Telling your wife or husband you're bisexual......

[DACinit]

I'm wondering if anyone here has had the experience of telling their SO that they are bisexual. I have no desire, except is fantasy ( I hope she would welcome the fantasy into our play somehow but not with other people) to go outside the marriage. not only do I know this would hurt her that I wanted to do this but also I have no wish to damage our marriage. We love each other very much

last week I left a large dildo in the shower. she was surprised but felt bad that I had hidden in up to this point and accepted it as very normal and fine. I started keeping it and my other, larger dildos in the bathroom cabinet. She was really surprised to see them all and how big they are. overall she is very open about it but has not expressed interest in participating and I don;t want to pressure her. I simply told her she could ask me anything at all and I would be will to discuss anything she might be feeling in detail..

I also came clean about the trans porn and fantasy but have not described in detail what those fantasies are. Now, I'm totally open to do so, tell her about all of my desires but I don;t want to push her n the matter. She is on some medication that really limits her libido and she is often low energy and does not feel for sex. she will let me have it for my sake and when she feels for it she enjoys but lets just say I'm the one with the overactive libido. I'm not embarrassed or afraid to let her know anything. I hope she feels the same way

The point is, I believe I am bisexual because my fantasies involve her with both men and transsexuals, sometimes many of them.

While I am completely open and ready to tell her, I do wonder if it may have negative results. Can anyone offer any insight?

thanks

 

[thongboy]

I'm lucky because my girlfriend is bisexual too. so we can be honest with each other. There's more stress in a relationship when you don't feel that you can be totally honest with a partner you care for.

 

[DACinit]

I can be honest and I will for sure. I'm not so worried about telling her but I am a bit unsure as to how she might feel about it. ie, will she accept that I have the fantasies, will she welcome my sissy dressup fantasy into the mix or not want to see it, etc.... will she feel the natural second guessing that I like men's cocks. This kind of thing. I will of course assure her that she has nothing to worry about and hope that she thinks it's fun or at the least, non threatening

I plan on telling her and I really believe she will be great about it, just wanted to hear anyone's input. I'm not sure If I'll come right out and say hey, do you like my outfit? and enter the room. I think I'll start with some panties for fun. she's not a super sexual person

 

[itscomplex]

I live at a homophobic place and I am tearing myself. When/ how to tell a SO I like it both ways? Ready for a committed relationship, but I fear they might think I am prone to cheating or the like.

 

[JTH9]

my wife and life is awesome...she is pretty sexual...but she wants a man...only chance i have is that she want to try MFM and i have dropped hints along the lines of, you only live once if you want a big boy to service you i am cool with it as long as i am there...the drink and the dark take care of the rest

 

[peepingtom50]

I can be honest and I will for sure. I'm not so worried about telling her but I am a bit unsure as to how she might feel about it. ie, will she accept that I have the fantasies, will she welcome my sissy dressup fantasy into the mix or not want to see it, etc.... will she feel the natural second guessing that I like men's cocks. This kind of thing. I will of course assure her that she has nothing to worry about and hope that she thinks it's fun or at the least, non threatening

I plan on telling her and I really believe she will be great about it, just wanted to hear anyone's input. I'm not sure If I'll come right out and say hey, do you like my outfit? and enter the room. I think I'll start with some panties for fun. she's not a super sexual person

My wife knows I'm bi, even though I have never told her. Rather I do things that make it clear to her. Have done this over time, bits and pieces. We sometimes will watch porn and I make comments about the cocks and cum that are clear. She will often role play for me and I let her know how excited I am when she describes how she's getting fucked and details about their cum. Now it's common for her to role play me cleaning cocks that have just filled her, me cleaning her filled pussy and even me giving one guy a blow job while another fucks her...

So, without actually ever telling her, she knows and has become very understanding of it. We've also talked about having another guy fuck her, but she has no interest in involving others.

Fwiw

 

[Glcboy]

I have never told my wife about my bisexual fantasies but she gave me a prostate massager as a gift. Thinking back it gives a message but I still can't get the courage to tell her I would like to share some cock with her.