportunities you have to really convey what excites you the most, and enable your partner to help you enjoy your sexual activities to the greatest extent that your partner is willing to go. I've seen plenty of relationships where the sex wasn't great, but it wasn't that either partner wasn't willing to do certain things: the two just didn't ever take the time to get on the same page.

    Telling a girl that you'd like to see her have her pussy destroyed by a huge god of a cock isn't exactly a conversation you bring up over a romantic dinner occasion, but it's something that you should eventually let her know: if you never let her know, then you'll never know if your fantasies could have turned to great memories. And sure, maybe she might not like the idea of some huge cock stretching her pussy to oblivion until no normal cock feels right anymore; but maybe, like many women, she might actually have a big cock fantasy and, like many women, be reluctant to tell any guy about it for fear of being labelled a "size-queen whore."

    I would wait until after you start having sex, when you and your partner start attempting to explore the sexual possibilities between each other. Maybe during "pillow talk" time, after sex, you can just slip the question of what turns her on. Almost inevitably, she will follow up by asking about you, and then you can ease your way into the subject.

    Good luck...
     
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