Prayers For Bobby

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    Have you seen this Lifetime movie ? Or have you read the book ? If so, what are your thoughts and views on this movie/book ?
     
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    I for one haven't done either. However, the one thing I can tell you for sure.. I'm so glad it's aired so the fucking commercials are finally gone. They were getting really tiresome. Another thing, from the commercials I've figured out the mother was a serious church going woman WHO instead of loving and accepting her son who just happened to be gay, she pushed him away. I also got from the commercials, that after the unfortunate incident of his death, the movie was made to have sympathy for the mother and her loss. You reap what you sew.
    One more thing, I don't care for Sigorney Weaver, in anything. Just my thoughts.
     
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    The movie is a true story, and I wept like a baby. It was sad all the way through. And back then it was when homosexuality was a disease still. The mother now is a huge lgbt supporter and huge advocate.

    This movie is a must see for anyone I must say.
     
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    Hmmm. maybe I will try to give it a watch, the commercials irritated the hell out of me.
     
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    Ditto. I like Weaver but Lifetime movies tend to be so much retread of the tired women's drama formula that I'm not holding much hope.
     
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    I hate lifetime too. But this movie, not only is a true story, it was made beautifully, and brought a positive message.
     
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    Yeah, Lifetime movies are usually cheesy, and dumb, but this movie is very moving. I think it's a must watch for everyone, cause it really teaches a valueble lesson.
     
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    I agree the commercials were getting on my nerves as well but it was a very good movie.
     
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    Oh my GOD!! I cried so hard at the end of the movie I had a hard time controlling myself. Never in my life have I cried that hard, I don't know what came over me but the story, and Sigourney Weavers AMAZING performance, really touched something deep in me that burst open the flood gates. It was almost scary.
    I didn't even know it was a true story until the closing credits, which of course made me cry even harder and longer. It literally took me about 4 hours to get myself to a point where I wouldn't cry just from thinking of it.
     
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    It can be viewed on Lifetime's website as well. I thought it was a little over done, but the final message is good. It is a shame that it took her son's suicide for her to realize how wrong she was. I hope she receives forgiveness.
     
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    i am with tallhung!!
    this movie shredded me and opened up some hurts from growing up that i then could deal with!!
     
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    It's a beautifully written book. I am a professional writer and editor, and it's such a perfectly flawless text that I wouldn't have changed a single word in the entire book! I also knew the author quite well, but I would say all of this about the book whether I knew him or not. I probably won't see the movie, though; I'd rather just remember and probably reread the book.
     
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    I cried also...."
    I was so PISSED at the mother and the darn whole family! The cousin was the only one that he had. I felt so freaking bad for the boy. His family was a bunch of over the top holy rollers. But, he gave up and that made me even more sad. I remember when I wanted to get the hell out of Mo., and I was so down. My momma gave me a ton of encouragement and I am here today and seen a lot of the world because of her.
    The movie was really good. But, that mother of his was no HERO!!!
     
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    I saw a movie a while back--for the life of me I can't remember what it was (it's driving me nuts)--in which a young man was suffering terribly because he was rejected for being gay. It just broke my heart. Even though I knew he was a fictional character, he was real to me, because I knew that there were a million real boys just like him.

    Bobby was one of those real boys. And yet, Prayers for Bobby didn't move me the way that fictional movie did. That's not a critique of the movie. I think maybe I'm not letting myself feel the tragedy of it, because it would hurt too much.

    But I'm not made of stone. There were moments in the film that brought tears to my eyes. There's one particularly wrenching scene in which Mary Griffith's acknowledges that she had always known her son was different, and she realizes that God didn't cure him because there was nothing wrong with him. I can't imagine what it must be like to be a parent and to have to face the realization that you drove your child to suicide. I don't know how someone lives with that, and I can't help feeling for her. But my feelings are all mixed up. I'm angry that she didn't have the courage to face her son's sexuality when he was still alive--because if she had he might still be alive--but I'm so glad and so proud that she finally did what so few people are able to do: She changed. She changed her mind, she changed herself, she analyzed a lifetime of beliefs and assumptions and when she found that they didn't hold up, she let go of them. She confronted and accepted the truth about her son, and about herself, and she allowed it to transform her. That takes tremendous strength and courage, and she deserves our respect.

    There's another scene at the end that I know will bring mixed reactions from this crowd. I won't describe it in detail, but it's one of those scenes that's deliberately designed to pull at your heartstrings. I know some people here will find it overly sentimental and just too much, but at the time I was watching it, I was in no mood to be my usual cynical self--perhaps because I was at my parents' house visiting for my mother's birthday--so I let myself be moved by it, by the beauty of its sentiment.

    Watch it or don't watch it, as you see fit. But if you decide to watch it, set aside your cynicism and silence your inner critic, and just let yourself experience the story, in all its ugliness and in all its beauty.
     
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    I haven't seen the movie or read the book.
    I will take this as a recommendation.
     
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