Does "soft" swinging exist, or is it just a euphemism for 'swinging' in an effort to take away the guilt?
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Sounds boring. You could do that over a webcam and just stay home with your partner.
I thought that it might have meant just part-time swinging or swinging that isn't hardcore.
Your description sounds much like cuckolding.
swinging is a horrible word.
all i get is a mental image of tubby middle aged office workers with their house wives in tow on vacation from ohio mixing and mingling with past expiration date trophy wives pimped out by cuckold'd sugar daddies.
or the club scene - women with plastic tits, botox and facelift scars. men with hip and hair replacements holding off the midlife crisis for another year. and why are they always so tanned?
ml
sos maybe thats a lil mean to say. but ever so true too often. if you're under 25 and female you need a security escort.
all i get is a mental image of tubby middle aged office workers with their house wives in tow on vacation from ohio mixing and mingling with past expiration date trophy wives pimped out by cuckold'd sugar daddies.
or the club scene - women with plastic tits, botox and facelift scars. men with hip and hair replacements holding off the midlife crisis for another year. and why are they always so tanned?
ml
sos maybe thats a lil mean to say. but ever so true too often. if you're under 25 and female you need a security escort.
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I thought "soft swinging" meant oral but no fucking anybody who is not your partner/spouse.
And yeah, swinging just screams ugly basement rooms with faek wood paneling and lots of folks who have no business letting some else see tham naked in a sexual situation.
Which is to say, swinging is fucking people you wouldn't want to meet for a drink.
And yeah, swinging just screams ugly basement rooms with faek wood paneling and lots of folks who have no business letting some else see tham naked in a sexual situation.
Which is to say, swinging is fucking people you wouldn't want to meet for a drink.
I thought it meant same-partner sex. It would be an arousing voyeuristic experience to have sex in front of others, possibly while other couples are having sex while you are. One of the things that has turned me on the most with threesomes in the voyeurism aspect, and I think soft swinging would be arousing and fun, without the emotional issues that can arise from full-on partner swapping.
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Well, this was fairly inconclusive. 
So, soft swinging is either:
1. Mild, part-time swinging
2. Two couples playing with their own partners
3. Stricltly oral sex
So, soft swinging is either:
1. Mild, part-time swinging
2. Two couples playing with their own partners
3. Stricltly oral sex
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With regard to Ms. MickeyLee's entire post: 98% true. That's why those "lifestyle" events are held at second-rate casinos between downtown Las Vegas and Henderson. Proceed with caution.
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Adult Swinging: Soft swinging, convincing arguments, social experience
Adult Swinging: Soft swinging, convincing arguments, social experience
Well, this was fairly inconclusive.
So, soft swinging is either:
1. Mild, part-time swinging
2. Two couples playing with their own partners
3. Stricltly oral sex
soft swinging would be a couple into the scene attending parties, mixers, clubs or functions while remaining sexually exclusive to each other. they might want to engage in sexual activity with other couples in the room.
soft swingers = one part experimental dabblers and one part voyeuristic enthusiast? they'll engage outside play partners to a point. up to or maybe including oral as the limit. girl on girl seems to the gray area on where ya draw the line.
like every kink how ya define ya interest or participation is up to personal limits. ask for clarification before getting involved seems a good way to go. s'all about negotiation.
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I used to date this one dude who had a massive dick! He was six inches soft!!
He didn't swing between his thighs though.. he kinda flopped back and forth on top of them!
He couldn't wear boxers b/c of the swinging motion and hang. He always wore whities and tucked it down.
God I miss him!!! LOL
He didn't swing between his thighs though.. he kinda flopped back and forth on top of them!
He couldn't wear boxers b/c of the swinging motion and hang. He always wore whities and tucked it down.
God I miss him!!! LOL
As someone who has been involved in the "swingers lifestyle" for many years, I have to say that this is a pretty good definition - particulartly the last line regarding negotiation. My current partner and I are what I would describe as "soft swingers." It's mainly to fulfill my need for sex with other women on occasion but we also enjoy having people watch us have sex (I have to admit to some pride in showing off his great big cock!). We've only really played with one other couple (otherwise it's been just the two of us at a club with others watching) and we participate in oral sex and fondling with them but no intercourse with anyone but our respective partners.
In past relationships I've participated in full-swinging which included intercourse with the other couple but only with a condom and not with just anybody.
I've presented workshops on bisexuality at the conventions and have been a member of a local club for over 10 years. I'm not saying that there aren't a fair share of older, overweight, and/or relatively physically unattractive people there, as well as a few botoxed women and a good number who have been surgically enhanced. But there are also a decent number of natural, attractive, intelligent people who are members. It seems pretty much like any other place you may go - there's a little bit of everything.
For any part of a sexually open lifestyle - soft-swing, full-swing, BDSM, etc. - every person (or couple) has their own boundaries so communication is number one. Everything needs to be negotiated up-front so nobody is making assumptions. There are no clear, cut-and-dried limits that will cover everyone.
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