Summary: Out of a bad marriage two years ago, found a friends with benefits guy but put that away just over six months ago. I'm ready to begin dating. I am more conservative than wild and am not the type to have one nighters (not that there is anything wrong with that, its just not me). So is there any way to tell what a guy has? When is it or is it ever appropriate to bring it up? What is one to do if you get to that point where you are going to be intimate but it is a disappointment? Wouldn't that be the point of no return? That sounds really harsh, but I am very visual. It seems like it is easy for men if they are a breast lover, its out there for them to see. My fear is a string of oops, I made a mistake.