Struggling?

[rope9839]

Picking up on a theme from the Adult Websites forum - There seem to be a lot of the guys that post that like the idea of a woman "struggling" with a penis. Most of these are videos that include much whimpering and elaborate acting jobs.

In real life, have you ever found that you were engaged in a struggle against a penis that you may not win?

I guess this is just a variation on the "is there such a thing as too big" theme, but I was really wondering how often this apparent fantasy of a woman not being able to accomodate a guy's organ actually plays out.

 

[rtg]

Why are you asking? Is it because you want some real life examples for your wank bank? The words you've chosen suggest so... I'm not sure how one could win or lose to a penis... unless you're role playing Game of Thrones or something.

 

[rope9839]

Why are you asking? Is it because you want some real life examples for your wank bank? The words you've chosen suggest so... I'm not sure how one could win or lose to a penis... unless you're role playing Game of Thrones or something.

Actually, I am asking because I noticed how many times it shows up in other posts and the fact is a "struggle" doesn't sound like a turn on to me. I just wondered how often that actually happens. Yes, I am asking how often porn imitates real life. My personal sexual experience is limited to one dick, so it is not a question I can answer myself.

 

[rtg]

Actually, I am asking because I noticed how many times it shows up in other posts and the fact is a "struggle" doesn't sound like a turn on to me. I just wondered how often that actually happens. Yes, I am asking how often porn imitates real life. My personal sexual experience is limited to one dick, so it is not a question I can answer myself.

Ok sorry! So many guys post things in this forum when they are just looking for wanking material lol. So just making sure you weren't before I answered properly.

Well I haven't had that issue to be honest. I've had some big dicks but I don't believe I've had any monster cocks. And I can get quite aroused really easy (providing I like the guy) and i just have the ability to take big cocks it seems.

The only time it's been a struggle would be one of the experiences that I posted about in the bad sex thread in women's issues. This guy wasn't massive but definitely above average, but he just did not know how to use it and kept hurting me.

 

[rope9839]

Ok sorry! So many guys post things in this forum when they are just looking for wanking material lol. So just making sure you weren't before I answered properly.

Well I haven't had that issue to be honest. I've had some big dicks but I don't believe I've had any monster cocks. And I can get quite aroused really easy (providing I like the guy) and i just have the ability to take big cocks it seems.

The only time it's been a struggle would be one of the experiences that I posted about in the bad sex thread in women's issues. This guy wasn't massive but definitely above average, but he just did not know how to use it and kept hurting me.

I've certainly had situations where I should have slowed things down a bit. That probably happened a lot when I was younger and first getting started. That certainly never lead to the pleading and whimpering act I mention.

I have one friend / ex who has told me about sex with a couple of guys significantly larger than me. One I have seen and it is best described as a circus penis. Anyway, she said it wasn't really that big a deal to get them to "fit," you just couldn't do much more than that. Her struggle was to have an orgasm, because they didn't get completely hard, couldn't fuck very hard or she really was at a point that she couldn't contract her muscles as much as she wanted.

Really, I probably posted in the wrong forum. I probably ought to ask some of the straight guys why the idea of making a woman struggle is a turn on. One thing I found about being bigger than average is that is actually makes it really easy to be shitty at sex. When I was younger and not real knowledgable, I was mortified that things I was trying out caused pain or discomfort. I can't imagine making that my goal.

 

[EllieP]

I've never lost a battle, but I've come close to crying "Uncle." I just related our Viagra experience in another forum, and that was probably the worst. He did feel horrible about it afterward and apologized a lot; he still does.

It wasn't a matter of "squeezing him in," it was more of a matter that I was not quite ready. Most of that is in the past, and after 15 years we kind of got this going pretty good.

 

[sweetlucky12]

Yeah I agree with Ellie. I think any struggles I've had was from not being properly warmed up. I'd only been with guys on the small end of the spectrum so when I first started having sex with my husband when we were dating it was a struggle the first two or three times, but I think it was mostly due to not enough forplay and me being nervous about it when the first try wasn't an easy success. About the third or fourth time we did it, I was a little drunk and more relaxed and he went down on me for forever before he stuck it in and it was smooth sailing ever since.

 

[nailz]

This is what came to mind when I read the original post:

That's all, I have nothing constructive to add to this thread

 

[rtg]

I'm not even going to look at your photos.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Picking up on a theme from the Adult Websites forum - There seem to be a lot of the guys that post that like the idea of a woman "struggling" with a penis. Most of these are videos that include much whimpering and elaborate acting jobs.

In real life, have you ever found that you were engaged in a struggle against a penis that you may not win?

I guess this is just a variation on the "is there such a thing as too big" theme, but I was really wondering how often this apparent fantasy of a woman not being able to accomodate a guy's organ actually plays out.

I think it falls in "porn is typically made for the male gaze" territory.
Dudes film this because it gets them, or other Dudes they know, off.

That said, I had one evening where we were not patient and the next day wasn't fun.

 

[rope9839]

I'm not even going to look at your photos.

Such a fine demonstration of restraint on your part. Lol. I hope you don't think I am offended that you are uninterested. I don't think this came off as a veiled "rate my dick" post, so that's all good.

 

[rope9839]

I think it falls in "porn is typically made for the male gaze" territory.
Dudes film this because it gets them, or other Dudes they know, off.

That said, I had one evening where we were not patient and the next day wasn't fun.

I think your response is more in line with real world experiences. Most of the "struggle" stories include some form of regret and don't fall under the "fond memory" or fantasy category. Like I said before, I am kind of mystified by the idea this is a turn on for some, but I guess fantasies vary, so whatever.

 

[rtg]

Such a fine demonstration of restraint on your part. Lol. I hope you don't think I am offended that you are uninterested. I don't think this came off as a veiled "rate my dick" post, so that's all good.

Oh no no.... there was another guy who quoted me and posted a comment saying something like "do you think my big cock would make you struggle". And I reported him for posting in ask a woman lol so the context to my post is missing now.

 

[rope9839]

Oh no no.... there was another guy who quoted me and posted a comment saying something like "do you think my big cock would make you struggle". And I reported him for posting in ask a woman lol so the context to my post is missing now.

Ah, Ok.

I still don't understand the idea that a woman struggling to enjoy sex with you would be a good thing. Maybe he will message me and explain. Then again, maybe I really don't want to know...

 

[rtg]

Ah, Ok.

I still don't understand the idea that a woman struggling to enjoy sex with you would be a good thing. Maybe he will message me and explain. Then again, maybe I really don't want to know...

I think it's just the whole dominance / power thing... like how some men get a kick out of sexually assaulting a woman. I don't understand it either.

 

[TinyPrincess]

IMHO there's no such thing as"too big". I've never had to "struggle" but I'll admit that I had to reposition myself first time with my FB to adjust the angle.