Nuvaring

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  1. dsimmons01

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    As mentioned here:
    http://www.lpsg.org/136277-dsimmons-pe-journal-4.html

    My wife has had a few medical issues which prevent us from having sex. One of which is her birth control she was on has given her problems. First she was on Lybrel and he spotting never went away. Then she switched to Yasmin, which worked fine, but she had no sexual desire and her breasts were to sensitive to touch. She just recently switched to Nuvaring. She seems to like it and when a few other things are worked out I think her desire is back, I am just wondering if anyone here has had any experience with nuvaring and if you had any comments on it.

    One side note, since she started N.R. her breasts appear to be getting bigger. She put on a low cut dress this weekend that she had not worn in a while and she barely could keep herself in at the top. (definitely not complaining about this part) Its kind of funny. I am doing PE and then this effect happens to her.
     
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    My ex gf used it. When she first put it back in after having it out for 'those days' the effect that the chemicals had was a very much increased odour. It went from smelling basically, the best of any I've had, to still not smelling bad - but definitely more potent. I also found that it pulled out with me fairly often. If I happened to get myself into it a certain way and push in her a certain way, it would hurt both of us.

    Effectiveness-wise though, no complaints. No scares. Nothin.
     
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    Hormone-based contraception scares the bejezus out of me the more I learn about it. If I were you, I'd consider leaving behind the drugs and using an IUD or diaphragm or condoms. The side effects, particularly later in years, can be life-threatening with some of forms of hormone-based contraception.
     
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    It's weird to me that thus far only men have answered in this thread. :rolleyes: The only thing I know about Nuva Ring is that I like the yellow bikinis the women wear in the commercial.:cool:

    Just checked your gallery, dude you have a fat cock! No wonder you pull out the nuvaring. :yup: According to it's website it's only 2" in diameter; which means 1/3 of the guys on this site would have the same problem.

    IUD's scare the hell out of me. :yikes: I know the modern ones are supposed to be safer, but I still remember the ones from the 1970's.:frown1: The diaphragm never appealed to me because it ruins spontaneity.
     
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    "According to it's website it's only 2" in diameter; which means 1/3 of the guys on this site would have the same problem."

    The penis actually goes over it, not through it. The ring shape is so that it will give and adjust to different women.

    And men are welcome to answer, but I was mainly looking for women's input because they would have experienced it. How did it feel? Normal time and during sex. Did it come out? Any hormonal effects? Like I said above, we have not had sex yet, but I did notice my wife's breasts growing. Did anyone else go through this? Weight gain/loss?
     
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    Hmm.. i guess not.
    Well as we go along I will post our experience so if anyone else needs the info.. it will be on here.
    Here is run down: (even though I have already said most of this)

    1. She seems a lot less moody since switching from yasmin.
    2. She has actually wanted sex, compared to never wanting it on yasmin.
    3. No taking pills every night. Put it in on day 5 of period, take it out after 3 weeks.
    4. Her breasts have started growing. She was a big 36B/small 36C and now she is filling out the C almost completely.
    5. I will report whether or not I feel it the first time we have sex.

    Ill keep you updated.
     
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    I've been on transvaginal estrogen in a ring form for years. It's a flexible rubber ring that i never even think about until i need an Rx refill. It stays in for 90 days. I've never noticed it during sex, or when he fingers me. He says he feels it with his fingers but not his penis. He's never hit it wrong. It's never been painful. I can wear tampons with it. It's never sliped out of place. IN fact, the son of a bitch is a pain in the ass to get a hold of and pull out. I usually make my husband do it.

    Mine is quite a bit thicker than the thin nuvaring. It's pretty hearty.
     
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    I actually know a woman named Yasmin.

    I think pharmaceutical companies should come up with product names more like hardware manufacturers do. How about the "JizzKill" birth control device? Or "The SpermStopper"? Those would be products I would trust.
     
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    Well tomorrow she gets done with her adjustment time to nuvaring so it will be safe for us to have sex. Hopefully all is well and no issues. We will see how it is.
     
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    My cousin didn't like the NuvaRing. She said it made her really slimey down there, and she ended up getting an infection. :eek:

    That's kind've why I decided against it. I get infections very easily.

    But...my uncle's girlfriend loves it. I was so grossed out when she said this...but she said my uncle can't feel it during sex. She hasn't had any problems with it.

    Hahaha! That would be hilarious. :biggrin1:
     
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    Still nothing :( She has been really busy and "not in the mood" for weeks now. Im hoping this isnt a side effect of the ring. We have dealt with some other stuff sexually too that I thought her getting off the pill would fix.. I may talk about this later if it doesnt get better soon.
     
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    I had a girl with one and I hated it! I always caught it with my fingers and if I didn't take it out, then I'd hit it with my dick. After the first time I caught it in the urethra with a hard push, that fucker always came out before I went it. It's really gross too. When you pull it out, it's all slimy (duh) and then you have to set it down some where... then you pick it up after and it's all full of dog hair... Ugh...
     
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    Ok so.. im just going to put this out there. My wife and I got married last summer. We were both virgins and both excited about starting our sexual life together. Being virgins, we knew sex would be a work in progress but were both excited... or so I thought.
    About 6 months before we got married, my wife started her first birth control pill... Lybrel. This made her moody, left her spotting all the time, and made her have 0 desire for any type of contact with me. We didnt kiss... nothing. It was a terrible experience for her. 2 months before the wedding, she switched to yasmin. Yasmin cleared most everything up... except the desire part. We got married and on the honeymoon things progressed. She hurt a lot at first (virgin) and it slowly decreased toward the end of the honeymoon (although not fast enough for her) When we came home, we had less sex because for 1.. we were busier, and 2. She didnt want it. It hurt her some but not too bad... but she got no pleasure. (and i tried everything... she didnt want me to touch her.. she said her boobs were too sensative)
    About a month after we got married, it was time for her pap smear (sp). During this exam, they found a small blip of tissue on her cervix. They said it was probably nothing, but that they wanted to do a biopsy to be sure. They did and advised us not to have sex for a few weeks. After this, our real problems began. She was so scared of sex... of me hitting her cervix. Since she had no desire for sex, she wasnt aroused at all, her vagina just wasnt ready for a penis so it hurt. Her nervousness makes her not relax her muscles down there so no matter how much I lubricate, it hurts her. We finally decided to get her off of yasmin.
    Her Dr put her on Nuvaring to give her a new start. He said he would help us with the pain part and that we shouldnt use condoms during the wait time because it usually makes the pain problem worse. Well... During this time we could not have sex, she actually got turned on.. the first time really since we were married... she was grabbing me and even went down on me.. which hadnt happened in a long time. BUT.. we could not finish with sex because the nuvaring was not in her system. Now it is and she is scared again. We finally did have sex, but she was totally not into it.. I could tell all she could think about it that she doesnt want it to hurt. Does anyone know anything to try to calm her down so we can finally enjoy the sex life we wanted when we got married. I want nothing more than to pleasure my wife. Its all I care about. She tried drinking some wine an hour or so before we had sex, but it still didnt relax her.

    Any input is welcome.
     
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    Try two glasses of wine half an hour before. :smile: Alcohol fixes all kinds of problems.

    I had a girlfriend that, due to past experience, hated receiving oral. She was so focused on not "knowing" she'd hate it, she wouldn't let herself enjoy it. We were drinking rather heavily one night, and one thing lead to another and I wound up going down on her. Since she was so relaxed, she was more focused on enjoying herself. She never had a problem with it afterwards.

    Her thinking it's going to hurt is going to make it hurt. If she can't relax, there's not much you can do. I'm not saying get her fall down drunk, but a little tipsy might not hurt. Also, you want to make her as aroused as possible. Try oral for a while until she orgasms. I don't know how she'll react specifically, by after a few oral orgasms, my girlfriend is almost insane with cock lust.

    I think your biggest problem is that you know she's not ready but you keep trying to push it in anyways. It's going to hurt. She knew it'd hurt and it does. You're only reinforcing dick = pain. Start with a finger and play for a while. Try two. Get a small toy. Make sure she's ready before you try anything.

     
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    Thanks Kayden. Good input and let me add a little more info. I want to take more time with her. I know shes not ready... but she isnt getting turned on so she wants to get on with it. (I know.. makes me feel great huh) so anyway.. i want to do oral on her, and use my finger, but she just doesnt want it.
    Now I promise she really does love me... because I am sure from looking at this, you would think she wasnt in to me at all. She cries about this because she wants to make me happy. She also has some self confidence issues which she shouldnt have because she is beautiful. So she has a lot against her so I am trying to chip away at it any way I can.
     
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    Figured I'd at least make my first post count.

    My fiancé was using the nuvaring for two years. During that time she began to develop horrible migraines that she had never had before. (at the time the two seemed non related).

    Because the headaches were so intense we actually got her a ct scan to be sure it wasn't something else.

    Her older sister and mother on occasion had migraines too, but not to this degree. It took some research and time but we learned that the hormones that the ring produces can be intense enough to trigger the migraines and increase their frequency.

    As soon as we learned it, we took her off that, put her on the pill and they stopped within a few weeks. The exact same scenario happened with my friend's wife.

    Both of their obgyn's have said they heard the ring may be soon taken off the market due to the side effects. I know everyone is different, but I felt this was important enough to share.
     
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    There's nothing quite as romantic as, "hurry up and cum," eh? :frown1:

    She sounds like she had a fairly strict catholic upbringing. Sex is bad and you're evil for wanting it type stuff. Wanting to please you is a far cry from wanting to have sex. If she doesn't desire you physically... there really isn't much you can do. It sounds like she's ashamed to have you touch her. You can't force foreplay on her and you can just stuff your dick in either. I've never had such a repressed or inhibited girl before.

    Go out for a few drinks and have a good time. Compliment her and try to make her feel pretty. Focus on getting her to relax and have fun with you. When you get home, have a shower so she feels clean. When you get out, lick the water off her body with slow, long kisses. Run your hands up and down her body. Work your mouth around her body from her neck to her shoulders, down her back, around her waist, across her stomach, down her hips and along her thigh. Once you get to her mid thigh, work around to the inside and start back up running your tongue up her inner thigh. Once you get to her labia, gently skip over them with a hot deep exhale on your way to the other thigh. Kiss down the thigh and lick your way back up. If she seems willing, gently raise a leg onto your shoulder. Start by gently kissing her labia and massaging her back/ass with your hands. If she's still receptive, slowly work your tongue inside.

    I hope you can take it from there because I need a cold shower now.

     
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    Hi Daniel,

    I'd start by taking penetrative sex out of the equation completely - and telling her that. I love Kayden's idea (can I sex that to my partner? ;) of just pleasuring her, showing her that you recognise her as an amazing, beautiful, sexual being.

    Step 2 gets a bit more tricky. Once she feels happy start to experiment with penetration, use a lot of lube and stop every time she feels any pain. Your body learns to associate actions with pain, you can't help it, your vagina just goes "nope, dat's gonna hurt" - you have to re-reducate it and let it know it's ok.

    It's not easy, it's something I'm facing right now, I'm here because I'm trying to deal with nuva ring side effects and an 8 inch partner with a girth as big as my wrist. He also has great control and can easy keep going for 45 minutes, or until my vagina falls apart.

    I've had months of agony, being stretched and ripped to pieces when I spasm around him at orgasm, and now I've ended up in pain every time we try penetrative sex - now we're trying to re-educate my body. Let's hope it works for all of us!
     
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