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[blackbottom2]

Hi- have met a guy who wants to fuck me all the time the trouble is he is very big and the pain comes about twice- first when he puts it in second when he shoves it in deep, it gets like really sore and uncomfortable- any tips or should i just put up and shut up cos he is a really nice guy and tries to be as gentle as possible but you know what its like a good banging is very enjoyable-last time he did it there was a bit of blood not enough to cause concern and i am fine now - but it frightened me off it for a bit- have had a guy abot the same size as him many years ago but he was curved and a bit thicker now that was not painfull at that time. while he was fucking me he just made me leak copious precum that was mixed with spunk -- i wanna achieve the same sensations again

 

[Rubenesque]

You shouldn't just put up and shut up.. sex should be about mutual pleasure, not just all his!! And any blood is cause for concern.

You need to prepare, don't just go at it... I'm sure some of the guys are going to be able to offer some good advice.

 

[smoothrnb]

Definitely talk to your partner and tell him your concerns as well as how well he performs. If he truly cares about you and your well-being, he will take steps not to cause you harm and pain. Try different positions to have sex. Have you tried squatting onto his cock? This will give you more control over how deep his cock penetrates you. Additionally, make sure you are well-lubed and relaxed before he inserts.

Hope these suggestions help...

 

[blackbottom2]

thanks for the info really nice to know someone out there cares so musch - have always made sure im well lubed and prepared but it just does not seem to make any diferance which position i take him the pain is still the same- am beginning to feel it may be me not relaxing enough- otr conversely is it him and he just likes to seem my face when he gives me pain- he has talked about wanting to tie me up during sex but dont think i can trust him for that yet- i would not be able to control his thrusts or when to stop

 

[smoothrnb]

From what I read in your last post, I believe your problem may be that you do not feel completely comfortable with this guy. That's okay. I had the same problem before I met my current partner (we have been together for 8 years now.). I met lots of nice and sexy guys, but I never felt "connected" to them (Thus, I was not completely comfortable with them.), and sex with these men was okay, but not what I wanted.

I stand by my original advice to you. (Communication between sex partners always helps.) But, I also think you need to sort out in your mind if you can achieve a degree of trust with this man that will allow you to feel comfortable around him, especially during sex. If you can answer adequately this question (for yourself), then you will know if you have a sexual future with this guy. One very nice guy told me never settle for "second best sex!" I took his advice and found my current partner.

 

[jeff black]

Without sounding rude, couldn't you ask him for more foreplay? Get him to play withy our asshole, get some lubricant on your ass, and then some more on his dick, and then some more on his condom.... The more lube you use, and the more he plays with your asshole, the better it is going to feel.

I thought that was common sense. You can't just slam a cock inside an ass and NOT be prepped.

If he won't do it, tell him to fuck off. You are gonna be pretty pissed if he tears something inside you and you need to go to the doctors because you are bleeding everywhere.

 

[cklover]

I hate to say this, but it seems like he's in the sadistic side of the fence, and your putting up with his insensitivity hints that you are a masochist. Otherwise, if he is truly into BUTT, he would kiss and lick and suck and tongue your ass and hole until you were relaxed, horny, and receptive...and you would never hook up with him again until you got what you needed.

 

[carlton10]

More foreplay with fingers then escalated sized dildos should do the job-u would be prepped and ready to go for the real thing.

 

[texjoe]

Check my earlier posting on problems with pain, and some techniques...

http://www.lpsg.org/sex-with-a-large-penis/39441-large-penis-anal-sex-threads.html

 

[blackbottom2]

hi-thanks for your replies- it seems as though there has to be a balance between foreplay and penetration cos i believe that extended foreplay can also irritate and the irritation can make the musles contract thereby making the penetration diffficult- yeh unfortunately i do like the idea of being in his control but only when i am used to taking a penis and in particular one of his size- i just wish i had started taking cock younger then there would not be all this difficulty