So I have been in an on and off relationship with this guy for almost 3 years now. (Let's call him Bob) The reason why it's been on and off, and even open, is because we are currently long distance. This is due to school, we are in different schools in different states. But when we have the free time, we've always made plans to meet up to see each other, and it worked.
Earlier this year, he decided he wanted to be monogamous with this other guy (let's call this guy Tom) simply due to the fact they were in closer proximity. Few months later; Tom, the guy Bob chose to be monogamous with, cheated on him. Obviously they broke up, but since they were roommates and the state they are in is kinda crazy expensive, they chose to remain roommates. Bob came back to me, but since then, it always felt like I was a rebound. I expressed this with him and Bob assured me that I'm not.
Recently, Bob was in the same state again as me and we had made plans to meet up. He unfortunately had to cancel due to some other circumstances, but allowed a friend from out of state to come down and see him instead. Then left to head back to his school in his state. Couple weeks ago it was my birthday which Bob completely forgot, which he expressed his apologies. I had also found out that Bob and Tom were "talking" again, but Bob assured me he was still single and that he wasn't monogamous with Tom.
Bob's birthday was only a few days ago, and I went all out how I could from being in a completely different state. He loved it, but of course I'm seeing him celebrate his birthday with Tom through social media. Bob still says he wishes he could spend time with me, and supposedly will be moving to my state in just a few months.
I think I need to move on, I don't know if I can trust Bob's words anymore, everything has been making me feel like I'm not as important in his life as I used to be. Yes, you can say I am a bit jealous and I have openly expressed this with him. I just dont see his actions matching up with his words towards me and it's definitely a strain on my mental health now.
Earlier this year, he decided he wanted to be monogamous with this other guy (let's call this guy Tom) simply due to the fact they were in closer proximity. Few months later; Tom, the guy Bob chose to be monogamous with, cheated on him. Obviously they broke up, but since they were roommates and the state they are in is kinda crazy expensive, they chose to remain roommates. Bob came back to me, but since then, it always felt like I was a rebound. I expressed this with him and Bob assured me that I'm not.
Recently, Bob was in the same state again as me and we had made plans to meet up. He unfortunately had to cancel due to some other circumstances, but allowed a friend from out of state to come down and see him instead. Then left to head back to his school in his state. Couple weeks ago it was my birthday which Bob completely forgot, which he expressed his apologies. I had also found out that Bob and Tom were "talking" again, but Bob assured me he was still single and that he wasn't monogamous with Tom.
Bob's birthday was only a few days ago, and I went all out how I could from being in a completely different state. He loved it, but of course I'm seeing him celebrate his birthday with Tom through social media. Bob still says he wishes he could spend time with me, and supposedly will be moving to my state in just a few months.
I think I need to move on, I don't know if I can trust Bob's words anymore, everything has been making me feel like I'm not as important in his life as I used to be. Yes, you can say I am a bit jealous and I have openly expressed this with him. I just dont see his actions matching up with his words towards me and it's definitely a strain on my mental health now.
