Is it cheating if...???

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  1. redwingsrox5

    redwingsrox5 New Member

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    So question for all you ladies out there. Be honest. Is it cheating if I have a g/f of 2 months and my ex wants me to come over and watch her masturbate in front of me. No touching or anything. Just watch her cum and leave. Cheating?
     
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    now I know why women think badly of men...
    do you even have to ask?
     
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    Would she like for you to masturbate while she watched?

    It is a fine line between "cheating" and not-cheating. The answer is in how you feel about it, and how you think your current girlfriend would feel about it.
     
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    Mrs Riven just suggested that you ask your ex if you can bring your new girlfriend along to watch too.
     
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    I'd say it's some kind of form of cheating. I mean it's bad enough you and your ex still talk (girls hate that), but her intentions don't exactly seem Mother Theresa-esque. If I were your girlfriend I certainly wouldn't like it.
     
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    If either one of you is uncomfortable in the least, it's cheating.
     
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    Unless your gf okays it, yes.
     
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    Ask your g/f - if you cant, well ....
     
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    If you have to ask, it most likely is. Would you mind if your gf went to her ex's to watch him jerk off?
     
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    This...
     
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    Can she go to her ex BF's house and give him a show? If you don't like the thought of her doing that, then you have your answer. There are no acts that cross the line into cheating for me, I trust my guy knows better than to do things that would make me uncomfortable, and I do the same.
     
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    A very wise man who doesn't post much here anymore once wrote: "If you can't speak honestly with your partner about something, then it's cheating".

    This scenario qualifies.
     
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    /agree Bbucko

    something to think about..

    why does she want you to see her masturbate?
    why do you want to watch?
    do you still have feelings for her?

    There are different levels of cheating.. going to a strip club to watch boobs bounce around with a group of friends and not telling your girlfriend is one thing... still having feelings for an X, and sneaking off for a private escapade is much much worse.

    She might forgive you for the first, but if she is smart you are going to get tossed to the curb in a split second on the 2nd.
     
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    Why would you want to do this anyway? Your ex is an ex for a good reason. It would provide you no pleasure to watch if she were out of your heart already.
     
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    If you can watch a girl masturbate in front of you and not fuck her then you have more self control than me.

    You should ask your gf if its cheating. Maybe she has an ex bf she wants to watch masturbate too. I'm sure you'd be fine with that.
     
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    well I didnt give into the temptation! :) It was tough though. I did go talk and got closure out of it. So its all good now
     
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    wow.... well, okay then :)
     
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    I think it is a bad idea for many reasons. It does sound really hot. But it is a bad idea. Imaging your ex having that bomb to drop on ur current gf any time she feels like it. Imagine the guilt you would feel knowing you are keeping something like that from her... i would just think about it. Jerk off. And call your current gf.
     
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    Long story short: YES
     
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    I guess I'm still surprised at the number of people who like to play inside this big gray area. It's almost as if that border between good and bad widens when the relationship is just a little shaky, but when it's rock solid that separation is pretty damn apparent.

    Here's a rule of thumb - if it involves a member of the opposite sex who's naked it's probably cheating.
     
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