So ladies here is my question, comment, concern, complaint, bitch, and request for HELP:
Let me start with some basic background. I'm a 55 y/o male, not hard on the eyes, a true gentleman, caring, giving, extremely sexual, and a pleaser in and out of the bedroom. I have multiple degrees and have had a very successful life although currently caught in a riptide of struggle but slowly overcoming it. I clean, cook, and take care of my little place. I work 40+ hours a week with every weekend off. I make decent money but always looking to improve. I'm fairly well hung and have been in the swinging lifestyle for many years. On the weekends I want to have fun, not always sexual with others or even with the woman I'm with, but open to just simply relaxing and enjoying company. Because of my swinging background and my openness I've allowed and really don't mind if she has sex with other guys. I, until HER, NEVER suffered from insecurities.
So here is the issue that I need help with! I have dated this woman for almost a year. Over the course of that time, she has entered my life for 2-3 weeks at a time only to disappear for a week to 10 days at a time with absolutely NO CONTACT. Her absences have been excused as no signal on her cell to just needing time alone because of so many outside pressures. We both have Apple phones and have 'read receipt' on so seeing she has NOT seen texts or calls in my humble opinion are inexcusable. She clearly is ignoring me I know. She has her "weed card", which is legal here in our state. I, through my due diligence, know she has a fairly checkered past, and know she has a drug issue, alcohol issue, and the inability to be honest and true. I have caught her in several blatant lies but because I really do like her a lot, use to love her unconditionally, and really feel like I need to protect her from herself I have ignored things.
I could go really deep on many issues but I'm sure most readers will get the gist of what I'm getting at. I'm an idiot I know! Most men would have dumped her off the first time she rolled out but I've gotten a "feeling" (Yes I hear the song as well! LOL) that this is where I need and should be. Ladies! If you were her WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I BE DOING, PROVIDING, OFFERING, GIVING?
Thank you all in advance!
Let me start with some basic background. I'm a 55 y/o male, not hard on the eyes, a true gentleman, caring, giving, extremely sexual, and a pleaser in and out of the bedroom. I have multiple degrees and have had a very successful life although currently caught in a riptide of struggle but slowly overcoming it. I clean, cook, and take care of my little place. I work 40+ hours a week with every weekend off. I make decent money but always looking to improve. I'm fairly well hung and have been in the swinging lifestyle for many years. On the weekends I want to have fun, not always sexual with others or even with the woman I'm with, but open to just simply relaxing and enjoying company. Because of my swinging background and my openness I've allowed and really don't mind if she has sex with other guys. I, until HER, NEVER suffered from insecurities.
So here is the issue that I need help with! I have dated this woman for almost a year. Over the course of that time, she has entered my life for 2-3 weeks at a time only to disappear for a week to 10 days at a time with absolutely NO CONTACT. Her absences have been excused as no signal on her cell to just needing time alone because of so many outside pressures. We both have Apple phones and have 'read receipt' on so seeing she has NOT seen texts or calls in my humble opinion are inexcusable. She clearly is ignoring me I know. She has her "weed card", which is legal here in our state. I, through my due diligence, know she has a fairly checkered past, and know she has a drug issue, alcohol issue, and the inability to be honest and true. I have caught her in several blatant lies but because I really do like her a lot, use to love her unconditionally, and really feel like I need to protect her from herself I have ignored things.
I could go really deep on many issues but I'm sure most readers will get the gist of what I'm getting at. I'm an idiot I know! Most men would have dumped her off the first time she rolled out but I've gotten a "feeling" (Yes I hear the song as well! LOL) that this is where I need and should be. Ladies! If you were her WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I BE DOING, PROVIDING, OFFERING, GIVING?
Thank you all in advance!
