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Okay, so there's a girl who I like, we've been seeing each other 2 months. She's pretty, dresses well, funny as hell, super kisser, great bjs... but when we go to fuck I lose it. She has a bit of a belly and a cottage cheese ass, I just lose my wood when we're gonna get down to it... It's both frustrating and disappointing as I like her a lot. It just seems my dick doesn't like her. This ever happened any of you guys? What do you do??
 
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Maybe you're just not attracted to her and only like her personality. This has never happened to me but I also would not try to have sex with someone I'm not attracted to. Those things you pointed out must be things you don't find too appealing about her or you wouldn't have mentioned then.
 

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Okay, so there's a girl who I like, we've been seeing each other 2 months. She's pretty, dresses well, funny as hell, super kisser, great bjs... but when we go to fuck I lose it. She has a bit of a belly and a cottage cheese ass, I just lose my wood when we're gonna get down to it... It's both frustrating and disappointing as I like her a lot. It just seems my dick doesn't like her. This ever happened any of you guys? What do you do??

Can’t do nothing about it. if I’m not sexually attracted to a woman I can’t do it; I tried before and I couldn’t even kiss the lady without gagging.

Btw a small to medium belly with cellulite , bottom heavy ect is what I prefer heavily. Different strokes...
 
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If I didn’t find her attractive I would not 1. Go out with her
2. I sure would not try to fuck her
It could be something beside what the other guys commented. Just pay attention next time and you’ll figure it out. I’m sure You wouldn’t try to fuck her if you didn’t find her attractive. Most guys don’t have to fuck girls they don’t find attractive. I know I didn’t!
 
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I do find her attractive though in lots of ways. She is so funny and has such a pretty face, great smile and we have lots to talk about and shared interests. I'm sort of surprised at myself - am I really shallow for not wanting to for not being able to fuck her?
 

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If you find her attractive why did you list those traits about her body in a away that implies you don't likes those things? You could have just said you lose wood with your gf with out describing what she looked like.

You can like her face but not like other parts of her as well I'm not judging you you probably just connect more emotionally with her than you do physically.
 
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If you find her attractive why did you list those traits about her body in a away that implies you don't likes those things? You could have just said you lose wood with your gf with out describing what she looked like.

You can like her face but not like other parts of her as well I'm not judging you you probably just connect more emotionally with her than you do physically.

Yeah, that's pretty fair comment. I guess I find her attractive in lots of ways, but not her figure. I'm sure there are things about me that she finds attractive and things she doesn't. I just I guess am surprised that I lost my wood when naked with her. How do porn guys do it? They have to fuck all kinds of girls, many of whom they don't find attractive at all
 

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Yeah, that's pretty fair comment. I guess I find her attractive in lots of ways, but not her figure. I'm sure there are things about me that she finds attractive and things she doesn't. I just I guess am surprised that I lost my wood when naked with her. How do porn guys do it? They have to fuck all kinds of girls, many of whom they don't find attractive at all
Porn is all performance the guys are either using something to stay hard injections mostly or they are just attracted to all types of people.

If you're not attracted to her why are you trying to force it.
 
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Sounds to me like one of two things.

1-She's your friend, and you enjoy her personality and company, but just aren't attracted to her sexually. You can still find your friends physically attractive, without being sexually attracted to them. This is most likely the answer.

2-you ACTUALLY like and subconsciously you're telling yourself to take your time with her and have sex with her when the time is actually right. As I got a bit older, this started happening to me more and more, I can't do a one night stand these days, I need to know the woman and be comfortable around her in order to have sex with her. We can make out and do some foreplay, but when it comes to actually having sex, there needs to be more than just a physical attraction for me.
 
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Am I a bad person for not liking a fat girl?
No. For the most part you can’t help who or what you’re sexually attracted to. There are other guys out there who are attracted to fat girls. Doesn’t make you any better or worse than them. Different strokes for different folks.
 
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Been there bro, had a chick with giant tits, great blowjobs, but when it came time for me to fuck her, dead dick. I wasn't attracted to her, other than her tits that is. The best advice I can offer is to get semi-drunk and try to fuck her or just enjoy the blowjobs until she says fuck it.
 
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Been there bro, had a chick with giant tits, great blowjobs, but when it came time for me to fuck her, dead dick. I wasn't attracted to her, other than her tits that is. The best advice I can offer is to get semi-drunk and try to fuck her or just enjoy the blowjobs until she says fuck it.

This probably is the way to go I guess
 
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This probably is the way to go I guess
No you're not a bad person. But if you do that you would be if you're not attracted to her let her know. Don't force it. You could just be friends but forcing a sexual aspect when there's no attraction makes no sense. It will just make it worse in the end. Being attracted to slimmer/average to more athletic body type is not a crime. Just be honest with her and yourself
 
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