What makes a sex act different as it relates to the double standard? If you're messing with the same sex(male or female) it's still the same thing. A man who decides to experiment with another male may not even engage in anal sex but jerk off together in exploration but later decides that's not for him and returns to solely dating women. To be honest, this probably happens with a lot of men more often than not but society makes it so taboo for them to talk about it. Yet, a woman having a brief lesbian encounter is cheered on and encouraged by the masses and doesn't define a woman's sexuality. smdh