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If I take her to dinner/lunch and she is rude to the waitstaff or takes for granted how hard they work, that's a dealbreaker especially if I'm paying. I waited tables in college, so I appreciate their hard work and tip well if I enjoyed my meal.

Also, if I take her out and she's playing with her phone the entire date. I ditched a woman at a restaurant many years ago because of that.
 

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Pshhhh..... Just one???
Being flaky. Showing up late... Not returning calls, etc
Being on the phone...
If almost every story you have starts with :"this person I follow..." Or, "I saw this on Facebook.."..
If I have to hear a list of what you think you're entitled to or deserve, just because you are alive and haven't done anything...
I could go on and on....
 
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My deal breaker is someone who has no respect for anyone or anything, even themselves.
Lack of knowledge.. I can't deal with uneducated people, it irks me majorly.
Constantly talking or texting on the phone when we are on the date. I want your undivided attention..
Person who doesn't know how to have a conversation.. I don't like the yep, nope, or I don't, while shrugging his shoulders.
Being late for the date or asking me to buy furniture for their apartment...yes, this happened to me before on a first date..
Talking about your EX.. Why did you leave in the first place?
 
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My deal breaker is someone who has no respect for anyone or anything, even themselves.
Lack of knowledge.. I can't deal with uneducated people, it irks me majorly.
Constantly talking or texting on the phone when we are on the date. I want your undivided attention..
Person who doesn't know how to have a conversation.. I don't like the yep, nope, or I don't, while shrugging his shoulders.
Being late for the date or asking me to buy furniture for their apartment...yes, this happened to me before on a first date..
Talking about your EX.. Why did you leave in the first place?
I was 20 when I got hitched the first time, so was she, and if we weren't fighting, we were fucking! She seemed to loathe me, and obsess over me. Jealous, insecure, daddy issues, and super controlling..always accusing me of cheating, only to find her with her pants down..
 
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I was 20 when I got hitched the first time, so was she, and if we weren't fighting, we were fucking! She seemed to loathe me, and obsess over me. Jealous, insecure, daddy issues, and super controlling..always accusing me of cheating, only to find her with her pants down..



Oh my...
I Thank you for sharing your story with me.
 

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Dating can be treacherous..and awkward, and so frustrating, am I right? What's your ultimate deal breaker? The one behavior, or personal trait that stops you cold? And turns you completely off?

Compatibility is so complex that it's really amazing people ever really click and connect. But then again when you do, it feels natural. It's hard to make objective rules of attraction because it's really just about chemistry. But I tend to go for confident guys who don't act like they have something to prove. I'm turned off by guys who act like they're really trying to show you what a badass they are. There's something that feels desperate about that.
 

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Due to the fact that I almost exclusively date older white guys, HATE when they vocally fetishize me because I'm black. Have I dated or hooked up with guys who more likely just wanted a young black bf? Probably, but the ones who are extra about it to the point of it being raceplay? HELL NO!
 

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Compatibility is so complex that it's really amazing people ever really click and connect. But then again when you do, it feels natural. It's hard to make objective rules of attraction because it's really just about chemistry. But I tend to go for confident guys who don't act like they have something to prove. I'm turned off by guys who act like they're really trying to show you what a badass they are. There's something that feels desperate about that.
Thank you for your response! More than appearance, I'm attracted to personality. Everything falls into place so easily when the conversation flows, and the easy laughter begins.
 
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Back when we were into swinging (which is as close to dating a married man can get), the one thing we tried to avoid is couples where either one smoked, even if it meant losing some fun opportunities with women who were otherwise attractive. To me, I could see a woman who is super hot and sexy and the minute she lights up, her attractiveness will drop in scale.

Although sometimes it was knowledge not available at the time and thus could not be avoided, but it always resulted in falling arousal levels and not being able to enjoy myself even if she didn't smoke in front of me since cigarette smell lingers on everything. And I mean everything. In fact one of the worst times I had was with one woman who was gorgeous and very sexual but I just couldn't stay hard enough that we could have sex due to her liking to kiss and I couldn't deal with the ashtray breath. I swear I could smell the tobacco even in her pussy when I was down there. Even to this day I wonder if she bought the story I was too tired to keep it up and finish since I didn't want to offend her with the truth.
 

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Back when we were into swinging (which is as close to dating a married man can get), the one thing we tried to avoid is couples where either one smoked, even if it meant losing some fun opportunities with women who were otherwise attractive. To me, I could see a woman who is super hot and sexy and the minute she lights up, her attractiveness will drop in scale.

Although sometimes it was knowledge not available at the time and thus could not be avoided, but it always resulted in falling arousal levels and not being able to enjoy myself even if she didn't smoke in front of me since cigarette smell lingers on everything. And I mean everything. In fact one of the worst times I had was with one woman who was gorgeous and very sexual but I just couldn't stay hard enough that we could have sex due to her liking to kiss and I couldn't deal with the ashtray breath. I swear I could smell the tobacco even in her pussy when I was down there. Even to this day I wonder if she bought the story I was too tired to keep it up and finish since I didn't want to offend her with the truth.
Smoking, or vaping come up often, and I have seen relationships end over this. Thanks for your reply!
 

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Dating can be treacherous..and awkward, and so frustrating, am I right? What's your ultimate deal breaker? The one behavior, or personal trait that stops you cold? And turns you completely off?
Smoking or any tobacco use.
Too wide a political gap
Drinking beyond occasional social drinks.