Yeah but can we do more than chat
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Also there is no way he’s in his early 20’s. 30+ minimum. He looks like the 35 year old actors they had play college kids in American tv series ( smallvillle for example)
Why do you care what someone else wears or does? Seems like some internalized homophobia bullshit to me.
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Maybe but this is so selectively applied on this website though, frustrating
How sad you equate being affected and attention-seeking with homosexuality. You might smell bullshit, but I'd check your own shoes.
Sundai2010
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Don’t attack him for his opinion, because 50% of the gay community feels the exact same way whether they voice it or not.
You don’t know what I do for a living or how much information I have on this. To maintain my privacy, all I will say is that I guarantee I know more about the issue than you do and that femmephobia often stems from internalized homophobia that we develop as people raised in a heteronormative world. But my point still stands… Why do you care what someone else does? Why do you care what they wear? Why do you care how they talk? It has nothing to do with you. If you don’t like it, then don’t talk to them. But also, let people be who they want to be whether you approve or not.
What is attention seeking about it? You don’t know this person, so I’m assuming you’re basing it on the way that they look and you’re basing that upon arbitrary gender role norms that we as a culture have created. And why do you care?
You are entitled to your opinion about people, but I’m also entitled to point out that commenting on the way that other people live their lives when it doesn’t affect you is douchey. It’s like when straight people disavow gay marriage. Don’t like gay marriage? Don’t get one, but don’t stop other people from doing it. Don’t like abortion? Don’t get one, but don’t stop other people from having a choice. Don’t want to wear a dress or makeup or act a certain way? Then don’t do it, but let people do what they want.
I just don’t understand why that bugs you or why you needed to comment about the person being “attention-seeking” given that this isn’t a thread about him, you don’t know him, no one is forcing you to approve of his choices.
The toxicity in the gay community - femmephobia, fatphobia, racism, classism - needs to end and you could do your part to be better. I myself am always trying to do so, because I do find I lean into classist ideals as a middle-class person. That’s all I’m saying. I just don’t understand why this bugs you and I think you should evaluate that. There’s a lot of femmephobia and fatphobia on this website and it’s something we all can help change. If someone’s gender performance triggers you - even if it’s because you find it attention-seeking - that’s something to unpack. If you don’t think so, fine. But I do, and if you’re going to make a comment like you did, I’m going to speak up. And I’m not particularly feminine myself, for the record. But just because I won’t wear a dress doesn’t mean I need to make a big deal about other men doing so.
I agree. But i think I just hit a breaking point and felt the need to point it out. There’s way too much judgment on this site based around prejudice. You can not be into someone/something and not comment on it. A femme guy doesn’t need to see that comment the same way an overweight guy doesn’t need to see comments talking about “dad bods” or someone “letting themselves go” when a celebrity gains 10 pounds. But yes, I agree with you 100%.
Sundai2010
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My point still stands, everybody is entitled to their opinions and they have every right to voice it whether you agree with it or not. You seem to spend too much time questioning why someone feels that way when instead you should be thinking about why it is you feel as though you need to change someone’s mindset to match or conform to your own
LPSG Rule #2: If a hot pic or vid is not posted on a forum in adequate time, a cat fight will break out over something ridiculous. Posting any hot pic of the guy will usually distract them back to the point: We’re all just here to see some sexy dude take it off.
Someone took sophomore psych! Amazing you got all that from a couple quick posts. Regarding why comment on someone and judge them, why do you care, etc, etc, thesis paper, isnt this you?
"The pimples on his ass from doing it don’t help. I don’t get the appeal in general, but I did find him cute on The Circle. His whole personality and vibe has ruined it for me. And now I question what I was thinking in the looks dept too. His body is fine, but not worth spending money on. Kind of embarrassed I did!"
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