Is he into me?

[Smithyjames98]

Ok here goes, I’m a bisexual male who has always masturbated to both gay porn as well as bisexual porn, I’ve played with myself anally but never actually been with a guy, always been in the closet
I have a girlfriend who is aware of my sexuality and she’s amazing and sort of given me a “hall pass” to have an experience with another guy who we could probably bring into our relationship.
There’s on guy I have in mind but I’m not sure if he’s bisexual or not, he has had girlfriends and seems straight but there’s just some things that make me think is he “in the closet too”
I don’t want to officially “come out” so I may not be able to just ask him outright without it being awkward, but when we go out, it’s only ever to the gym together where we do shower after working out, he doesn’t want to do anything with all of our mutual friends, just him and me, he makes sexual remarks all the time to me, not necessarily about me, but these remarks I know he doesn’t make in front of anyone else. And now recently he’s been coming to places where he knows I’m at so that we can walk together etc, am I looking too much into things or could he possibly giving me hints

** I also do find him very attractive and have jacked to pictures of him and from memory when I’ve eyed him up**

 

[Smithyjames98]

To add to it, my girlfriend is also bisexual and she has a girlfriend too and we haven’t been together long

 

[MeatStickSupreme]

Best way to find out is to approach him and ask. But from what you've said it does seem like hes somewhat into you

 

[Smithyjames98]

Best way to find out is to approach him and ask. But from what you've said it does seem like hes somewhat into you

That’s the thing, he doesn’t know I’m bisexual and he’s never said whether he is or not, and I don’t want to necessarily just come out and ask incase he’s not on the same lane as me and it’s jeopardises our friendship , is there any other signs to look out for???

 

[RyanMars]

in the closet guys are weird... just give it time and dont rush it... let him make the sexual remarks

I would start by giving him compliments whenever you seem him, tell him he looks good, or you like his hair, find something to compliment him, give him little hints you find him hot... see how he reacts

there is no need to come out, you can give him hints other ways you find him hot lol

 

[Smithyjames98]

in the closet guys are weird... just give it time and dont rush it... let him make the sexual remarks

I would start by giving him compliments whenever you seem him, tell him he looks good, or you like his hair, find something to compliment him, give him little hints you find him hot... see how he reacts

there is no need to come out, you can give him hints other ways you find him hot lol

I tried to do that last night when we went, I usually wear shorts and a T-shirt for the gym but last night I wore a muscle vest and he started making more sexual remarks about some of the girls in the gym (more than he usually does) and after our workout we hit the showers, now normally dries himself in the shower cubicle then comes out and puts his underwear on under the towel, but this time he ended up drying himself in the general locker room (just the 2 of us were in there) and although he kept his dick covered he was very loose at revealing the parts around him, including his ass so I don’t know if that was a signal at all

 

[RyanMars]

I tried to do that last night when we went, I usually wear shorts and a T-shirt for the gym but last night I wore a muscle vest and he started making more sexual remarks about some of the girls in the gym (more than he usually does) and after our workout we hit the showers, now normally dries himself in the shower cubicle then comes out and puts his underwear on under the towel, but this time he ended up drying himself in the general locker room (just the 2 of us were in there) and although he kept his dick covered he was very loose at revealing the parts around him, including his ass so I don’t know if that was a signal at all

what compliments did you give him ? how did he react ?

 

[Smithyjames98]

what compliments did you give him ? how did he react ?

Just saying things like how he looks to be in better shape and he just replied back saying he doesn’t feel it yet and feels he has more work to do, I said he doesn’t he looks great and he just said cheers buddy

 

[RyanMars]

Just saying things like how he looks to be in better shape and he just replied back saying he doesn’t feel it yet and feels he has more work to do, I said he doesn’t he looks great and he just said cheers buddy

tell him he is sexy to you lol
make him uncomfortable and if he acts weird say you are joking
he is playing with you, play back with him

 

[masterfucker]

I agree

 

[chrisrobin]

Just saying things like how he looks to be in better shape and he just replied back saying he doesn’t feel it yet and feels he has more work to do, I said he doesn’t he looks great and he just said cheers buddy

You'll have to ask him if he's ever had MMF sex, and then get his reaction

 

[sonny84]

Go with your gut...there is no amount of anon online or inperson offline advice that can replace gutfeelings / the vibe.

Follow RyanMars' track of approach. Bet you, remember...sexual or friendly/friendzone ...if you're read is that this mate of yours is seeking time out to be able to spend extra time with you...then it's probably true.

Think with your heart and gut and not your dick/ass if you want the friendship to remain intact irrespective of whether or not something goes down between the both of yous.

If you've discovered that you wearing more revealing gymgear turns his screws / gets him going then keep on that track.

If he's getting bold and changing gear in the lockerroom without hiding behind a towel...then you do the same.

Mirror him. Step for step. Action for action. Comment for comment. Compliment for compliment. Dirty joke for dirty joke. Sexy talk for sexy talk. Handshake for handshake. Brohug for brohug. Back/butt slap for back/butt slap and etc...you get me.

That way you let him feel he's in charge whilst you're the one actually steering this the direction you want it to go.

And soon enough you'll have him in a situation...at your place or his..over beers and video games and then you shoot your shot....if he's into it, then it's on and you let nature take its course and don't over think it and make sure you vocalize to tell him not to over think it too

If it doesn't go as planned when you take your shot, or the vibe goes wrong or you get cold feet...then you withdraw and crack a joke....fudge the videogame...spill a beer and the bag of chips on the sofa or something and you switch gears and friendzone and park that shit...till he makes a move.

I take it from your handle that you're born in 98...

Take the above as the sum of my experiences as someone who's 15 odd years old than you and from a different pre internet pre social media and mobile phone / digital revolution / internet of things planet where no one was out...if they were then they most likely were gonna get AIDS and die and everyone was in the closet and bisexual... at least in public.

Tips I've shared above is how we "got together " with out friends, classmates and boys we hung out with as part of the crew at "the mall"

It was all stolen glances in the showers and trying to connect to have alone time.

And fuck everything else, including my rant..do you...go with your gut.