Something that's always bothered me. I sometimes talk to straight guys about sex and when the subject of what they like arises they'll go on and on about all the hot things they like women to do. Yet there are also times when these same guys talk about gay sex and they start talking about how disgusting and repulsive it is to even think of sucking a cock or kissing a guy or fingering his ass or fucking a guy. When they talk about these things they are so disdainful that I wonder why they think it is OK for women to do them if these acts are indeed so degrading to do. It's as if many straight men believe that women could not find male genitals something attractive and so only perform sex acts with men because they're so into the guy that they do it only to please him. This reminds me of the Victorian idea that women do not enjoy sex, that they find men handsome only in appearance, and cannot find men sexually arousing. Part of me finds an answer to this in how men view themselves. Men like to look good for themselves. They like to look at their bodies and think they look good compared to other men. It's like the old saw, "women wear makeup because of other women," not to necessarily be sexually attractive to other men. Men don't like to think that women judge them on their physical attributes. Maybe this is part of the whole mantra many men tell themselves when they think that they're dick is hot no matter how big or small it is and it's how you use it that makes all the difference. If a woman doesn't like how you perform sexually then she must be a lesbian or there's something wrong with her. As an example, straight men do not like to think, or possibly do not naturally consider, they're on obvious public display like women are. Men in semi and fully formal occasions all wear exactly the same thing so they don't stand out yet all the women look vastly different wearing many different types of elaborate gowns and are, indeed, horrified if a woman wears the exact same gown. It's not appearance of the man that men believe impresses women so much as who or what the man is. I'm not saying most straight men don't realize that some modicum of good grooming and dressing isn't important in attracting women, but they tend to seem that so long as they make the minimum effort, there shouldn't be a problem. So when I hear straight men speaking about their own genitals as something they find repulsive to consider in any way other than with a kind of humorous pride, I have to wonder just what they think of women when women perform sexual acts on the male genitals or even kiss a man. I don't see this kind of thing nearly so much with women. While most straight women don't seem to think of their genitals so much as anything other than another body part, they don't seem to harbor the outright revulsion that men have. It's like both sexes have agreed that genitals of women are, somehow, naturally attractive while men believe male genitals range from silly to grotesque. Men tend to believe that women enjoy cock for how it makes their vaginas feel, not because they crave cock the same way men crave pussy or tits or ass. I find this attitude, frankly, a kind of misogyny because it leads me to think that men believe women degrade themselves when having sex with men. There's a contradiction in that while men believe any woman would want them, that women performing sexual acts are somehow lowering themselves in the process. They're submitting to doing something no straight man would ever consider doing because the men find it disgusting. These same men may well see lesbian porn and find it highly arousing. They see women doing things with other women and find it very erotic and they somehow don't think the women are revolting for doing it in the same way they would find two men doing the same things revolting. What are your thoughts on this? Am I accurate and if so, what does it mean?