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So, I have been looking into a number of social issues and one of the key things that fascinates me is these so called "incels".
For those who aren't familiar, incels are "involutarily celibate". They are often angry young white guys who feel that society has treated them badly; that women in particular bleat on [as one I read had said] about injustices and felt that their white privilege was far from privilege in their own lives. They congregate in groups and forums online; often follow similarly minded men online. They will hate on "chad" types (guys who "have it all"; looks being the main thing) and how they have it so much harder than other more popular guys.
These types are becoming more and more of a problem in society. In recent times we have had at least one shooting in the UK that was directly related to incel culture and many mass shooters in the US could be defined as incel.
My question is what do we do about them? I try to come at it from a compassionate stance and at the same time the lack of responsibility being taken on their side is rather insidious. The belief that women "owe" men something is a widely held on in this community and they spew venom and anger at feminists in particular.
I feel we need to get to the root cause of the whole thing. Boys do not have positive role models any longer. They don't know how to socialise with anyone - particularly women - because the online age has allowed them to essentially live in an online bubble where they don't learn social skills. We need to bring back mentoring, community networks, a sense of belonging and commitment to society IMO. I also suspect that dialling down the "white straight man privilege" rhetoric wouldn't be a bad idea, because many of these young men feel demonised and told that they have a good lot when they aren't seeing it in action.
So, what are your thoughts on incels and what can be done to bring them into - not push them out of - society? Something must change, women are suffering terrible abuse from these people and they themselves are hardly feeling any good about things either.
For those who aren't familiar, incels are "involutarily celibate". They are often angry young white guys who feel that society has treated them badly; that women in particular bleat on [as one I read had said] about injustices and felt that their white privilege was far from privilege in their own lives. They congregate in groups and forums online; often follow similarly minded men online. They will hate on "chad" types (guys who "have it all"; looks being the main thing) and how they have it so much harder than other more popular guys.
These types are becoming more and more of a problem in society. In recent times we have had at least one shooting in the UK that was directly related to incel culture and many mass shooters in the US could be defined as incel.
My question is what do we do about them? I try to come at it from a compassionate stance and at the same time the lack of responsibility being taken on their side is rather insidious. The belief that women "owe" men something is a widely held on in this community and they spew venom and anger at feminists in particular.
I feel we need to get to the root cause of the whole thing. Boys do not have positive role models any longer. They don't know how to socialise with anyone - particularly women - because the online age has allowed them to essentially live in an online bubble where they don't learn social skills. We need to bring back mentoring, community networks, a sense of belonging and commitment to society IMO. I also suspect that dialling down the "white straight man privilege" rhetoric wouldn't be a bad idea, because many of these young men feel demonised and told that they have a good lot when they aren't seeing it in action.
So, what are your thoughts on incels and what can be done to bring them into - not push them out of - society? Something must change, women are suffering terrible abuse from these people and they themselves are hardly feeling any good about things either.