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Social media helps you project yourself the way you want to be seen. The ideal self: as cool, as smart, and as attractive as you can possibly be perceived.

That being said, social media helps you project/express that ideal self to a countless number of people so easily without being barred by the social obstacles of anxiety, insecurity, awkwardness and etc.

People are inherently afraid of loneliness, they yearn for a connection and social media has made making that connection, for those seeking it (whether it is love, friendship, or just sex) a lot easier since regardless of your flaws since you are able to show your ideal self.

Edit: I must add though, when it comes to online dating because it is so easy to project the ideal self it gives a trade-off :having an excess of choices to pick from perhaps making us even pickier.
There it is.....

While you can present yourself better, you have to, because everyone else is doing exactly the same thing.

I see a parallel with the music production business. Decades ago, to break into music you needed a demo. This was done in a professional studio, cost real money, took real time. Then we saw a blitz of inexpensive studio gear, and everyone and his brother became a music producer or cut their own demos and got really bold and cut their own albums.

But music didn't get any better. It got worse, because now you wade through a wave of amateurish crap in search of a gem.
 
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I'm shocked at how many guys try to use facebook and instagram primarily as online dating sites :rolleyes:

Shortly after adding guys I've had married friends ask me "who is this guy and why is he messaging me?". Several made comments about how hot some of my friends and even family were. It creeped me out so much that I purged like half my friends list and blocked the rest from view.

Is that like the first thing guys do when they add a woman on facebook, troll their friends list and posts for hookup opportunities? It's fucking creepy and outright predatory :mad:
 
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I'm shocked at how many guys try to use facebook and instagram primarily as online dating sites :rolleyes:

Shortly after adding guys I've had married friends ask me "who is this guy and why is he messaging me?". Several made comments about how hot some of my friends and even family were. It creeped me out so much that I purged like half my friends list and blocked the rest from view.

Is that like the first thing guys do when they add a woman on facebook, troll their friends list and posts for hookup opportunities? It's fucking creepy and outright predatory :mad:

Don't blame the guys , blame your friends for being hot. LoL I'm just joking. this behaviour isn't right for sure. :oops:o_O:confused:
 

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Thoughts on the follow up question on post #15 ?

It's made things easier for some and harder for others. Some haven't been impacted in a significant way at all.

I don't have any experience meeting people through social media but my outside opinion is that it has perhaps turned dating into more of a game in some ways.

I'm shocked at how many guys try to use facebook and instagram primarily as online dating sites :rolleyes:

Shortly after adding guys I've had married friends ask me "who is this guy and why is he messaging me?". Several made comments about how hot some of my friends and even family were. It creeped me out so much that I purged like half my friends list and blocked the rest from view.

Is that like the first thing guys do when they add a woman on facebook, troll their friends list and posts for hookup opportunities? It's fucking creepy and outright predatory :mad:

Thank you for making me *that* much happier with my decision to not have a Facebook account, or add pics of myself to my Instagram profile.
 

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Yikes, I am so behind the curve...no facebook, no instragram, no twitter, no whatever else is out there. I prefer to do my "socializing" in person. I have the first cell phone I got...it's a flip phone, lol. Seriously. It works well for me. It's all I need.

My husband, on the other hand, is a social media maven...latest I-phone, facebook account, not sure about the other stuff. Right now he's lying on the couch "watching TV"; phone is in the left hand, right hand is frozen in place as he's fallen asleep again. Phone just dinged--he's awake again, lol. Oops, gone under again; until the next ding!

I personally don't get the constant need to be in/on one's phone, but hey, different strokes. It's just not for me.
 
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I tried to find the thread which dealt specifically with facebook, but alas.....

Anyway, over the past 12 months or so I have watched facebook..Mr Zuckerberg defend his organization from one thing to the next concerning data misuse, to high ranking executives blowing the whistle.

The following are my concerns of the future in relation to privacy.

Once upon a time the family photo album was for family. And for those marrying into the family. It was one of those things in which family memories were cherished and protected from outside prying eyes and those who may misuse them.

I get there are "privacy settings" to keep your family history when you post "private" and for family and friends eyes only....here is where I have a wee problem.

Many facebook users signed up 10,12, or more years ago...my children are among them. They were young adults, in various relationships, unmarried or just about to be. They signed a privacy policy.........which no-one if not many ever agree, and facebook changes regularly.

In the years hence marriages take place, children are born...photos dates and full names of births are posted by the proud new parents. Then these photos are resurfaced by facebook through their data collection to reappear on certain celebratory occasions.

Ok....what I find is my Grandchildren, my kids kids, did not sign a privacy statement with facebook with regard to their privacy now, or their future privacy. The data collected by facebook is sold by facebook to advertising corporations, you do not post for free.

Your child's or grandchild's full name, birth date, likes and dislikes throughout their life have become corporation's future customers.

All these future adults need do is fill out a form when joining a site or basically anything, their information from birth to young adult will be available instantly. I find this a very scary prospect for the future generation, the young children now having their precious childhood moments captured and stored in a corporation database for future use of marketing, or other.

I am glad I was given the protection from my mum and dad to at least have the ability to make a decision on my privacy.

Now, young parents are doing it either willingly, or unknowingly, destroying any hope of their child's future will to remain anonymous.

For me, I really do not know how to say this to my sons or daughters what they are risking, because I have lived through or have been born or taught what having a choice of remaining private or not is about.

Why? Because they see facebook as being harmless, I would endanger their freedom to share photos of their children's historical steps..............

It's like that Willy Wonka moment....

It had to do with media too......:)
 
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Social media can give you a good indication on what a person is like.

Example: a self centered person on instagram who only uploads constant pictures of themselves, selfies, etc.

Gay men do this all the time cause they’re single af.
 

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Gay men do this all the time cause they’re single af.
Women will literally do the same thing. It's usually very basic women who have no interests or hobbies at all and are generally very boring.
 
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