interracial relationships

[fournineteenfiftynine]

So here I find myself in an interracial relationship. I was married to a woman and had kids. Finally figured it out.

My first boyfriend was like me - white, midwestern, calm, vanilla.

Now my second bf is black, hot, spicy, from the south and has a mouth from the south.

Wow.

I love the spice. I love the sexiness.

But we are culturally so different.

I'd love to connect with others in this situation.

 

[Ki_re478]

Dated a brazilian for a while. Love brazlians

Love the culture difference. Learned so much about Brazil and fell in love with the culture almost as much as i was in love with the man

 

[little10ca]

My wife is Persian (Iran), and I think it's just all about respecting the cultural differences. Cultural differences are fun an exciting, but as soon as you start breaking them into wrong/right or weird/normal it can get really rough for both of you.

 

[EquusAZ]

My first mixed race relationship was between me and an ex. He was 100% Hispanic (with a Anglicized name - his mother didn't want him to sound Hispanic on paperwork so he wouldn't be discriminated against). He was 2nd generation US Citizen. I was pretty cautious at first about learning about customs, etc, but eventually I fit in with the rest of the family even if I don't speak Spanish (I did learn to understand it to a degree so I would know what was being talked about.

Like any thing else in life you have to adjust., Even between the SAME cultures you can have different divides. Upper white middle class east coast vs southern hillbilly blue collar. The U.S. is one big melting pot that's for sure!

 

[deepimpact6]

Dating an African. She is amazing, and we connected on a lot of levels.

 

[Silvertip]

Just about every relationship I've ever had has been with someone quite culturally different than I. It's a wonderful opportunity to learn. Don't be intimidated by it.

 

[KuronoB]

I've had a cross-cultural relationship as well. One piece of advice I have is to not pass judgment too quickly on practices from the other culture. Comments that belittle, ridicule or offend the other culture may seem funny or insignificant at the time, but could doom the relationship.

 

[Hatt_101]

most of my relationships have been interracial relationships but culturally we have not really been different at all. aside from a Persian girl that i was with all have really had the same culture. just because someone is a different colour than you doesnt automatically mean they will have a drastically different culture.

maybe if they had been from different countries it might have been different. someone can easily be the same colour as you but have a different culture

 

[Infernal]

I dated a black man for about 6 months. He was amazing in bed, and it was fun while it lasted. I got a big kick out of it because my fathers side of the family is pretty racist and I could just imagine them having convulsions if they found out about it. Now I'm married to a Cuban man, which is probably just as bad to them..... and I don't care

 

[lokican]

I've been in a few, and a currently dating a Latino.

If you keep an open mind and a good attitude, it'll all work out. Best advice, is to have a good sense of humor about it. I get teased about how much White people like fall. I like to tease to him being able to eat spicer food than him.

P.S. That was a learning experience for me, while Mexican food is spicy. Most other Latin American food is not.

 

[2_fister]

Almost all my relationships/flings/casual hook-ups have outside my race.
It's only a big deal if you allow it to be. For me: I just enjoy the differences. I've been with and dated women of all backgrounds.
Why limit yourself?

 

[Mr Ed in Mass]

My wife is black, I'm white

 

[Cronomg]

Just to clarify something here...Latin/ Latino
Is NOT a race. I'm a white Latin and there are
Black, mixed, etc. Latin is just someone who speaks
A Romance language.

 

[Infernal]

Just to clarify something here...Latin/ Latino
Is NOT a race. I'm a white Latin and there are
Black, mixed, etc. Latin is just someone who speaks
A Romance language.

Let's clarify this even further. Race is a social construct. We come in different sizes, shapes, and colors, but we are all human beings, nothing more.

 

[Cronomg]

Let's clarify this even further. Race is a social construct. We come in different sizes, shapes, and colors, but we are all human beings, nothing more.

Agreed. Race is nothing more than phenotypic
Variance. The genetic difference only affects
The appearance.

 

[familyman44]

my wife is asian i,m white been together 28 years .i love and respect her cultural differences from mine and is fun and sexy as hell.you have to understand everyone is different and just respect each other is how you stay together for a very long time.

 

[Pillowbitersea]

Interracial relationships are a beautiful thing. Although my physical attributes suggest otherwise, I am the product of a German father and Argentine mother. My parents taught me how exciting it is to embrace and learn about all the different cultures humans share. We are all different and yet, all the same.

When I see an interracial couple in public, it gives me hope that humanity is, slowly but surely, stamping out the ugliness of hatred based solely on the color of one's skin. My late partner of 12 years was a black man. Sadly, he was killed in a motorcycle accident 4 years ago. It was, however, the 12 greatest years of my life, so far.

 

[keenobserver]

My long term relationship was with a Korean - American. We were great together for many years, but his family hated that he was gay and blamed me for that. It was a big factor in our breakup - but I felt then, and do now that the issue was more simple homophobia than cultural divide. I have had other interracial relationships and the main thing I learned is to listen and observe and be open to new things.

As some one who is white and male I find "my people" tend to be somewhat pushy with the idea that "we" are somehow culturally superior and need to work hard to impose our culture on everyone else.
The first time I ate spiced Korean bar-b-que I was skeptical because I don't like spiced food or pork based food (with the exception of ribs) - it was great. There were a lot of other cues that were new to me and being open to learning about them and trying them out it made for a nice shared experience.

A black man I dated in the 70's dragged me to church nearly every Sunday. It was a big part of his life and he just would not miss church - so we went. I was always welcomed and well treated in those days and the religious service itself always left me energized and hopeful. It was unlike anything I had ever experienced.

Like minds and physical attraction often bring two people together, but exploring and knowing the culture that we came from really adds richness and texture to the big picture. I have always like the idea that America has been strong at certain times in its history because of our blended culture and the diversity of the people who live here. I think that can enrich a relationship as well.

 

[sangheili90]

Interracial relationships are a beautiful thing. Although my physical attributes suggest otherwise, I am the product of a German father and Argentine mother. My parents taught me how exciting it is to embrace and learn about all the different cultures humans share. We are all different and yet, all the same.

When I see an interracial couple in public, it gives me hope that humanity is, slowly but surely, stamping out the ugliness of hatred based solely on the color of one's skin. My late partner of 12 years was a black man. Sadly, he was killed in a motorcycle accident 4 years ago. It was, however, the 12 greatest years of my life, so far.

What ethic roots did your mother have?

 

[Txherefordbull]

So here I find myself in an interracial relationship. I was married to a woman and had kids. Finally figured it out.

My first boyfriend was like me - white, midwestern, calm, vanilla.

Now my second bf is black, hot, spicy, from the south and has a mouth from the south.

Wow.

I love the spice. I love the sexiness.

But we are culturally so different.

I'd love to connect with others in this situation.

Well I can't necessarily call my friend a "boyfriend" but I can say that despite our very obvious extreme differences (age, height, ethnicity), I find him totally exhilarating. This southern boy has totally shocked himself - and it's in a good way too, I have a completely different approach to people "not like me" now.