My wife is a high-level business exec who is always on call and has to make command decisions all the time. In bed she is very submissive and craves it for me to toss her around and rough her up a little, growling orders at her and overcoming her feigned token resistance. I can tell her to reach back and spread her ass cheeks and pussy lips wider - wider - wider than that! - and every time she'll really try her best to go wider. Her spankings are very powerful experiences for both of us: for me because I get a long devoted show of her gorgeous big round ass upturned and submissively helpless for me to punish, and for her because it lets her surrender totally, because so clearly hits home (lol) that now she ISN'T in control and she isn't making the decisions. She gets off on it more than I do.... There are times when I'd like to play the sub and be roughed-up, but she just can't cope with that sexually.
I have very intense fantasies of being spanked myself - of actually more than that, of being brutally whipped and tortured until I beg for mercy, cry, black out from pain. There have been times in the past when I was alone in the house or on a business trip when I would do my best to spank myself very hard, or whip my own ass with a belt - hard - seeing if I could really hurt myself, bring tears. Really didn't work, both because of the awkward angle and because I was worried about leaving a mark she'd notice. I love the way her ass quivers under my punishment, her little piping cries, and wish yearningly that I could ever have someone else brutally torture me into helplessness the way I need inside.