I actually agree with part of this. Fans shouldn’t bully or harass a show runner or the actors into making a ship canon, and there’s a point where fandom needs to accept that a story isn’t going where they want it to, but I don’t think the responsibility is entirely on the fans either. If a show runner knows a ship has a huge following and continues to play into that ambiguity, make suggestive comments, or tease the possibility of it becoming something more, they can’t be surprised when fans interpret that as encouragement.
That’s why I think Buddie is a little different from your Supernatural example. There’s been enough intentional ambiguity and teasing around Buck and Eddie that I don’t think it’s unreasonable for fans to wonder if the show is actually going somewhere with it. If the answer is ultimately no, OK, but at some point the people running the show have to be clear about that rather than benefiting from the engagement the speculation creates.
And I also think there’s a double standard with canon and shipping. May and Ravi were a fandom ship that became canon within a couple of episodes last season, and nobody acted like fans were “destroying the show” for wanting it. So I don’t think shipping itself is the problem. It’s when fans cross the line into harassment or entitlement. Fans are responsible for how they behave, but creators are responsible for the expectations they’re helping create.
Sorry for the long post. Here’s a picture of than to make up for it.
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