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In three days is the birthday of this girl I have been with the past six months. I still think about her everyday. She left me and went back to her ex. She cheated on him with me and they have got back together. She was honest with me and told me that she couldn't be with me that she could and will not ever probably get over him so I let her go. He hates me of course. I haven't talked to her since that day. It has been three weeks.

So do you think I should call or text her happy birthday or just leave her be?

We had worked together for the past two years up until this happened and she quit. We had hung out before we got together.

Shit still eats me up
 

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If your still friends then by all means send her a card or send a text message.

Something like "Wishing you every happiness on your special day. Happy Birthday"

How could her boyfriend object to that....
 

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Don't do it. I've been through the same thing, and once you stop saying "Happy Birthday" or "Merry Christmas" it's pretty much a done deal after that. Just let it go and dont call or text so you can move on.
 

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Do yourself a favor - don't acknowledge her birthday in any way...
don't text...
don't call...
she's made her choice - let her live with it...
 

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Texting will only re-enter yourself in her life, and cause more hate/discontent between her and her boyfriend.

This is why I haven't tried to talk to her since this went down. Don't want to be the cause for any drama, her being pissed at me will guarantee me never beating that pussy up again. < is that a bad thing to think like that:biggrin1:
 

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cool.....will do, letting it be

Good move, letting it go. I know you wanna call her but she made her choice and since you haven't talked to her in that 3 weeks it would probably ruin her day if she had to deal with those mixed up emotions.
 

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Good move, letting it go. I know you wanna call her but she made her choice and since you haven't talked to her in that 3 weeks it would probably ruin her day if she had to deal with those mixed up emotions.

ruin her day is what I want to do because of the way i feel from being hurt but at the same time don't.

sucks i ever fell for this girl

honestly folks, never felt so strong about someone in my life
 

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Oh man -
I am sorry this happened and that is bothering you. I have been there. The other guys here are right on. DO NOT call or text or e-mail or anything. It is very difficult when something ends but you have to remember that it ENDED. It is over, done, finito, no mas.
I understand why you would want to express a recognition of her, but she does not want that or want to receive that. It is a selfish thing to want to communicate with an ex. I know of what I speak. I wanted to do that with my ex. Thankfully I have sensible friends that kept me in check to avoid complications from doing what I wanted to do and contact the ex. for this or that reason.
I am sorry you are in a spot. I hope you feel better. Take care.
 

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I'm not calling, I repeat, I'm not calling. I talk to her best girl friend everyday and a couple of her other friends and am not going to even mention anything to them that I realize its her birthday.

They may think I forgot, but she won't look at it that way, she knows I know when her birthday is.

I really need something drastic to happen for my mind to come to rest about this girl.

Love blows, I said it, I was and am in love, I dont give a shit
 

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I really need something drastic to happen for my mind to come to rest about this girl.

Love blows, I said it, I was and am in love, I dont give a shit

Trust me, I know exactly what you're going through and yes, it does SUCK.

But it won't last...you just have to keep yourself busy...go out and have as much fun as you can...eventually something (or someone) else will begin to occupy her place in your mind...and your heart...