well i am a black man. Nothing is reclaimed by saying it. And I know you know that. This "virtuous" nonsense needs to end. Im sick of folks pretending to be upstanding folks when something like this happens. youre on a site that sexualizes men, most are married. Calling your white friend a name is not punishable by social death. This was an outsized response to an issue that's really only an issue because white liberals are always looking to be offended in the name of black people. It's not right.