Participate in an orgy with your partner...

[heyislucas]

Do you think this could bring problems to the relationship?

 

[nomju]

It didn't with us. We swung regularly until my wife hit the menopause. We would go to a swingers club in our nearest big city, and although it was usually us coupling off, there was one big massive orgy room, where it was just a melee of dick, tits and pussy.
But all couples are different. We trusted each other outside of the swinging scene. It may have different effects on different couples.

 

[chrisrobin]

Much depends on what parameters you lay down before you indulge. My ex always wanted to indulge in any orgy going, play the field, take as many cocks in one night as he could, orally and anally - with him is was a must, whereas I would go, pick a fuck and that was it till we went home.
The problem happens when orgies are the most important things in life, or when one partner finds a fuck buddy they lust.
So, does indulging in multi person sexaul activity harm a relationship, the answer has to be - proceed with caution.

 

[heyislucas]

It didn't with us. We swung regularly until my wife hit the menopause. We would go to a swingers club in our nearest big city, and although it was usually us coupling off, there was one big massive orgy room, where it was just a melee of dick, tits and pussy.
But all couples are different. We trusted each other outside of the swinging scene. It may have different effects on different couples.

I agree

 

[elklindoxxx]

Do you think this could bring problems to the relationship?

Why do think it would bring problems to a relationship?

 

[heyislucas]

Why do think it would bring problems to a relationship?

Haha, yeah okay... why not? Many people tend to have that kind of problems in relationships. You must have a very good head so that that doesn't happen. I get with you, What would this bring problems?, but many people will tell you this: Why not?

 

[HungBtmVegas]

I've dated multiple men whom either watched, participated, or allowed their friends to gangbang or blowbang me, so it really depends on what sexual liberties or fetishes you have as a couple.

 

[heyislucas]

I've dated multiple men whom either watched, participated, or allowed their friends to gangbang or blowbang me, so it really depends on what sexual liberties or fetishes you have as a couple.

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[HungBtmVegas]

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Both of you?

 

[elklindoxxx]

Haha, yeah okay... why not? Many people tend to have that kind of problems in relationships. You must have a very good head so that that doesn't happen. I get with you, What would this bring problems?, but many people will tell you this: Why not?

Your presupposition is that if a couple goes to an orgy, then you assume there will be problems. Why do think there will be problem(s) if a couple engages in group sex?

 

[Vastian]

Only been in a few group activities with a partner. The first one was in college and I thought it was a great fun time and everyone was having fun. But then afterwards when the third fell asleep the bf at the time snuck off to the bathroom after a bit i went to check on him and he was crying. Turns out the sex was fun but wasn't something he was ready for. The other times were just interesting nights.

 

[thickcockjames]

Guess it depends on how you communicate with one another before, after and during. Talk about your boundaries, and scenarios that would make you and/or your partner uncomfortable. Find ways to nonverbally communicate that to one another so in the heat of the moment you don’t accidentally cross a boundary.

I guess it’s really a gamble if neither of you have ever been in one then neither of you really know what kind of mental or emotional toll it’ll take on you to experience it, and to watch your partner experience it as well.

Set boundaries, and expectation, then respect them and if you’re both open and honest about those boundaries and expectations then you should be okay.

 

[elklindoxxx]

My partner and I go with other couples. For us there was a gradual adjustment for when we first started talking about opening up our relationship. We actually went to a therapist first to help us transition from a monogamous to an open relationship. That is something which takes some time. Our first experience was at a couples event and we didn't have sex with anybody. It was, let's talk to these couples and get a good idea to what their experiences were like. Because it was a matter of exploring and expanding our sexual boundaries.

It's just just wasn't realistic to say....Ok, let's go to an orgy the first time around? Going from that mentality from being a monogamous couple then to being a couple who attends swinger events is something that takes quite a bit of time.