Socialising

[SomedoodeMe]

So its not really sex related (well i guess maybe a little down the track it might turn into jt)
So I'm and awkward as fuck person, my question is..
How do you talk to people without being weird or awkward. Like when someone tries to I talk to me and I notice they are trying to converse with me (especially when they're cute or hot) I like shut down. Everything goes blank and I just stare at them and they like ask questions or talk about something and I just you know become a potato or they think I'm a dick either way its not good -.- so how do you talk to people?

 

[nailz]

Talking to people is a simple social skill that you can easily practice

Start off by making a resolution to talk to 3 totally random people every single day.
Ask them directions somewhere, the time.. if it's at a grocery store ask about something they're buying. Make a (non-sexual) comment to your cashier and exchange some small-talk. Do this for a few weeks and you'll be a lot more comfortable having conversations with random people

 

[ronin001]

Deep down I am a shy, private and in many ways anti-social person. Not on LPSG; but in real life .
It takes / took practice. If you have the will and want , to be more social , just try little by little and it will become easier and easier.

You may never become the center of attention ; or the life of the party; but you will be able to maintain a basic conversation with someone / group of people ; and not come off as a dick

Good Luck

 

[deleted3782]

Maybe you could figure out a way to smile, say something like "Thanks for saying hi, just so you know, I'm a complete potato when it comes to meeting people, so please bear with me"...and that would take some of the pressure off you. I think 90% of being a good conversationalist is listening. I'm similar to you, and I keep reminding myself that less (talking on my part) is more. As you get to know the person, it gets so much easier.

 

[SomedoodeMe]

Talking to people is a simple social skill that you can easily practice

Start off by making a resolution to talk to 3 totally random people every single day.
Ask them directions somewhere, the time.. if it's at a grocery store ask about something they're buying. Make a (non-sexual) comment to your cashier and exchange some small-talk. Do this for a few weeks and you'll be a lot more comfortable having conversations with random people

sounds doable haha I'll definitely give it a shot thanks