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I don't use social media at all. My wife uses it regularly. On the whole, I find it to be a nuisance, primarily because it distracts her from things the rest of the family is doing as a family. I have other complaints about it as well, but that's the big one.
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I use social media to: promote my side business, interact with other massage therapists via groups on FB and LinkedIn, keep up with my friends who perform so I don’t miss a gig in my area, keep up with certain family members such as my mom (this allows the phone calls to be focused), I use Pinterest in a way that isn’t social but rather as an image and link bank which keeps my bookmarks organized, and I use messaging applications.
I use fora as a social outlet in hours others aren’t social, or on days when my pain limits my ability to actually leave my house. It’s also how I discuss things I wouldn’t in real life. Like the convos here.
I use fora as a social outlet in hours others aren’t social, or on days when my pain limits my ability to actually leave my house. It’s also how I discuss things I wouldn’t in real life. Like the convos here.
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How does it impact relationships?
Positives: I go and see people at concerts, I can use messenger to make local and travel plans faster than phone calls, I’ve developed friendships with people in other areas, I’ve developed professional relationships that feed and sustain my needs as a solo practitioner, I keep up with family members I might not bother with (such as my step brother).
Negatives: time management, my tendency to type over picking up a phone, too much info to process.
Positives: I go and see people at concerts, I can use messenger to make local and travel plans faster than phone calls, I’ve developed friendships with people in other areas, I’ve developed professional relationships that feed and sustain my needs as a solo practitioner, I keep up with family members I might not bother with (such as my step brother).
Negatives: time management, my tendency to type over picking up a phone, too much info to process.
I use Pinterest a lot for my business. I use Facebook for family and friends. I never let it interfere with personal relationships.
I have been bombarded with people wishing to engage in more personal relationships through Facebook private chat before. That's creepy, scary and disturbing. I have never tried to contact their wives or significant others because I've been very blunt in communicating my complete distaste for such. But if any would have escalated beyond "I dreamed that we..." I would not have hesitated.
Never used Twitter. That's my husband's thing.
I have been bombarded with people wishing to engage in more personal relationships through Facebook private chat before. That's creepy, scary and disturbing. I have never tried to contact their wives or significant others because I've been very blunt in communicating my complete distaste for such. But if any would have escalated beyond "I dreamed that we..." I would not have hesitated.
Never used Twitter. That's my husband's thing.
I like this question! I have big opinions on social media! 
I use FB a lot. A bit of Instagram, tiny bit of Twitter. It’s mostly a mixture of memes, life and activism. By no means is it an idealistic view of my life. Slices of reality, even the memes. But onto relationships...where I’ve seen it be harmful is when people show disrespect to those they purport to love. I’ve seen posts (thankfully not people I’m close to) refer to spousal units or family as “my idiot so-and-so” and go on to detail some terribly intimate squabble; post pictures of the mess someone made, and not in a funny affectionate way, but to humiliate the person.
I like when I can tell that someone cares deeply about their people. Even the silly stories of missing mops can demonstrate the love people have for each other, just as much as the pictures posted of a steaming cup of coffee waiting by the bed every morning.
The other thing, is the amount of time spent on social media. Bottom line? People have to come first. The biggest compliment I get is when someone tells me that I really listen to them because I never check my phone (even when it’s buzzing and dinging), or looking at my computer. I give you my 100% attention. I wish people would do that for me.
I use FB a lot. A bit of Instagram, tiny bit of Twitter. It’s mostly a mixture of memes, life and activism. By no means is it an idealistic view of my life. Slices of reality, even the memes. But onto relationships...where I’ve seen it be harmful is when people show disrespect to those they purport to love. I’ve seen posts (thankfully not people I’m close to) refer to spousal units or family as “my idiot so-and-so” and go on to detail some terribly intimate squabble; post pictures of the mess someone made, and not in a funny affectionate way, but to humiliate the person.
I like when I can tell that someone cares deeply about their people. Even the silly stories of missing mops can demonstrate the love people have for each other, just as much as the pictures posted of a steaming cup of coffee waiting by the bed every morning.
The other thing, is the amount of time spent on social media. Bottom line? People have to come first. The biggest compliment I get is when someone tells me that I really listen to them because I never check my phone (even when it’s buzzing and dinging), or looking at my computer. I give you my 100% attention. I wish people would do that for me.
I use Facebook and Twitter. I don't have any use for the others. Not really interested in sharing my life one picture or video clip at a time. There are some good and bad aspects to it. I mostly use Facebook to keep in touch with family that is far away. It has allowed me to stay in touch with people I wouldn't normally pick up the phone and talk to. I've seen my cousins kids grow up. We live pretty far apart and don't see each other more than once every 10 years or so. There are a few other cousins I wouldn't normally talk to if I saw them in person, but Facebook allows infrequent, but civil conversation. I have an aunt who has MS. She takes medication to boost her energy. One of the side effects is that she talks almost non-stop from the time she gets up until she goes back to sleep. It's impossible to have a phone conversation with her, so we chat through Facebook instead. Having to type her thoughts out makes her focus instead of the incoherent rambling from one topic to another she does verbally. The bad aspect of it is that some people have to share everything without regards to who it may impact or how it will impact their life. For example - a friend of mine, his brother committed suicide a few years ago. His daughter was in Mexico outside of service range for her phone. No one thought to wait until someone was able to get in touch with her mother so she could have that horrible conversation with her. Instead she found out about her father's death over Facebook. I keep both FB and Twitter at arm's distance. I have just over 100 friends that are family members or lifelong friends. Those who start drama get deleted without warning.
I use Facebook less and less. Inane crap. The personally insulting posts of the broad-brushes. The endless vapid inspirational memes. The endless, "I bet you won't send a like and share for this so-and-so" (you bet right...hope you put money on it). The aforementioned way too personal insulting bickering between spouses. The ads. The "suggested post"s. The notifications that won't stop when you shut them off.
What an exhausting, depressing mess. I'd rather not know.
What an exhausting, depressing mess. I'd rather not know.
I’m a Data Scientist by trade and knew since 2008 that social media was nothing more than a tool for marketing and social manipulation.
People like me take all the information that you have willingly given to the many platforms you have subscribed to. I then analyze it and make sense of it; then, share that information to the people that pay me so they can better understand you, the consumer trends of today, how to better sell products to you, your political affiliations...just about everything.
We didn’t have to go door to door for this information, you gave it all to us without really asking.Social media platforms offer companies, like mine,licenses to analyze all this information.
Individually, your Facebook photos, all the bullshit you post and your opinions don’t mean shit. Collectively, it’s all a fucking big data goldmine.
That being said the only social media I have is an Instagram. It only has one picture, of my cat.
#NoFacebookCrew
#NotIllegalReadTheCopyright
People like me take all the information that you have willingly given to the many platforms you have subscribed to. I then analyze it and make sense of it; then, share that information to the people that pay me so they can better understand you, the consumer trends of today, how to better sell products to you, your political affiliations...just about everything.
We didn’t have to go door to door for this information, you gave it all to us without really asking.Social media platforms offer companies, like mine,licenses to analyze all this information.
Individually, your Facebook photos, all the bullshit you post and your opinions don’t mean shit. Collectively, it’s all a fucking big data goldmine.
That being said the only social media I have is an Instagram. It only has one picture, of my cat.
#NoFacebookCrew
#NotIllegalReadTheCopyright
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Yeah, funny that with all that free political data they couldn't even come close to predicting the 2016 election.
Sure, many were wrong. However read this
https://m.phys.org/news/2017-03-statistician-nate-silversays-conventional-wisdom.html
The Trump campaign employed the services of Cambridge Analytica, and they did their job quite effectively. So effective there’s quite a bit of controversy.
https://www.ft.com/content/e66232e4-a30e-11e7-9e4f-7f5e6a7c98a2
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-donald-trump-quietly-used-big-data-analytics-his-campaign-marr
It’a not about making accurate predictions. It’s about supplying the stats, and making sense of data so the people who need it can effectively plan their next steps.
Silver is lamely trying to defend his predictions. He had a Clinton win at 71% likelihood. He was fucking wrong. It's this ridiculous inability to take a beating like a man and learn that is beyond funny. In one breath he says polls failed to use "intuitive sense" in their probabilities, as if they should divine their conclusions. He then calls their reasoning "ad hoc". Well, yeah, it's ad hoc....it's specifically to determine a fucking winner. Bottom line: he got it wrong. Way wrong. But a statistician will make anything look like anything else, and he's by-god trying....
Using Nate Silver was perhaps a poor choice to assert what I was saying. It's pretty difficult for him to salvage his reputation right now. However the news was dead wrong in saying just because the early polls were wrong that data analytics is just hot air.
If predictions were what we specialized in though, I can tell you id personally put a team together to try and improve betting odds at the Kentucky Derby.
Edit: son of a...https://www.inverse.com/article/31250-jeff-seder-kentucky-derby-horse-genetics-big-data
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Find a date? Possibly. A good match? Fuck no, it's still a crapshoot.
Cheating? Probably. But also easy to catch, as everyone gets lazy and makes stupid mistakes.
Dating? Hell, no. All all I found was a plethora of Nigerian scammers! Didn’t matter what site I used, I had to to beat the scammers off with a stick (wish I could have done that literally - lowlife asshats!). I mean, even LinkedIn! I even had a prewritten report to send to the sites.
Sex? When that was what I was into, sure. Easy. But that was long ago. Cheating, for sure. I would never hook up with an attached person, but most of the (real) men approaching me were attached.
Sex? When that was what I was into, sure. Easy. But that was long ago. Cheating, for sure. I would never hook up with an attached person, but most of the (real) men approaching me were attached.
Social media helps you project yourself the way you want to be seen. The ideal self: as cool, as smart, and as attractive as you can possibly be perceived.
That being said, social media helps you project/express that ideal self to a countless number of people so easily without being barred by the social obstacles of anxiety, insecurity, awkwardness and etc.
People are inherently afraid of loneliness, they yearn for a connection and social media has made making that connection, for those seeking it (whether it is love, friendship, or just sex) a lot easier since regardless of your flaws since you are able to show your ideal self.
Edit: I must add though, when it comes to online dating because it is so easy to project the ideal self it gives a trade-off :having an excess of choices to pick from perhaps making us even pickier.
That being said, social media helps you project/express that ideal self to a countless number of people so easily without being barred by the social obstacles of anxiety, insecurity, awkwardness and etc.
People are inherently afraid of loneliness, they yearn for a connection and social media has made making that connection, for those seeking it (whether it is love, friendship, or just sex) a lot easier since regardless of your flaws since you are able to show your ideal self.
Edit: I must add though, when it comes to online dating because it is so easy to project the ideal self it gives a trade-off :having an excess of choices to pick from perhaps making us even pickier.
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Social media really doesn't have an impact on my relationship. I'm not on Facebook, and only recently downloaded the Instagram app for the sole purpose of following makeup artists. Found some pretty badass nature stuffs to follow too... But I don't post pics of myself and I don't add to the "story" or whatever the fuck that is. That's about it.
He's on Facebook to keep in touch with people he knows who live out of state. I don't pay any mind to what he does, he doesn't hide anything on there from me.
It's just kinda, there for us.
He's on Facebook to keep in touch with people he knows who live out of state. I don't pay any mind to what he does, he doesn't hide anything on there from me.
It's just kinda, there for us.
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