reprogram my mind?

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how do i reprogram my mind to not want physical touch? i think about the bodies of women and men all day, every day. i already know that I'm severely touch starved. but theres no fix for it for me. so there must be some way to turn off my inherit desire for touch. or am i doomed to this personal hell forever?
 

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If physical touch is that important to you then focus on what you need to do to attain it, whether it be through organic means or not. Is there a reason you don't have a partner? Or not dating? Or whatever it is that you need to do to get that physical touch?

I don't think you can just turn it off especially if it's really, really important to you.

You could always just pay for it as well.
 
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If physical touch is that important to you then focus on what you need to do to attain it, whether it be through organic means or not. Is there a reason you don't have a partner? Or not dating? Or whatever it is that you need to do to get that physical touch?

I don't think you can just turn it off especially if it's really, really important to you.

You could always just pay for it as well.
ive tried all the apps and sites. i feel honesty is the way to go abd ive tried to use that in my profile. but it always ends the same way nothing. no chats no dates no friend meetups. its like im cursed. i dont get it
 

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affirmations is hard for me to do. its hard to Love your self when it seems no one else does.
It is quite difficult to love someone who doesn't love themselves.

If you want others to like/love you, that change starts with YOU. No one else. YOU.

You've written elsewhere you are seeing a therapist. That's a good start. And the more open and honest you are with him/her, the more chance you have of getting the help you need to deal with and improve your self-esteem.

You've stated you are a caretaker. That's very hard work. And it requires that you also take care of yourself. That is very important to both your physical and mental wellbeing. If you can find resources to help with your caretaking, pursue that. Ask for help.

But my friend, simply writing about your negativity about yourself here isn't helping you at all. In fact, it seems to only serve to pull you further and further down into your woe is me, I'm not worthy mindset.

I peeped your pics in your gallery. You seem to have a nice penis and shouldn't have issues hooking up with like-minded folks. But that won't happen if you don't put yourself out there. Make the effort.

And no doubt you'll encounter some folks who are not interested. We all have, and anyone who tries to tell you they haven't is lying. Get your headspace figured out and then get busy getting busy! :)
 

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It is quite difficult to love someone who doesn't love themselves.

If you want others to like/love you, that change starts with YOU. No one else. YOU.

You've written elsewhere you are seeing a therapist. That's a good start. And the more open and honest you are with him/her, the more chance you have of getting the help you need to deal with and improve your self-esteem.

You've stated you are a caretaker. That's very hard work. And it requires that you also take care of yourself. That is very important to both your physical and mental wellbeing. If you can find resources to help with your caretaking, pursue that. Ask for help.

But my friend, simply writing about your negativity about yourself here isn't helping you at all. In fact, it seems to only serve to pull you further and further down into your woe is me, I'm not worthy mindset.

I peeped your pics in your gallery. You seem to have a nice penis and shouldn't have issues hooking up with like-minded folks. But that won't happen if you don't put yourself out there. Make the effort.

And no doubt you'll encounter some folks who are not interested. We all have, and anyone who tries to tell you they haven't is lying. Get your headspace figured out and then get busy getting busy! :)
you are 1000% correct
 
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