Just hooked up with my "straight" buddy.

[Smaccoms]

Guys, I've got a different take on this. It is my belief that a lot, maybe even the majority of heterosexual guys have occasional homoerotic desires or fantasies, but they repress them and don't act on them. Society tries to pretend that these feelings don't exist, but I think most of us know that they do. But at very vulnerable stages in our lives, we crave intimacy, and our defence mechanism can simply collapse.

Perhaps Roundy's friend is a repressed homosexual, but perhaps he is pretty much an average, sensitive guy going through a rough patch as a result of his divorce and seeking intimacy with someone who is not only his closest friend, but is not going to judge him. Okay, having done the deed he now understandably feels guilt and confusion. Roundy, you need to be a true friend and give your buddy comfort and reassurance.

+1

I believe a majority of human beings are pan-sexual because we ultimately consider the need for intimacy and social connection more important than what the sex and gender identity of the person in question is. The fact of the matter is the human society currently convinces us that categorizing things into dual systems (particularly in Western Society) is somehow a better option.

 

[MisterSlave]

speaking of a prior experience that I had in my life:

I got it on with a friend once. He was a guy I had known for decades. Really really close friend. In my case, I cam on to him. . was horny, wanted him. . we fucked, and afterward we both felt a little awkward. When sex with close friends occurs, it can make for an awkward feeling. No you can't forget about the sex. . and no you can't exactly go back to where you were before you had sex.

In the case of my friend and I, we both decided that it was a one time deal and not something that we would repeat.

I am loathe to give advice in this area, besides maybe talking to him and telling him how you feel and seeing what is on his mind. That might help you, not sure. As others have said, your friend may be confused. You will never know, if you do not talk, I suppose.

 

[hornystudent994]

Not the wisest person here, but if he's going through a divorce, he's sexually frustrated, he's straight and you're a guy therefore he can't end up in a messy relationship with you....so its just a bit of fun? letting off some steam, he's probably just really horny, but if he started getting off with girls, he'd be scared that it could become more, and he doesn't need that right now?