Are you talking about being a “straight acting” gay? Where for the most part people assume you are straight until you actually come out to them? I guess I can fall into some kind of category like that. The negative impact it’s had on my life is that guys never hit on me or flirted with me ever, because they assumed I was straight. And I’m a pretty passive person so I was never one to initiate anything either. So I struggled with that part of it.