I wanna bottom... but it's not working

[jockovision]

Lately I have been more and more interested in getting fucked. I haven't ever had much luck because I am extremely tight but I think it could be a cool experience and something want. I don't even like it when a guy tried to finger me and that's a lot smaller than a cock so I recently bought a prostate massage toy to "get used" to having something down there. I lubed it up a bit and tried it out and it really wasn't comfortable at all. It felt tight and uncomfortable and it definitely didn't give me a better orgasm. In fact, I came in spite of the toy.

Any ideas? What am I doing wrong? Would love any pointers.

 

[Eric_8]

the anus specializes in exports. You my friend, are attempting to import...therein lies your issue

 

[britishboy]

the anus specializes in exports. You my friend, are attempting to import...therein lies your issue

It is also the location of the prostate, the male "g-spot", which is why many men do enjoy being fucked and having stuff up their arse. It is true though that not everyone takes to it easily (I still struggle with anal intercourse myself), but if you really want it, just keep practising. If you're never tried before, it might take time to get used to it.

 

[Eric_8]

no thank you good sir. I've had half a middle finger up there and it was more than enough for me. I choose to keep business flowing outward...more power to you though if you can deal with it

 

[britishboy]

no thank you good sir. I've had half a middle finger up there and it was more than enough for me. I choose to keep business flowing outward...more power to you though if you can deal with it

If this is aimed at me, then I don't really understand why you are acting so defensive. Nobody is forcing you to engage in anal intercourse. Your argument could be made towards vaginal intercourse too; women PEE out of there, they probably want to keep their business flowing outward, but more power to you if you and your partner/s can deal with it.

 

[deleted352623]

it's all about staying relaxed. to bottom successfully, you have to be in tune with all the muscles down there. take it slow and push out like you're "exporting" while you slowly work in whatever you're "importing."

 

[dandelion]

no thank you good sir. I've had half a middle finger up there and it was more than enough for me.

Well perhaps it isnt for you, but also perhaps not being someone who is experienced you arent well placed to advise. I have known a few people who were very sceptical about the pleasures of being fucked who came to like it.

Lately I have been more and more interested in getting fucked. I haven't ever had much luck because I am extremely tight but I think it could be a cool experience and something want. I don't even like it when a guy tried to finger me and that's a lot smaller than a cock so I recently bought a prostate massage toy to "get used" to having something down there. I lubed it up a bit and tried it out and it really wasn't comfortable at all. It felt tight and uncomfortable and it definitely didn't give me a better orgasm. In fact, I came in spite of the toy.

Any ideas? What am I doing wrong? Would love any pointers.

Dont know if youve watched any of that porn where people are being fucked? I expect they ham it up, but being fucked usually hurts. But at the same time it feels pleasurable, even very pleasurable. So its a mixed bag, but those guys screaming in pain but still begging for more are really showing the (perhaps exaggerated) double side to this.

Your ass will stretch. It will stretch both permanently with practice and temporarily while being fucked. I'm not the best placed to advise on this, but generally it takes a bit of cautious and slow starting out each time to get the opening stretched initially. Can help to go in a bit, then withdraw and recover, then try again. Read other threads on here. Lots of lube. Direction matters, this isnt a tube going straight in. You need to stretch it, but on the other hand don't overdo it all at once. If you find someone to try this with, pick a guy with a small cock for a first time!

 

[britishboy]

If you find someone to try this with, pick a guy with a small cock for a first time!

Unlike what I did, lol! Makes your asshole feel ten times wider.

 

[Exbiker]

It's not for everyone, clearly. It's neither compulsory, nor forbidden.

People can choose whether they want to do it or not ... whether male or female, gay or straight.

It can be very good, or it can be pretty average, or even, occasionally, bad.

I think I'd just recap a few things I've said before ...

- take your time... should take 15-30 minutes really, if you're literally opening up for first time. Maybe even more. And I'm just talking about getting the penis into the anus/rectum once, to get started, not an actual "session" ...
- use plenty of appropriate lube ( water not oil-based, with condoms )
- relax
- get the right person - not so much their penis size, really, as their attitude. You might need gentle, you might prefer a little rough, but whatever it is, it's important you both have much the same understanding ...
- set the place up right; cushions, lighting, music etc. Whatever it needs for you both.
- consider seeing if "poppers" helps get you relaxed, if you can get them/know how to take safely in small amounts ...
- I don't recommend too much alcohol

It obviously doesn't work for everyone, and it does tend to improve with practice.

Relax and enjoy your life. Explore slowly. There's no deadline.

 

[Eric_8]

If this is aimed at me, then I don't really understand why you are acting so defensive. Nobody is forcing you to engage in anal intercourse. Your argument could be made towards vaginal intercourse too; women PEE out of there, they probably want to keep their business flowing outward, but more power to you if you and your partner/s can deal with it.

My apologies. It was directed at you though it was not meant in a defensive way. It simply isn't for me.

Also, I'm no expert, but I'm almost certain that women do not actually pee out of their vagina, but rather the urethra (sp?)

 

[Eric_8]

Well perhaps it isnt for you, but also perhaps not being someone who is experienced you arent well placed to advise. I have known a few people who were very sceptical about the pleasures of being fucked who came to like it.

You're right. It was my attempt at humor and i apologize if it was not taken as such

 

[shroomhead77]

tough crowd today lol

 

[sexypapa]

If this is aimed at me, then I don't really understand why you are acting so defensive. Nobody is forcing you to engage in anal intercourse. Your argument could be made towards vaginal intercourse too; women PEE out of there, they probably want to keep their business flowing outward, but more power to you if you and your partner/s can deal with it.

Women do not pee out of there vagina. They have a urethra hole and the vaginal hole. They don't just have one hole like men do.

 

[Ed69]

Umm this is the healthy penis sub-forum right?How does having a tight butthole affect your dick?

 

[dong-in-khakis]

same siutation here Jocko, my bud is long but slim and I'm catching hell letting him in.

When I play with toys it's all fine, they go right in all the way. Sometimes it is the angle of the cock too, I believe. I will tell you what I've been told, it's your sphincter muscle tightening up when it senses the cock. Why a cock is different I don't know. They key to less painful anal is mind over matter. You will have to make yourself relax those strong muscles. Get him to penetrate your hole then stop. Then you relax the best you can and you take over. You do all the pushing so that if it hurts you won't think he's hurting you and tense more.

I'm still trying to acheive it too.

 

[britishboy]

Women do not pee out of there vagina. They have a urethra hole and the vaginal hole. They don't just have one hole like men do.

I wasn't being entirely serious, but it amounts to about the same. The real point is why it even mattered to him to begin with since the OP wasn't asking if people liked/agreed with anal intercourse.

 

[TomCat84]

If this is aimed at me, then I don't really understand why you are acting so defensive. Nobody is forcing you to engage in anal intercourse. Your argument could be made towards vaginal intercourse too; women PEE out of there, they probably want to keep their business flowing outward, but more power to you if you and your partner/s can deal with it.

Different hole, dude

 

[chip59]

My first time was with a very large, thick penis and I wasn't expecting it to happen. I was not prepared and spit was not a very good lubricant. It hurt like holy hell so I had to stop it. The second time I knew what to expect and I had experimented with various objects and some hand lotion so it was much easier but still painful. It took half a dozen times, patience, lube and learning to relax before the pleasure outweighed the pain.

 

[B_SilverFoxx]

Exploring, relaxing and patience helps a lot!

 

[britishboy]

Different hole, dude

Did you not see my response right above your post? My point was it's pointless acting holier than thou when it comes to sex.