Tips on sex with a tall guy?

[canadian_guy486]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now. We are exclusive and monogamous. I’m very inexperienced in that I’ve only been with 2 other men before him and before him I was always the top. I’ve never had any issues with fucking the guys I’ve been with before, but they were both around the same height as me. I mostly bottom now with him, but the main reason for that is because he’s just so damn tall and I have always found it difficult to top him.

He’s about 6’3” and I’m around 5’7”-5’8”. On occasion he will be in the mood and want me to fuck him and I gladly oblige, but every time it ends up being such a fucking challenge. We’ve tried several different positions, tried one of those wedge pillows, tried the edge of the bed, but the one position that feels best for him is him on his back, with me doing him missionary style. The issue with that though is that his legs are just so big and heavy. I try to hold them up and push them back but I can’t do that while also trying to put my dick in him lol. He will put his legs on my shoulders but I just don’t have the strength to hold them up for more than a minute or two. I end up burning through so much energy just trying to get the initial penetration, and end up getting so frustrated when I can’t get it in that I lose my boner and the mood gets killed.

We once tried doggy with me kind of on top straddling him, and it felt great for me, but he found it very uncomfortable and not enjoyable, so we haven’t tried that since. I’ve tried with him on top of me, which works ok but again, not really that great. So now whenever he wants me to top, I have to tell him I’m not in a topping mood and would rather him fuck me, when the truth is I don’t want to have to go through all of that just to not be able to do it, and then we’re both left disappointed.

Any advice?? Suggestions?? I sometimes watch some amateur porn with shorter guys doing much taller guys and I’m just like how do they do it?? Help please lol.

 

[MeatStickSupreme]

Maybe you could try a lying down doggy style? Your could try lying flat on his front while you climb up top?

 

[Brodie888]

In you are in your circumstance, my suggestion is to pick positions that take your size out of the equation or more specifically his legs, weight and height.

Firstly, you have all of the positions where you lie down and he is on top. Such as cowboy, reverse cowboy, jockey etc:

This can also be done sitting:

If he insists on you doing all the thrusting, then side on positions like this will work. Simply adjust your body position so you are thrusting at an angle that works for him.

On that note, doggy is the same, so you just need to adjust the body position to get the right angle. A good way of figuring that out is to make him do all the thrusting slowly at first then follow the same angle once you know what works for him.

Sometimes guys hate doggy because this position allows too deep a penetration so you end up hitting the back of his rectum. So to prevent this, shorten your stroke or change the angle.

It may also be that you just need to start with slow fucking at first to loosen him up and then once relaxed, you can go for greater number of positions.

 

[Thom Hewson]

That's all fine and well but I would suggest an adaptive device... get a sling! A sex hammock that positions him on his back but has heel rests and provides wide open access for insertion. It's like the male version of an OB GYN bench for a vaginal exam.

I've only been in one once but I believe they also height adjustable so you can go for a ride as well

There are different styles some with a frame some with a cradle and some that accommodate doggie

 

[AugustoFlavi]

I'm 5'7 '' and my husband is 6'5 '', we've been together for 22 years, I'm top and he's bottom and we've never had any problems. Even before I met my husband I had relationships with very tall guys, height is my obsession. I don't understand how trouble fucking a tall one can be. Maybe it's a penis size problem. Mine is 7.4 ''.

 

[Katana76]

If you have stairs in your house or apartment, the stairs are great aids for size differences for many positions. Even the top landing can be used for missionary if the bottom lies on his back and puts legs on the side of the top of the rail and or wall to support the weight. I’m versatile but have huge legs that I don’t want my top to support so I can easily rest them this way.

 

[deleted1074483]

some suggestions;

- as another said, lay him on his front, take push up position over his ass, aim and fuck;-)
- over the side of the bed, if he's very tall he might find it uncomfortable, but that should give you access to fuck him at your dick height/level
- tell him to hold his legs up - just because you're top you don't have to do all the work;-)
- get him to ride you, as heavier and bigger, he can really grind into you then and take a bit of control
- get to the gym and build up your muscles so you can lift his legs over your shoulders and fuck him
- on his side, legs scissored (makes him really tight too)
- spoon fuck him

I've dated guys much bigger physically then me - i'm 5'9 and dated a guy 6'4/5 but then i could lift his legs over my shoulders, and had no particular issue other than in cowboy this 200lb+ guy was too heavy for me to buck under him, but i loved seeing this big muscled guy riding my dick on top of me, plus you can then play with all his assets too.

just have fun, try different things together and don't get too hung up on it - sex should be fun, not complicated or difficult ;-)

 

[Stephenmass]

In you are in your circumstance, my suggestion is to pick positions that take your size out of the equation or more specifically his legs, weight and height.

Firstly, you have all of the positions where you lie down and he is on top. Such as cowboy, reverse cowboy, jockey etc:

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This can also be done sitting:

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If he insists on you doing all the thrusting, then side on positions like this will work. Simply adjust your body position so you are thrusting at an angle that works for him.
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On that note, doggy is the same, so you just need to adjust the body position to get the right angle. A good way of figuring that out is to make him do all the thrusting slowly at first then follow the same angle once you know what works for him.

Sometimes guys hate doggy because this position allows too deep a penetration so you end up hitting the back of his rectum. So to prevent this, shorten your stroke or change the angle.

It may also be that you just need to start with slow fucking at first to loosen him up and then once relaxed, you can go for greater number of positions.

The last one is great is the bottom is a lot taller than you! It also allows for balls deep penetration

 

[theplayerking]

My husband is 6’4”. I usually fuck him with me standing up and with him on his back at the edge of the bed. Essentially a quasI-sling.

 

[Horselover]

That's all fine and well but I would suggest an adaptive device... get a sling! A sex hammock that positions him on his back but has heel rests and provides wide open access for insertion. It's like the male version of an OB GYN bench for a vaginal exam.

I've only been in one once but I believe they also height adjustable so you can go for a ride as well

There are different styles some with a frame some with a cradle and some that accommodate doggie

Good advice from Thom. A solid 4-Post X-frame sling can resolve most any bottom/top height differences and optimize angle of approach with the bottom’s torso upright, horizontal or any angle in-between. A buddy has one with overhead mirror and camera mounts.

Fuck benches are also a good place for tall fellas to get fucked.

 

[deleted16524361]

Padded sawhorse

 

[Badcat]

Is there a reason your bf can't hold his own legs back? Like does he need to work on his flexibility for his legs to be able to go back far enough so he can hold them himself? If you don't want to get a whole sex swing, a thigh sling would work just as well.

 

[cutthefx]

Is there a reason your bf can't hold his own legs back? Like does he need to work on his flexibility for his legs to be able to go back far enough so he can hold them himself? If you don't want to get a whole sex swing, a thigh sling would work just as well.


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Hah! I remember my ex bought this, for his next boyfriend.

 

[Hardfunlongrides]

I’m 5’10”, my tallest ex is 6’8”, and at first it seemed dauntung, since he’s also broad shouldered and heavy rock hard in the the thighs- but we would spend all day in bed learning each others bodies, and how to position, spoon, or cuddle in order for us both to get deeply fucked while being comfortable.
Him on his side with me sliding in was a favorite, but I also climbed that mountain of muscle, him leaning back on his upper back no pillow his legs more easily falling back or wide open, me standing over his glorious marble hard ass, dropping deep into him watching his cock jangle against his belly his cut semi growing harder as I filled him, his precum dripping all over as my 8” dick pumped his tight hole. He loved that my dick was nearly the same exact size as his, he’d grip us both when I faced him astride his thighs and just jack us with our precum, while we kissed and I squeezed his tender nips.
He was this big horny giant, that loved to have me ride his big thick 8.5” dick cowboy style, but his guilty pleasure was getting fucked deep and hard rapid rabbit style by a fearless guy horny and aching to fuck him.
( I Loved feeling his ass tighten up on my fat dick when he came, pulled me in and milked me good.
And laying together entwined or spooning found other positions where we just seemed to slide into place, in the middle of the night Id sink into him, he’d tilt just so or cock his hip, and I’d be slow fucking his hard round ass that broad back a wall in front of me my arm slung across his hip- he loved waking up with my cock inside him pulsing.

 

[6798491]

I need some advice too.
I'm a 5'2" vers top.
I always was a bottom before dating my boyfriend (not by choice, but because my exes were dominant & hypermasculine; they wanted me to be the bottom because I'm short and slim).

I'm polyamorous (I have 3 boyfriends), but my boyfriend in question is over 6 feet tall, slim like myself and is a bottom (who's hung!).
I'm a first time top, who wants to make sure my first time with my boyfriend is the best for both of us.
My cock is uncut & average sized - 4" soft and 7" hard.
I have a bush and I try to shave occassionally.

Are there any tips you guys can share for me, as a first time top?
I lost my virginity at 24 (I'm 26 now), to a Grindr hookup; with my exes, though, I only did oral (I thought I had a UTI at the time, which I later found out was false and never knew for 10 years - so I could have topped that entire time).

So what are some great tips for my first time topping?
My boyfriend and I are both kinky as well, but we haven't acted on our kinks yet (long distance relationship).
I love rough sex, and I'm basically his dom & top, although I am fine with going slower if he prefers.

 

[ani4detal]

funny, i used to get this all the time. 6'4'', 245lbs and I love to bottom! Then I meet a vwe guy and he's 5'10 or under...sling!

 

[AllDixNeedLuv69]

spooning was one way when i was 5ft7 and he wasover 6ft----also i liked it when he would be one his side in spoon position an i would lay on my back with my legs over him...he really fucked me good and fast in that position