So im 20 and in my first serious long term relationship. We've been together for 2 years and I'm still suffering from ligtening speed cumming. We're talking a minute at most. This is really hurting our sex life and too embarrassed to talk to anybody about this. Is there anything i can do?
just relax and take your time..i too was a quick cummer in my early 20's and what i found that worked for me was to take my cock out as soon as i felt that i was close to cumming and go back to pleasuring my girl with my mouth for a while until the urge went then change positions and go back to penetration.. Probably wont work for all but it helped me get over my quick fire problem
Also, lie down on your back and get her to ride you. I have found that I go longer when i'm on my back for some reason and I have heard others say the same thing. Odd but give it a go!
I too have the same issue. I have been with the same women for 20 years and almost every time we have sex I ejaculate immediately. I am about 6" thick and she has a very tight vagina. I think the added friction adds to my demise. I find that if she is well lubricated that helps a little or if she is on top that also helps. I never had this problem with any other women I could always go for days, but with my wife her vagina is so tight she knows how to squeeze it out of me. It is frustrating. I guess the moral to the story is lubrication!
Go to the urologist and get prescribed zoloft. Worked like a champ for me. It is an anti-depressant, but one of the side effects is keeping you from cuming too quick. 50mg once a day was enough for me. I went from premature to being able to cum whenever I want. If I take 75mg it is too much and I don't ever cum which is more frustrating than cuming too quick. After a while you can stop taking it and its like you body has learned has learned how to control itself and it doesn't happen anymore. You can also try the Trojan extended pleasure condoms if you don't want to get medicated.
Wkston, I would try the natural approach before heading to the medical drug box. You are still young so give the natural approach. Just like your biceps and forearm need to be strenght to lift stuff, its the same way your penile muscle need stregthing through exerises, here is a brief research. Its help me to last longer. I am going to teach this to my son when he get older too. Controlling ejaculation is a huge issue for many men, one that they are often too embarrassed to bring up. How do I control myself? How can I last longer, be firmer and do better? The answer is working out your pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles, by doing Kegel exercises for men. PC muscles control the flow of semen and urine, the firmness of your penis during erection and the shooting power of your ejaculation. They are important, and if kept very strong, will see you into your golden years with a fantastical hard on. The great thing about Kegel exercises for men is that you can do them anywhere, anytime -- and nobody will know the difference. You will be able to have better sex by being able to better control your orgasms and ejaculations, and last for longer, plus you may get the added kudos of being able to hold up a wet towel with your erection if you practice these Kegel exercises for men. How do I know where my PC muscles are? The easiest way to find them is to stop your flow of urine next time you go to the bathroom. Another way to isolate them is to put your finger inside your anus; when you contract the right muscles, your anus will tighten. However you decide to find them, once they are found you need to practice feeling exactly where they are located -- it is easy to overcompensate for weak muscles by using the abdominals, buttocks or thighs. These must all stay relaxed when doing Kegel exercises for men. Now, on to the daily Kegel exercises for men. Note: These exercises are done hands-free. You do not “squeeze” anything with your hands as they are all done with your PC muscles. kegel session 1 Exercise A Sets: 3 Quickly clench and release repeatedly for 10 seconds. Take a 10-second break between sets. Exercise B Sets: 10 Clench and release repeatedly for 5 seconds. Take a 5-second break between sets. Exercise C Sets: 3 Tighten and hold your PC muscle for 30 seconds. Take a 30 second break between sets. That’s it for today, but repeat these Kegel exercises for men daily for one week. kegel session 2 Exercise A Sets: 10 Clench and hold your PC muscle for 5 seconds. Release and repeat. Exercise B Sets: 3 Quickly clench and release your PC muscle 10 times. Exercise C Sets: 3 Clench and release your PC muscle alternatively in long and short bursts for counts of 10. Exercise D Sets: 1 Tighten your PC muscle and hold for as long as you can. Aim for 2 minutes. You can do the session 2 Kegel exercises for men for a week; however, feel free to progress if you feel you are strong enough. Remember that these are strengthening exercises, so start off slowly and build up, just like you would with any other muscle. kegel session 3 Exercise A Sets: 30 (work your way up to more than 100) Clench and release your PC muscle over and over again. Exercise B Sets: 5 Tighten as much as you possibly can (ensure that you are only squeezing your PC muscle). Hold for 20 seconds. Take a 30-second break between sets. kegel session 4 Exercise A Sets: As many as you like. Clench and release your PC muscle for 2 minutes every day. Work your way up to doing 20 minutes 3 times a day -- you should eventually be able to perform 200 repetitions per session. When can I do Kegels? You can do Kegel exercises for men anytime, anywhere; there are very few places you can’t practice this. It is not recommended, however, to do these exercises when you are trying to concentrate on something else, as you may find yourself quite distracted. A great place to do them is on the couch in front of the TV or while stuck at traffic lights. How will I know when something is happening? You will know because you will be able to feel it, and so will your lover. A harder penis, better control and longer lasting sex are all benefits of having strong PC muscles. There is absolutely no excuse for not having these important sexual muscles in excellent working order. If you have trouble with premature ejaculation, try these exercises before you head to the pharmacy or your health professional. What not to do Don’t overdo it. It is often tempting to throw yourself into something head on, especially when it means better sex. However, as with any other muscle you are working out, you need to give it some time to heal between sessions. This means regular rests and not overdoing it. If you follow the exercise schedule as you see fit, you should soon be great -- listen to your body. It knows what it’s talking about! Don’t use any other muscle during the exercises. It is sometimes difficult to isolate the PC muscles, especially if they are weak. Be aware of what you are doing, and if you feel like you are contracting any other muscles (mainly abdominals and thighs), then you need to relax and start again. Just remember that it might take a few weeks to build up some strength. Keep at it.
This surprises me...Generally speaking it's frowned upon to prescribe sertraline (or any other antidepressant for that matter) for this reason. Was this a family doctor or a psychiatrist?
Omegaman.... you're a legend for posting this info.......will give it a go as staying power can sometimes be a bit of an issue for me....I blame the GF for being so damn fuckin hot!!!!! hahahaha..... And a BIG thanx to WKSTON for having the balls to post this thread....good work bro!
50 MG of Viagra will help. Also woman on top helps. If you're in your 20s, you might be surprised to find that you can cum a second time pretty quickly and with much more control.
Agree with Quiet, I used to cum too soon when I was in my teens and early 20s, but found if I kept fucking after I'd cum, without withdrawing, I stayed hard and was able to keep going until I had a second cum, much later, and after my girls had usually had their orgasms. I have tried wanking before going out on a date but that didn't work. My ex occasionally used to wank me off as foreplay, that excited her and guaranteed her a longer fucking session. You could get your girl to do likewise. Also, here in the UK they sell a brand of condoms with de-sensitising gel in the tip. They have worked OK for me when swinging.
