My boyfriend is a wonderful, amazing, funny, witty, intelligent man who, as it turns out, happens to have an extremely large penis. He and I haven't had sex (together, that is -- neither of us are virgins), but we've talked about it (HIV, STD's, birth control, likes, dislikes, etc.). And we were planning to have some "grown up time" together next weekend. In hindisght, he'd been alluding to his size for awhile, without really telling me. Because men always brag about how BIG theirs is, I assumed he was only making the usual male jokes. And then he sent me a phone picture of his penis. Wow. I don't know his measurements (didn't ask), but after I regained consciousness and we talked about it, he confessed that yes, his girth is roughly the same as the rim on a pop can and his length is about the same as a can of Pringles. He doesn't know why he's that large. He didn't do whatever it is a man does to increase his size. He's talked to a doctor about having the size reduced, but after weighing the risks, ultimately decided it wasn't worth it. He said other women have dumped him because he's "just too big." And I can see how that might happen. If I had seen his penis right away, I would have kept on walking. And if I wasn't already so crazy over everything else about him, I'd probably send him packing too. But since I am crazy over him.... Any advice on handling something that large??? Honestly, I'm a little freaked out here. It doesn't even look like it could be pleasurable; just painful.