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Person A meets Person B and dates for a while. They both had recent tragedies through which they initially bonded. But they connected and stayed with each other through shared interests, hobbies and politics and other beliefs. They become exclusive, and eventually Person B invites Person A to move into their home. So now they live together happily and with no arguments or disagreements for a while (let's say, 9 months).
Until one day. They are both doing a mutually enjoyed activity, though Person A has less experience - Person B, who is more experienced, offers some advice which is contrary to how Person A had gotten used to doing it, but they try the advice anyway and mess up. Person A then gets really frustrated and lashes out, saying something along the lines of, "If I had done it my own way, I wouldn't have messed up." Although, it's not known for sure that Person A doing it their own way would have actually achieved a better result. So Person B gets offended, and a little while later approaches Person A about the incident. Person A says, "I know you're better at this but if I don't ask for advice then I don't want it, I was doing fine until then." Person A gives some kind of glare at Person B while saying this which offends Person B even more. They sleep in separate rooms that night and do separate activities all the next day with no interaction.
The next morning (2 days after the incident), Person A is in the kitchen having breakfast while Person B comes in and asks them, "What are you doing here?" Person A says that they need to talk and try to understand where each other is coming from about the incident, but Person B doesn't want to talk - they want "space and time to think about it" and asks Person A to leave their (Person B's) home. In a week, Person A moves out.
Person A wants to communicate, while Person B wants space. Both want to resolve the issue, but are not living together or seeing each other. Do you think that's the end of the relationship?
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To me, it seems like such a minor issue to break a relationship. Maybe Person A shouldn't have gotten so upset about it in the first place. Although I myself get frustrated over anything unsolicited, advice included, I probably would be mindful that Person B was trying to give advice with good intentions.
On the flip-side, I'm not sure why Person B doesn't want to communicate, exactly how much space and time should they need before willing to work through the issue? Even if it's not to resolve the issue, there should at least be some closure to end the relationship - or do you think there is already sufficient closure?
Until one day. They are both doing a mutually enjoyed activity, though Person A has less experience - Person B, who is more experienced, offers some advice which is contrary to how Person A had gotten used to doing it, but they try the advice anyway and mess up. Person A then gets really frustrated and lashes out, saying something along the lines of, "If I had done it my own way, I wouldn't have messed up." Although, it's not known for sure that Person A doing it their own way would have actually achieved a better result. So Person B gets offended, and a little while later approaches Person A about the incident. Person A says, "I know you're better at this but if I don't ask for advice then I don't want it, I was doing fine until then." Person A gives some kind of glare at Person B while saying this which offends Person B even more. They sleep in separate rooms that night and do separate activities all the next day with no interaction.
The next morning (2 days after the incident), Person A is in the kitchen having breakfast while Person B comes in and asks them, "What are you doing here?" Person A says that they need to talk and try to understand where each other is coming from about the incident, but Person B doesn't want to talk - they want "space and time to think about it" and asks Person A to leave their (Person B's) home. In a week, Person A moves out.
Person A wants to communicate, while Person B wants space. Both want to resolve the issue, but are not living together or seeing each other. Do you think that's the end of the relationship?
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To me, it seems like such a minor issue to break a relationship. Maybe Person A shouldn't have gotten so upset about it in the first place. Although I myself get frustrated over anything unsolicited, advice included, I probably would be mindful that Person B was trying to give advice with good intentions.
On the flip-side, I'm not sure why Person B doesn't want to communicate, exactly how much space and time should they need before willing to work through the issue? Even if it's not to resolve the issue, there should at least be some closure to end the relationship - or do you think there is already sufficient closure?