Tips for an amateur bottom

[Linrulz]

Most of my life I've been a top, not only because of my size but also because I have always felt a lot of pain when being a bottom. Thing is now I have a hung vers boyfriend (which I love a lot btw) and I really wanna give him the best of both worlds too. Is there any tips or accessories you suggest to make it easier for me? (no drugs, please)

 

[briacon429]

First question: if you’ve had pain in the past, and your boyfriend is hung, are you sure you can take him? Don’t get me wrong, I love a big dick as much as anyone! But if that’s been a barrier for you in the past, then it’s definitely something to consider.

 

[halcyondays]

You need to train your hole to stretch and relax. I didn't bottom until I was forty. Here's what I did.

I got a set of s/m/l butt plugs, a quart of lube, a lube injector and an enema kit.

I cleaned out, lubed my hole and butt with the injector, lubed the smallest plug and slowly got on it. Gently.

Here's a good tip: to relax your sphincter muscles push like you're defecating. What allows poop out allows toys or cock in.

Stay on the butt plug only as long as comfortable. Might only be a few minutes at first. Gradually increase the amount of time you keep it inserted.

When you get used to the small plug to the point it's not longer painful graduate to the medium plug. Do the same until you can take the large. I took me two weeks of daily practice to get used to it and learn to relax my hole to the point where penetration was pleasurable not painful.

Ever wonder why butt plugs come in a set of s/m/l? This is why. Training .

Your butthole isn't used to being stretched open so much for so long. Once you get used to it it's easier to relax and take toys or cock.

I'm a top who seldom (but loves to) bottom. If I don't bottom for a long time my sphincter muscles tighten up and I have to train all over again but it was much easier to do once I learned how.

Good luck and enjoy it!

 

[btgbtmfl]

I would suggest everything @halcyondays did and definitely play with dildos before the real thing, slowly increasing size to something similar or even a little larger than your bf. It's different when you are the one in control and when someone is pounding you. The larger toy will make you more confident/relaxed that you can take your bf with ease.

 

[thongboy]

A good bottom has learned to relax and will insist on lots of lube. He also has the right to say no to a cock he knows he can't handle — especially an extremely thick one.
But a top has some responsibilities too. I always listen to my bottom when we're fucking. And if I want to go balls deep, I need to angle my cock the right way

 

[PutItInHere691]

if a guy is going to fuck me--or if i am going to fuck him--things need to be done--- you see it in porn where they use small dildos --anal beads----anal plug--to stretch the hole some---

1--rimming fingering toys(with lube)will take and open ass up some---

2--do not let him fuck you until you feel you are ready-- and if you think you are ready--then from the second the head of his dick touches your asshole its all about trust----

3---he gets so far inside you if it doesnt feel slick enough--tell him pull out and lube his dick some more---and lube it all the way down to the base of the shaft--

depends on the length of his penis he may need to do it couple to three times--with my dick its usually 3 times---

4 its best if he slides his dick all the way in--pushes in and pulls on your hips to make sure he is all the way in that way all of yout insides has been opened up as far as his dick has gone--

5 some guys think doggie style is best to enter first as it doesnt hurt as much---- some guys tend to think if you lay on your stomach and him get on top of you you wil be relaxed and the cock will slide in easier

with me i like one of two ways---him laying down and i squat/sit on his dick--this is a proven fact that your asshole relaxes in this position due to haaving to go shit---the muscles in your anus relax so they can work the poop out of your ass--

spooning---you lay on your side facing away from him and he behind you his stomach against your back--lubed up dick of course---and he puts head of his ddick at your hole--your body becomes more relaxed--- letting the dick slide in on its own


6---with me and most guys ive topped--pain it usually going to have--even when a guy screws a girl in her pussy--it will hurt at first---so if it hurts after all this i have said---let him slowly p ump in and out working the lube in as his dick slide in

good luck---
i enjoy the pain at first myself because i knoww soon as he gets inside me and i get used to his dick--i am going to loove him fucking me


GOOD LUCK

 

[halcyondays]

with me i like one of two ways---him laying down and i squat/sit on his dick-

^this--excellent advice. I'm big so at first I'm almost always on my back letting a bottom get on me in his own time even helping prop him up so he doesn't push down too fast or so hard that he injures me or himself.

The first guy I fucked taught me this and even then he got on and off many times (and applied more lube) before he was comfortable enough to take all of me. He hadn't bottomed in a while which is why he was extra tight.

spooning---you lay on your side facing away from him and he behind you his stomach against your back-

^This is the second most common way I get into a guy--especially if the first doesn't work or he tires trying. Lying on his side allows him to relax more than when straddling me trying to slide on. It can make all the difference.

Tons of lube. I use an injector to get it deep. And for me always condoms.

BTW I can tell when I'm with an experienced bottom because he opens quickly no matter what position he's in. As bottom he gets to decide what that position is but that's all about both partners communicating what they want, what's working and what's not.

 

[tomslee2001]

Most of my life I've been a top, not only because of my size but also because I have always felt a lot of pain when being a bottom. Thing is now I have a hung vers boyfriend (which I love a lot btw) and I really wanna give him the best of both worlds too. Is there any tips or accessories you suggest to make it easier for me? (no drugs, please)

Any update? Please post a pic of you two together!