None of these guys need the likes of me to stand up for them, but I need to stand for myself, and all those like me who once upon a time heard nonsense like this from people I looked to as brothers and supporters, and instead found myself hiding from them as much as I hid my same sex attractions from the heterosexual community.
Do not judge others unless you, yourself, are willing to be judged by others.
That particularly applies to other's sexuality. Don't define right and wrong for them, as long as they're coloring within the lines of human decency (consensual adult humans where no one is harmed as part of the sexual act (no one can held accountable for another's infatuations, crushes, love interests, etc., though I believe that decent humans try and mitigate that as well)), then be happy for them. If it rocks your boat and they're willing , watch, participate, or whatever else. Otherwise, leave it alone.
At the end of the day, all of these guys are performers. They're just lucky enough to have made a carrier out of having sex. Though I think if you ever bothered talking to any of them genuinely, you might not think them so lucky. At the end of the day something we all do for enjoyment is what they do for work, and it is still a job, just like we all have. Like us they have to that job whether they're in the mood or not. And they can't be all grumpy at work either, if they're not in mood, as part of their job is making us think that they're enjoying it.
If one of these people does something in one of their performances that doesn't rock you boat, then don't watch. No one is going to fault you. But by the same token don't stand up and start whining like a child about how they shouldn't have done that. You're not their agent, you're not their manager, and you're certainly not them.
I do want to believe that their jobs give them the opportunity to explore and to grow sexually. I would be terrible if they didn't have that opportunity. So why does everyone get all twisted when people are just being people?
