Now I'm single and feeling so much anguish

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Hey everyone!

So I'm 27 and been dating this guys since I was 21. He was my first and only boyfriend, the only person I kissed or had sex. He broke up with me a week ago (he also broke up with me last year right on my birthday, but came back 3 months later) and I'm feeling a huge emptiness, lack of any purpose in my life.

I've never been a very communicative person. I have 1 friend now only, but I don't talk about my feelings with anyone, not even family. I'm using some date apps and Snapchat, but they don't help me in any sense.

A few days ago I started chatting with a guy who's 22, but he's from the other side of the country. I'm kinda having strong feelings about him, but I don't know if he does too (and it's too fkng soon right?) and it just makes me feel really bad. We chat everyday, and I think he's enjoying it, but I'm not sure if it's just pitty.

What would you do to feel better? I know i paved the road to a lonely life, but I hate it. I want to share my days with someone that's lovely, despite my lack of social skills.

 

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Hey everyone!

So I'm 27 and been dating this guys since I was 21. He was my first and only boyfriend, the only person I kissed or had sex. He broke up with me a week ago (he also broke up with me last year right on my birthday, but came back 3 months later) and I'm feeling a huge emptiness, lack of any purpose in my life.

I've never been a very communicative person. I have 1 friend now only, but I don't talk about my feelings with anyone, not even family. I'm using some date apps and Snapchat, but they don't help me in any sense.

A few days ago I started chatting with a guy who's 22, but he's from the other side of the country. I'm kinda having strong feelings about him, but I don't know if he does too (and it's too fkng soon right?) and it just makes me feel really bad. We chat everyday, and I think he's enjoying it, but I'm not sure if it's just pitty.

What would you do to feel better? I know i paved the road to a lonely life, but I hate it. I want to share my days with someone that's lovely, despite my lack of social skills.

1. Write a journal on how you feel, but keep this activity to afternoon. Do it everyday, what action you will take to meet people and move on. This is your worry time. Actions are below.
2. Any other time thought comes to mind, why this happening? tell yourself that you will brood or worry only during the worry time. Not during other parts of the day.
3. Move, push yourself… walk in the park, go to gym, yoga any kind of physical activity, even if your brain is pushing back. You always feel better after 10mins of activity. Going to gym, being active is good for you long term. Make this a daily habit increase this from 10 mins to an hour.
4. Eat healthy food, ditch the junk food.
5. Point 3 and 4 will gradually make you look better and build your confidence, you may attract more suitors. If you become a gym rat then there will be a line of folks waiting.
6. See a therapist. Someone you can talk in confidence.
7. No one person can make you happy. It is you who has to love yourself and build the strength become a new person. Therapists can still guide you.
8. Life is a journey and not a destination. In the long run you will find someone who will love you for who you are.