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hey guys, so i'm a single straight SWM living in LA. i just wanted to vent and get your thoughts and feedback on dating. there are lots of beautiful women in LA. i have online accounts on match and OKCupid. In both of my accounts i make reference to my size. On Match, it's less overt, i make oblique references to Boogie Nights, 50 shades of grey and the size of my shoe... on OKC, i simply mention i have a 10 inch penis.

i get some phone numbers, but either way, every woman i meet wants a relationship. it's a bit frustrating. If i'm honest and say i just want sex, no woman will respond.

I guess my question is how do you meet women who want sex? I can't stand the courting process in LA. There is so much BS with women, game playing, etc. it's exhausting.

I've never had a prostitute and that doesn't really appeal to me. i just want a friend with benefits, but i can't seem to find women who are okay with that. they ALL want relationships.

Should i just be in bars looking to hook up? thoughts? suggestions? thank you!
 
Well for starters, you're going to have a hell of a time finding women like that on OkCupid. Despite what experience some may have had (With them wanting a serious relationship and finding only sexual people), that's generally not what you'll find...at least in my experience on that site. That's a site where you go when you want something a bit more than just sex. Not sure about Match, since I never really bothered to pay for it to get the "full experience" of it.

It's the courting system everywhere, though, not just LA. If you want to meet women that just want sex, you need to go to sites that the main focus is just hooking up. Though I'm afraid I can't really help you on pointing any out, as I only know the gay ones that exist. I'm sure another straight guy that posts might be able to help you out.

Going to the bars works, though. It's always worth a shot.

That's some weird luck you're having, though. My single straight friends constantly complain about the opposite. I've never heard of someone having trouble finding a woman purely for sexual purposes before, just as I've never heard that problem with pretty much anyone of any orientation (it's certainly not one for gay guys in my experience. <.<)
 
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Thank you Nicholas. Actually, OKC is more alternative than Match. Match is more vanilla. and the problem ive had with sites like Adult Friend Finder is they cost a shit load of money and are usually fake female profiles and the real profiles are of fat ugly women.

where do you live? i'm confused what you mean about your friends having the opposite experience? you mean your straight friends complain about women always wanting sex? if that's the case, i should move there.

sadly for me, most gay men want sex, so if i was gay, i'd be getting laid all the time. but sadly, i LOVE women :(
 
AtYourCervix10 said:
Thank you Nicholas. Actually, OKC is more alternative than Match. Match is more vanilla. and the problem ive had with sites like Adult Friend Finder is they cost a shit load of money and are usually fake female profiles and the real profiles are of fat ugly women.

where do you live? i'm confused what you mean about your friends having the opposite experience? you mean your straight friends complain about women always wanting sex? if that's the case, i should move there.

sadly for me, most gay men want sex, so if i was gay, i'd be getting laid all the time. but sadly, i LOVE women :(
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Huh, you must be running into some interesting ones since I find OkCupid to be incredibly vanilla, especially compared to other sites that I've been to. Again though, I can't really say much compared to match since I never really cared enough to be on there for more than a day as a free member.

That's one reason I like OKC though, is because for the most part, it's entirely free. I hate when sites charge you when you want to check and send emails to people and the like...it's a bit silly.

I live two states above you, actually. And yes, that's what I meant. My single straight friends I have look for the serious relationships, and they end up complaining because they get the women that only want sex. I dunno, maybe it's just the type of people you draw? Sometimes we tend to really draw people that are the exact opposite of what we're wanting.

Haha, well I'd gladly trade you, though I'll keep my sexuality. But you can have all the women that want only sex, and I'll take the men that actually want a relationship. I know they exist somewhere!
 
Craigslist - casual encounters seems like the place for you.

It should be noted though, very rarely do I find that any woman just wants sex. I've been in sexually based relationships, and even then we did other things besides sex like movies/brunch/public events/etc. Sex was what the relationship was based on, but it wasn't the norm to just get together for just sex alone.

I've only found one girl ever who just strictly wanted sex. I'd go to her place after work, have sex right away, talk for a little, maybe have sex again and then leave. It was kind of odd frankly, and the odds you can find someone like that are slim to none I'd think.
 
Nicholas, can you Private message me? where do you live? Maybe i'll make a road trip. your straight friends, where do they meet these girls? clubs? bars? where are they?!

KTF, you're right. i've done the Craigs list thing. Mostly gay men and SPAM email responses. i did have one hot girl that messaged me on there, but we never met. Maybe i will try again. it is free, but again, it was a lot of SPAM and mostly GAY men.

wish i was gay :(
 
I live over near the Seattle area, actually. Heck if I know where they meet the people they do, though I'd say a lot of it is online. I'm sure there's plenty of it in the bars and clubs though, you just have to scope around and get a feel for the one that you feel like would have the best atmosphere of what you're looking for. Considering that you live in LA, that shouldn't be too much of a problem, as I'm sure there's at least one bar out there that'll fit your needs.

You could always "experiment" with a guy, you know. It's becoming a common thing among straight guys these days...or "straight" guys, whichever you want to call it. At least, that's what all of those ads on some of the gay websites seem to keep pushing at me. :\
 
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KTF, you're right. i've done the Craigs list thing. Mostly gay men and SPAM email responses. i did have one hot girl that messaged me on there, but we never met. Maybe i will try again. it is free, but again, it was a lot of SPAM and mostly GAY men. (
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Two things.

1) Try out the mw4m section. There are a lot of guys on there who want well-endowed men to fuck their significant other.

2) Craigslist is often no different than a bar or club. It's extremely looks based. So being fit and attractive can at times be more important than the size of your dick. It's not as if when you're out in public you whip your dick out to get female attention, you know? You can mention you are well endowed, but probably better off posting a pic showing your body in a positive light than pic of your cock. Or perhaps a pic of your dick that leaves a little to the imagination.
 
Nicholas, you could always, ASK your close straight friends where they meet these girls. when you mentioned that your straight friends had the opposite problem, i was assuming that you actually talked to your friends. Right?

KTF, thanks for the tip. i'll check that out. and sadly yes, that's a problem. i mean, i'm a good looking guy, but i'm not the typical tall dark and handsome type. i'm blonde blue eyes and sadly i can't just whip it out. Women sadly have no idea. there's no way for me to allude to it, so i have to chat them up at bars and "get to know them" which is exhausting. sigh...

i've just posted some cock shots on CL we'll see what happens.

i think ultimately, i'm fighting evolution and DNA on this one and i can't win. women are programmed to want relationships. but i don't get it. with all this 50 shades of grey stuff, i thought women were sexually liberated, etc.
 
:rofl:

you should down play the 10 inch dick...
focus more on your sense of humor :wink:
 
I have the solution for all your problems. In the long run, it will save you time, money and all the effort of courting and the exhausting process of getting to know women personally before bedding them.

And before you think I'm being facetious, think carefully about it. Could be a wonderful investment. Beautiful, always in the mood and right at your fingertips.
 
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Fishing with your dick is not going to catch many girls. Try using your personality instead. Even one night stands like a little wit.

Failing that, throw money at the problem; a clean '65 Mustang works with a lot of 'em.
 
*pictures Mr. Vince in clean '65 mustang*
*liquifies from white hot sexual attraction*


this man... hard science.. he's givin'
*gurble*
 
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