Instagram And Relationships

[gymboy89]

What’s the deal with (gay) guys in relationships who still whore themselves out on Instagram?

Pure narcissism? Don’t feel enough validation from their partner? Always throws me.

 

[jusright]

Is this from personal experience? Instagram is attention whore central in general and some think they'll develop clout or be 'influencers'. Maybe these guys are in open relationships if not it is asking for trouble.

 

[gymboy89]

Is this from personal experience? Instagram is attention whore central in general and some think they'll develop clout or be 'influencers'. Maybe these guys are in open relationships if not it is asking for trouble.

No not from experience. But several guys I follow are either married or in relationships and I just struggle to understand why you’d want to post pics in your underwear to ppl you don’t know when you’ve got a loving partner to show it to lol

 

[1222288]

No not from experience. But several guys I follow are either married or in relationships and I just struggle to understand why you’d want to post pics in your underwear to ppl you don’t know when you’ve got a loving partner to show it to lol

Exhibitionism and attention.

Just because they are flaunting it, doesn't mean their home is less happy, or that they are bad people. Social media is the current strong trend, and posting booty shots gets a lot of clicks.

 

[gymboy89]

Exhibitionism and attention.

Just because they are flaunting it, doesn't mean their home is less happy, or that they are bad people. Social media is the current strong trend, and posting booty shots gets a lot of clicks.

I see. Guess I’m not trendy then lol

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Why is the assumption that they're "whoring themselves out"?

How do you know their partners aren't thoroughly into showing off who they're with and how attractive they find them?

I would never have posted photos here if my guy hadn't shown interest. I already had a streak of exhibitionism in me, but he opened it up with me and we both enjoyed when I had hundreds if photos in open galleries for everyone to see.

I wasn't being "whored out" by him or me. It was just consentual adult fun.

 

[marriedasian]

i feel as though it comes down to one thing: insecurity

if your partner is still on instagram and still posting with a bazillion followers then so be it. it's a part of their life and who they are. who are you to tell them to change that? if you don't like it then move on to another partner who doesn't do that.

i never understood when someone gets into a relationship with another and then starts to change that other person because they don't like what that other is doing or not doing or continues to do.

if you have a good relationship with that other person built on trust and love that is real and concrete then just go about your life with them and quit worrying as that only will detract from the relationship.

 

[jusright]

I see. Guess I’m not trendy then lol

Haha, I don't think you're that bothered but I don't think that following the crowd validates anything either. Those apps are designed to tap in and feed off the insecurity, promote the herd mentality, FOMO and that your life isn't enough in comparison. A lot of it is kinda fake. It's the best version of how someone wants others to see them. It's literally all filtered.

To put this is in the context of those relationships. We don't know their boundaries or dynamics. They could have a poor sex life or just love the attention, but I do think you have a point. It has to be balanced. Instagram has become an informal dating site, even I've had flirty DM's or other comments on my posts and my IG is centred around my creative process and other random things. Algorithms have a way of linking like-minded people on there even without the obvious hashtags i.e #instagay

I never took your phrase 'whoring' as literal as I use it all the time. It adds flavour to when someone is being too much, craving something, that kind of thing.

 

[KB Weston Erotic Author]

Sharing photos of oneself isn't whoring, nor does it mean there's anything wrong with the relationship. One can show without touching or being touched. Some people are exhibitionists. But, I would also ask, why just instagram? Why not here? There are thousands of users on here with photos of themselves, who also have partners or spouses. I'm one of them, and my partner knows I have pics on here. He doesn't care because if internet strangers want to see my dick, there's no threat that I'm going to cheat on him or that there's something fundamentally wrong with our relationship.

 

[gymboy89]

Sharing photos of oneself isn't whoring, nor does it mean there's anything wrong with the relationship. One can show without touching or being touched. Some people are exhibitionists. But, I would also ask, why just instagram? Why not here? There are thousands of users on here with photos of themselves, who also have partners or spouses. I'm one of them, and my partner knows I have pics on here. He doesn't care because if internet strangers want to see my dick, there's no threat that I'm going to cheat on him or that there's something fundamentally wrong with our relationship.

Yeh you raise a good point...definitely a trust element involved. Do you enjoy attention from other ppl than your partner regarding your dick?

 

[KB Weston Erotic Author]

Yeh you raise a good point...definitely a trust element involved. Do you enjoy attention from other ppl than your partner regarding your dick?

I do, yeah. I've always been an exhibitionist of sorts. It also sort of gives my partner a boost to see a stranger on the internet complimenting it. It's sort of like, he knows he can get it, but User "X" can't. If that makes sense. LOL To me, it's not really any different than showing off a new car, or a tattoo, or a new pair of shoes...anything a person might be proud of. I mean, obviously there's a certain fundamental difference, but it's in the same vein. To us, there's a fun eroticism to knowing that my bulge and dick are out there on the internet, in various places. Nobody on this website presents a sexual threat to our relationship, you know?

 

[gymboy89]

I do, yeah. I've always been an exhibitionist of sorts. It also sort of gives my partner a boost to see a stranger on the internet complimenting it. It's sort of like, he knows he can get it, but User "X" can't. If that makes sense. LOL To me, it's not really any different than showing off a new car, or a tattoo, or a new pair of shoes...anything a person might be proud of. I mean, obviously there's a certain fundamental difference, but it's in the same vein. To us, there's a fun eroticism to knowing that my bulge and dick are out there on the internet, in various places. Nobody on this website presents a sexual threat to our relationship, you know?

Yeh I totally get you. I love my boyfriends dick and tell him I’m more than happy him being naked in lockerooms...I’d almost get off knowing other guys would like the sight of it but I’m the one having it haha

 

[twoton]

I'm not sure what whoring means in this context. Does it mean that a person in a relationship shouldn't have an instagram account?