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I guess this is a topic that could belong in the general Relationships forum... But, I digress.
At the beginning of the semester, I was introduced to another guy at a party and we started hitting it off. We spent a lot of time with each other the week following that party, and I was developing feelings for him. I assumed it was love, but I honestly don't know what that is, so I just built off of that assumption.
Anyway... Five weeks ago, he found himself in a personal situation and he decided that he needed to re-evaluate himself and that we should stop seeing each other. I told him that I would help him out and support him because I care so much about him, and he acknowledged that - but thought it was too much to ask because he couldn't reciprocate those feelings.
I didn't get it at the time... But now I do. Unfortunately, it's been really difficult to get him out of my mind and I really wanted to meet in person to talk about it more and reach closure, but in his opinion we already have because there isn't more to say.
It's just really frustrating for me because while I was getting to know him, I've obviously gotten to know some of his friends, too, who are really pleasant. And while I've seen them (often in passing), they seem to brighten up and say hi to me. I would like to maintain a friendship with them, but... The only thing that seems to be a problem is when I run into him. Well, I haven't actually bumped into him, but I've seen him a couple times and I've felt really awkward and shied away both times. Of course, I didn't say anything to him. It was after I've seen him twice in the course of three days (which is quite often) and felt the same thing both times that I decided to approach him (via text) again, and it went downhill since then.
I make the situation worse by compiling everything that goes on in my head days at a time into one text that probably turns out to be five pages long... And that just calls for desperation on my part and annoyance on his. I realize this, but he isn't interested in being friends any more and I'm having a really hard time getting over that. I think it's mostly because he extended that offer of friendship and now he's declining it... Possibly because of everything I've said in the meantime.
It just sucks because I thought everything was going so well at first... And now I've made it so that nothing will be able to salvage the situation. I know to move on, and I can at least say that I don't have the same feelings that I once did for him, but I just can't get over what I did. I know I can't fix it... And I know that I'm supposed to learn from it, and I think I have... But how do I just move on from the entire situation?
At the beginning of the semester, I was introduced to another guy at a party and we started hitting it off. We spent a lot of time with each other the week following that party, and I was developing feelings for him. I assumed it was love, but I honestly don't know what that is, so I just built off of that assumption.
Anyway... Five weeks ago, he found himself in a personal situation and he decided that he needed to re-evaluate himself and that we should stop seeing each other. I told him that I would help him out and support him because I care so much about him, and he acknowledged that - but thought it was too much to ask because he couldn't reciprocate those feelings.
I didn't get it at the time... But now I do. Unfortunately, it's been really difficult to get him out of my mind and I really wanted to meet in person to talk about it more and reach closure, but in his opinion we already have because there isn't more to say.
It's just really frustrating for me because while I was getting to know him, I've obviously gotten to know some of his friends, too, who are really pleasant. And while I've seen them (often in passing), they seem to brighten up and say hi to me. I would like to maintain a friendship with them, but... The only thing that seems to be a problem is when I run into him. Well, I haven't actually bumped into him, but I've seen him a couple times and I've felt really awkward and shied away both times. Of course, I didn't say anything to him. It was after I've seen him twice in the course of three days (which is quite often) and felt the same thing both times that I decided to approach him (via text) again, and it went downhill since then.
I make the situation worse by compiling everything that goes on in my head days at a time into one text that probably turns out to be five pages long... And that just calls for desperation on my part and annoyance on his. I realize this, but he isn't interested in being friends any more and I'm having a really hard time getting over that. I think it's mostly because he extended that offer of friendship and now he's declining it... Possibly because of everything I've said in the meantime.
It just sucks because I thought everything was going so well at first... And now I've made it so that nothing will be able to salvage the situation. I know to move on, and I can at least say that I don't have the same feelings that I once did for him, but I just can't get over what I did. I know I can't fix it... And I know that I'm supposed to learn from it, and I think I have... But how do I just move on from the entire situation?